The light?

[Guest blank_search]

I am loosing my faith in god and in all religions. I feel like I am doomed to walk alone for the rest of my life. Lately it has gotten really bad, I can

Edited March 27, 2005 by IslandRose

[Gerioke]

Hey man, I know how you feel. I had my first relationship when I was 23. I was shy as well. I wasn't bad looking in my youth but it didn't seem to do me any good.

I can tell you that the best thing that worked for me was making people laugh. women love to laugh. I could be wrong but I believe that is a surefire ice breaker.

I thought I was doomed to perpetual lonliness as well but it turned out that a little patience was all I needed. There are lots of girls out there who are shy as well and only need be approached. I know you're not me but there are some things that are universal. I'm sure you will find desired companionship if you just keep a positive attitude and ask God to send someone for you

Blessings

Gerry

[other one]

search, I don't know what I would have to offer but my prayers for you. I agree with you that everyone needs someone to grow old with. I also think that my Lord is quite capable of giving you what you need to get through this world.

I'll be praying for the Lord to open you up to closer friends and to send that special someone to be with.

*praying*

Don't just sit by and wait for someone to come by, try yourself a few times more.

se

[Guest blank_search]

Meeting other people has got me where I

[Gerioke]

perhaps it's in your approach.

Most people can smell desparation a mile away.

you do not want to appear needy. I would suggest finding a hobby or something that you do well so that your self esteem has a chance to blossom.

be patient

[ayin jade]

The Lord is not a sick god as you think. He cares for you. It is hard to find that someone special in your life. Perhaps you are not ready, perhaps she isnt either. Please get involved with people. Join groups and get to know others. In time, you may just meet someone special.

I was 31, my hubby 35 when we got married. It was a first marriage for both of us. It took us that long to find the right one. Or as is truly the case, it took us that long to be ready for the Lord to bring us together. All in His timing.

[Fiosh]

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Hi Blank Search,

Tell me about yourself. What do you like to do...any interests? What's important to you?

Can I call you something other than "Blank Search" ? :-)

Fiosh

[Matthitjah]

My friend,

I want you to know something. The Word of God works.

Do you know Jesus?

See what I would do is get to know Jesus. Get Saved. I mean really know Jesus. You know how? First get right with God.

Then begin to get to know jesus. The Lord said we would know Him by giving others a drink or visiting someone in jail. By doing so we would be visiting Him. Giving Him a Drink. Helping the Widow.

The Bible say's this;

Isa

[Guest blank_search]

Dr. Luke:

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[nebula]

Hey, young man!

I know your pain. My Junior year of college I found myself alone after all my closest friends transfered - except for my roommate and a guy I had absolutely no interest in whatsoever. Keep in mind that even before this my friends were few, and I had been isolated from my closest friends in many ways. I was a majorly shy person as well. I had never had a boyfriend - just like you only the opposite gender. Likewise, I had no clue what to major in and once majored, still had no clue what to do with it.

I too was a lost drifter.

But in one way I was different. I clung to Jesus in my pain.

You see, blank_search, I've read the Bible over and over, and I've read a common theme - "Though He slay me yet will I trust in Him."

Job went through tragedy after tragedy, and the Lord honored him for blessing the Lord rather than cursing the Lord.

The Israelites in the desert face hardship anfter hardship, but unlike Job they griped and whined and complained and demanded God give them their pleasure. The Lord was displeased with them for their lack of faith.

My heart's desire was to please the Lord. I don't know why He led me through the desert of loneliness. I just know that if I turned my back on the Lord, i'd have nothing.

Dear young man, a girlfriend is not the answer you seek. Despite the joys and pleasures, a relationship has lots of pain. You see, while you are looking for a relationship for the love and support she will give you, she will need love and support as well - and she'll be mad at you when you don't give meet her needs in her way (the whole Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus stuff).

I have a friend who drifted from boyfriend to boyfriend - and she ended up with more pain than when she began dating. She came to believe the phrase:

True love is not finding the right person but being the right person.

Like one of the other men said, no one wants "desperation." Girls are turned off by that.

You need to delight yourself in the Lord, and trust Him. I know it hurts and you want change, but remember that He has you on this path for your good. It may not seem so now, but over time - if you keep your hope in Him - the meaning will find its way to you.

The Lord doesn't want you to make an idol out of having a girlfriend.

Besides, that will only lead you to further pain.