What is wrong with most 20-30 year old females???

[thunder_bass]

I hope this doesn't open up a can of worms but one of the areas in my life I am struggling with is I am having trouble with girls. It's kinda odd that they say, well good guys don't exist anymore and things like that. When I am this good guy and constantly getting rejected. I don't understand....

[wingnut-]

The problem may be in translation, what may mean one thing to a male means something completely different to a female. Not knowing you personally it's difficult to know for certain where you are hitting snags and why. One hint I can offer is that women like confidence, you have to approach them as a guy who believes in himself if you have any hope. If you're unsure of yourself this could be a problem, remember, they don't know you're nice if they haven't gotten to know you, and first impressions go a long way.

[1peterlight]

This is true, women don't typically want someone who appears unsure of himself or 'weak'. I also hate to say this, being that I am female but it is hard to find a decent girl in the 'world'. Women now are watching jersey shore, and teen mom, and going to bars, and being die hard career women, I don't know where you are looking, but consider where you meet girls. Many girls dont want a nice guy, but a jerk who they feel they can change, why? Because if she changes him then he will forever be in love and devoted to her for changing his world for the better. Girls have strange childhood ideas about love mainly thanks to disney, that guys can't really understand. Pray about it, and dont jump the gun. God bless.

[joi]

As a female I suggest you just be who you are. Concentrate on being in lockstep with our Lord and He will do the rest, when the time is right.

When we put Him first, and than ask in the name of Jesus He is faithful to provide the desires of our heart. Our first desire should be Him..

[thunder_bass]

Thanks folks!!!

[1peterlight]

As a female I suggest you just be who you are. Concentrate on being in lockstep with our Lord and He will do the rest, when the time is right.

When we put Him first, and than ask in the name of Jesus He is faithful to provide the desires of our heart. Our first desire should be Him..

I agree, many hurry and end up with someone who after a few years it is evident they are wrong for eachother. That doesn't mean they all fail, and I think God teaches us in our partner to unconditionally love, often before we have children. But unless you are both on some kind of common ground to begin with(meaning no red flags or constant fighting with eachother) then it's best to wait and pray about it. I vowed when I was very young never to ever cheat on anyone. I just knew I didn't want to do that to someone because I didn't want it done to me. And I had faith God would give me someone who didn't cheat either for being convicted about being faithful. And he did, when I was 15. That may seem young. But I had already had a few boyfriends, and they were all cheaters, young, but still cheaters, I was young and I didn't cheat, and had Michael not come along when he did, I could've went down a bad road, of seeking love from boys who only cared about being young and free and lots of girls, only to regret it later or maybe even marry a cheater. Instead I decided to focus on school and not worry about boys anymore and within no time at all, then came Michael, and it was different from the start. God is listening to you, have faith.

[Littlelambseativy]

Body language speaks louder than words. Watch hers - she is watching yours. Yes, sadly today the young are more interested in the man's finances than they are in a good relationship. TV has done more harm to the young and to the family. Sadly the church has not stepped in to be the guiding force.

With regard to the young women, I have seen more mercenary women than I care to, They all want to have the life of the movies and the jewels that go with it. The housekeeper, private trainer and the like without realizing that it is not reality. As others have said - pray and ask God to lead you to the one who He has chosen for you. If it takes 5, 10 or more years be patient and faithful to the Father and be the kind of man in act and word that would attract the one God has for you. Dress decently (personally I like the casual preppy look- but that shows how outdated I am) and be godly in word and spirit and action.

[angel_uk]

I hope this doesn't open up a can of worms but one of the areas in my life I am struggling with is I am having trouble with girls. It's kinda odd that they say, well good guys don't exist anymore and things like that. When I am this good guy and constantly getting rejected. I don't understand....

Good guys seem pretty rare - good girls do too!

I struggle to find people that I have much in common with as I am pretty old fashioned. Plus there just don't seem to be many believer here. Not in my age group anyway.

I would say to stay true to your values and pray and don't feel like you have to change to suit what other people are looking for.

[missmuffet]

I hope this doesn't open up a can of worms but one of the areas in my life I am struggling with is I am having trouble with girls. It's kinda odd that they say, well good guys don't exist anymore and things like that. When I am this good guy and constantly getting rejected. I don't understand....

I understand what you are saying thunder.I have heard several single males say the same thing as you are saying.My son-in-law said the same thing and was struggling when he met my daughter.He had been praying for quite some time for God to bring a Christian women into his life who truly loved the Lord.My daughter was also saying that it was very hard to find a nice "Christian" man.I prayed for years for my daughter and my daughter prayed for God to send her someone who was a true Christian who could love her unconditionally until they left this Earth.God's prayer was answered and they are very,very happy.So pray alot for God's timing to bring that special person into your life.Be patient God's timing is different than ours.

A good guy looks really nice after being with a bad guy.

[Guest LadyC]

don't think i've seen this pointed out. most girls at that age have such low feelings of self esteem that they don't feel worthy of being loved by a good guy. and along with that low self esteem comes feelings of complete distrust of anyone that "seems" to be a good guy.

but mostly, i think it's simply that at that age, girls are still excited by the bad boy complex. the girls aren't ready to settle down to a tame little life, they want to live just a little on the edge... and the good guys just aren't edgy enough. without that edge, the guy is unattractive to the girl. it's a shame. but it's nothing new.