People Don't really care

[MorningGlory]

It isn't up to us to find a food church. It is God's hob to lead you to one. Ask Him to lead you to where He wants to plant you, and where you will bloom and He will lead you there.

Please do not resign yourself to being selfish--that is not something to be proud of. that is something we need to shed when we determine to follow after Jesus Christ. god has instilled in us the desire for marriage and family--that is the norm. It isn't selfish to want these things. However, what we must do is make sure that we are disciples of Jesus Christ and are allowing Him to make us become whole people. When we lay down our desires before God, and seek to follow after Jesus with all our hearts, then God will bring that special someone He has in mind for us. He did that for me.

Matthew 6:33

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

Psalm 37:4

Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you your heart’s desires.

I will be proud of MY selfishness as long as its not a sin to want it. I am REALLY tired of repeating myself but I will do it one more time. I want a wife and a few friends. Several people have told me how selfish that is. Well I assume there are many selfish people on this item then, because I'm betting few people have no one.

In the book of James it tells us NOT to give advice without actions. It gives the example of telling a starving man to "be full" but doing NOTHING to help him do that. That is what the majority of people here have done. They give advice and don't reach out physically. I gave a challenge to the "Christians" on this site to give me certain personal information. Only 1 person has done so. So talk is cheap as I have finally proven. When put to the test, people will NOT back up their words and beliefs with actions. James also said faith WITHOUT works is dead, and when I look around I see LOTS of professed faith and NO works.

You can claim safety is the reason. But what would Jesus do? Jesus would invite me in. He would expect his followers to follow husband example. People love to justify themselves, and I have NO doubt they will continue to do so.

Yes I am proud, but the sins of others in their judgement and advice without love and professions without actions is cheap and those sins right now are far outweigh mine.

This part is for everyone reading this.

It is not my intention to simply keep arguing with all of you. I don't want any if you to feel you need to respond. Don't do it out of obligation. Only respond if you want to, no other reason. I'm sorry this thread is not going the way I had hoped, but I honestly don't think any of you are trying to understand. Many of you HAVE spouses and children and CANNOT understand what insane pain this sort of loneliness can cause. Its like a millionaire trying to comfort a homeless person. MANY of you CANNOT relate to me and that may be why your advice is not well taken. You must walk in my shoes to relate to me.

I guess I haven't been paying attention to the forums lately but let me see if I've got this right. You want people to give you their personal information, without even knowing who you really are? No one with half a brain is going to do that, Taylor. For all we know, you could be a serial killer or identity thief. As for walking in your shoes, I'm a divorced woman with grown children who lives alone and I'm doing just fine. You can't just tell others you need this or that.....you have to make them like you and want to be with you. It's the same deal for everyone and I'll be honest here.....women are NOT attracted to men who are needy, self-centered or who come across as creepy (as in trying to get personal information). Try to turn the focus on the WOMAN you're interested in or the men you want to be friends with. If you converse out in the world the way you do here.......brother, that's not going to get you anywhere. I'm not trying to discourage you, I'm trying to help you.

[OneLight]

From the TOS:

We also strongly discourage giving out personal information such as email addresses, physical addresses and phone numbers on the public boards. Any information given out in private is at your own discretion and risk.

If anyone wishes to discuss their personal life in private, that is their choice. Saying that, I have my town and state to the left of every post I make, as many do. Again, that is a choice.

[Mark2005]

Taylor,

I have walked in your shoes, mate. So if that gives me a different perspective, great.

I understand the pain you are feeling. But the way you are going about venting here is only going to alienate people. Yes, I have met people face-to-face after meeting them online. Sometimes it went OK; most of the time was a big disappointment. It is not right for you to project YOUR expectations onto someone else and then rant if they fail to meet them. If someone falls short in the area of showing hospitality, God can deal with them about that. I've had doors slammed in my face more than once.

Jesus told the rich young ruler to go sell everything he had and give it to the poor. Does that mean each of us should go do that? If he told me the same thing, I'm pretty sure I would have reacted the same way: sorry, no deal, mate. (And I'm actually a very generous person when it comes to giving.)

I said in a previous post that if you were ever in my town, I'd try to make time to meet you and, if I had a spare room, you could stay over. That's true for pretty much anyone here, male or female, single or married. I like meeting new people.

Taylor, please understand this forum CANNOT fill the relationship void in your life. It's a great place to meet people and interchange ideas on a variety of subjects. If you are looking for a spouse, there are far more productive sites (Christian as well as secular) to visit, sites dedicated to connecting men and women who are looking to find someone. Check them out if that is what you are looking for.

Honestly, I would agree with Nebula and some others who have said you are nowhere near ready to be married right now. Don't get discouraged; that doesn't mean it won't ever happen. But the more you remain fixated on it, the harder it will be for you to accomplish that or to enjoy other areas of your life. I've been there. It took me a long time before I rather grudgingly accepted my single status.

I wish you well.

[taylor30]

I told you to send a PM which you haven't done. I NEVER asked anyone to post info publicly. Why are you asking me to.

Because I am hoping you might understand what your demands feel like to other people so that you won't judge us for not meeting them.

Is it fair for me to ask you to post your city and state? Well, several people have their location listed on their profile, and still others mention from time to time what state or country we live in. My state is public. So what do you have to hide?

But you want me to invite you to my home to prove I care. Are you going to ask me to pay for your travel expenses as well to get here? And what would you do should you come here? I don't even have a couch for a guest to sleep on. And besides, I would not let any man other than my Dad or my brother stay over. Yet you demand I invite you over to prove I care?

I can understand and appreciate your loneliness - I've suffered the same. But this isn't the way to form friendships, and this isn't the way to find a girlfriend. As I've been trying to tell you, the best way to find Ms. Right is to first be Mr. Right. Consider this, would you want to date a girl who is dishonest and is a nag? Think hard on this, and then look back through your posts here and ask yourself what image you are presenting to any female here, and then ask yourself if a female would be attracted to this image.

And I'm not asking you to walk a path I haven't walked myself.

WOW. You really read between some lines to give a response like that. As I stated before, I never asked anyone to post anything publicly. Yet you just criticized me for not doing it. I didn't say people HAD to invite me over. I was just curious who was willing to show the self sacrificing love that Jesus demonstrated and commanded. I don't condemn people for not doing EVERYTHING they are commanded by God to do, I just don't like it when people elevate themselves higher than they should. I see a lack of humility on here. NOT trying to be offensive.

[taylor30]

I am writing this because I cannot NICELY respond to many responses on here. I do not expect everyone to suddenly be my friend. In fact only 1 person has taken me up on my offer. I want to write a LONG explanation of what appears to me to be A LOT of reading between lines and accusing me of things I NEVER said. So I will only say I respect your opinions and out of that respect I will not answer posts as I do not wish to be GREATLY insulting or offensive ( as I surely feel like being ). I am very happy for everyone on this site that no one appears to go through the same problems I do. GOD BLESS.

[OneLight]

Since the OP is unwilling to answer any more posts, this thread is now closed.

I am writing this because I cannot NICELY respond to many responses on here. I do not expect everyone to suddenly be my friend. In fact only 1 person has taken me up on my offer. I want to write a LONG explanation of what appears to me to be A LOT of reading between lines and accusing me of things I NEVER said. So I will only say I respect your opinions and out of that respect I will not answer posts as I do not wish to be GREATLY insulting or offensive ( as I surely feel like being ). I am very happy for everyone on this site that no one appears to go through the same problems I do. GOD BLESS.