My Marriage is Over

[Willa]

I know that you are going through the grieving process. Such betrayel is very hard. We can't have a good marriage without trust.

But in today's world with untreatable STDs, especially heppatius C and aides, a person must divorse to protect ones self. My friend's son in law had been seeing a prostitute who notified him she had aides. Her daughter learned that she and her two younger children also had it. Divorse is the only option when your husband had multiple partners and was likely to reoffend.

I admire your courage.

Blessings,

Willa

[alien224]

Sounds like what happened in my marriage. I was married 25 yrs. God bless you sister!

[Coffeespiller87]

aw im so sad for you reading this post. but yeah divorce  seems to be best option in this situation you certainly have Biblical grounds but I would encourage u to seek counseling on this from a pastor

[Marilyn C]

Hi shazza,

 

Glad to meet another Aussie here. Thank you for sharing this part of your journey. My prayers are with you also. This will be a special time where you are close & carried by the Lord. God bless, sister in the Lord.

[jk99]

I am so sorry. this is the worst. My heart goes out to you.

[shazza]

I am so encouraged by the posts here. Thank you so much, its like a virtual hug. I appreciate it to the depths of my heart.

 

Nice to see another Aussie here MarilynC.

 

I have started going to a new church and its been like a breath of fresh air.

[rightontime]

I am sorry to hear of this situation. Beware of pastors who preach that adulterous marriages are God's will. Let the scriptures guide you and not the trends of this wicked and adulterous generation that we live in.

 

1 Corinthians 7:11.

[GodwithacapitalG]

First I would like to recognize and acknowledge how painful this experience must have been for you. I also want to acknowledge the grace and love of God as I am sure he was your best companion and helped you through this the way you needed to be helped. I do want to say that cheating is one of the biggest deal breakers for any couple. Even if the one who was cheated on does not leave physically they still leave mentally and therefore spiritually. The reason why cheating is such a deal breaker is because we all know the nature of love is trust. the foundation of love is trust. When someone cheats they destroy the foundation of love often times. Even though someone cheats a relationship can still be healed and the two people involved can be happy together again. However, this can ONLY be accomplished if the person who cheated does one thing and that is feel authentic remorse. This is what the sinner who truly desires a relationship with God feels. They feel more than conviction ( the voice that says this is wrong ) but they authentically feel like they literally cannot continue to hurt God anymore in this way and therefore desires change. Even if your ex husband was addicted to sex that is no excuse to be unfaithful. All human beings are addicted to something. People are addicted to eating, bodybuilding, hey I know you even know people addicted to playing the victim ( people who can never see how they contributed to doing any wrong in any situation and always run to the idea of how everyone took advantage of them). Mercy! We all addicted to something my friend. However, when we are really remorsefully we desire change and I believe you never felt like your husband truly desired change and that is why you never trusted him. Amazing story! I know you made it out with a stronger relationship with Christ!

[another_poster]

 

I just wanted to share my experiences, its been the most devastating year of my life, however I now am content with my life and God's Grace and His Peace and so grateful I had Him carry me through this. I have 3 wonderful sons who are devoted to me and trying to reconcile their relationship with their dad. At some point in the future I would like the chance to meet a Christian man I can share my life with but just relying on God and his plan for my life.

 

Hugs,

Hi Shazza,

Thanks for sharing. I had the most devastating year of my life with a marriage breakup, death of a couple of people and losing my job. Thankfully I have great support around me. What I do find interesting though is your comment that in the future you would like to find a christian man to share your life with. I personally can't see myself ever being in that kind of relationship again (thought i better say that early to avoid wrong message! ). If you don't mind can you share why you can see that as a possibility in the future? I have had a friend who is a single mother try and convince me to sign up to dating site. Anyway not sure I've asked exactly what I'm wanting to ask but having spent last five minutes trying to think of a better way to phrase it I'm still coming up blank. 

[toloveandtohold]

Thank you for sharing your story. I find it so relatable as my brother is also a recovering addict (under the GreatnessAhead therapy program) and even if he's doing a lot better not than the past 3 years, his wife left him (wife went to Vietnam) and his 2 kids. It was a devastating experience not only for his family but for us. My parents were deeply shattered and our family's reputation was stained. I just hope that his wife realizes everything and start a new chapter with him and heir kids.