turtletwo Posted June 17, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 35 Topic Count: 1,192 Topics Per Day: 0.19 Content Count: 7,264 Content Per Day: 1.19 Reputation: 15,710 Days Won: 194 Joined: 07/15/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted June 17, 2019 I know someone who just lost her twin babies born at 20 weeks. We thought the second one might pull through (she'd been in the incubator, fighting.) But in the end, Abigail didn't make it. It comes from the Hebrew name אֲבִיגַיִל / אֲבִיגָיִל Avigail, meaning "my father's joy" (alternatively "my father is exultation", or "my father is joy"). I wrote this poem for her tonight. Footprints On My Heart You left your footprints on my heart Although we never met You were a tiny treasure Who I never shall forget I saw a photo of you once Your little parts well formed I couldn't help but love you And it left me strangely warmed Your mouth was like a rosebud Though it barely got to grow Too soon you came, so soon you left We wept to see you go But Heaven is a wondrous place For precious ones like you To bloom where God has planted In the Home He's brought you to. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Who me Posted June 17, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 17 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 3,299 Content Per Day: 1.72 Reputation: 1,685 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/27/2019 Status: Offline Popular Post Share Posted June 17, 2019 there for her, listen to her, let her cry, express your sorrow etc. One big No No do not ask , " How do you feel" everyone will be asking that, find some other way of enquiring. If you are able do something practical, like take a meal round. 2 1 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Who me Posted June 17, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 17 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 3,299 Content Per Day: 1.72 Reputation: 1,685 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/27/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted June 17, 2019 If its the Father, basicly the same. Be there, take him out for a walk, coffe a beer etc 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted June 17, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,991 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,689 Content Per Day: 11.81 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted June 17, 2019 If she is a Christian pray with her. Bring something to eat for the family. Ask if there is anything you can do for her such as housework, laundry etc. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dennis1209 Posted June 17, 2019 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 347 Topics Per Day: 0.13 Content Count: 7,464 Content Per Day: 2.70 Reputation: 5,377 Days Won: 1 Joined: 09/27/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted June 17, 2019 I think most of us have been there with the best of intentions. I can only speak for myself on this matter, as there are so many variables. I've questioned myself if words like "I feel your loss" and such are appropriate; as we can not even imagine their personal grief, loss and pain. Sometimes words can be misunderstood and come out not purveying your intended sympathy and condolences. I myself, when in doubt of what to say from the heart; offer a heart felt hug and tell them I don't have the words to express my sympathy. I have never faced it myself, knowing someone who lost a young baby or child. Most Christians know that children before the age of accountability that pass are with our Lord Jesus. They may not take comfort and take offence in someone who tells them that unless they're a loved one or close. It could be an opportunity to share the love of our Lord and Savior Jesus also. But like I mentioned; I hurt for them also, and sometimes a hug and tears says it all. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DAVID5 Posted June 20, 2019 Group: Mars Hill Followers: 1 Topic Count: 15 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 157 Content Per Day: 0.09 Reputation: 28 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/02/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted June 20, 2019 (edited) THIS IS ONE OF THE HARDEST TRIALS TO GO THRU, ...AMEN Edited December 20, 2019 by DAVID5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reinitin Posted June 21, 2019 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 13 Topic Count: 51 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2,366 Content Per Day: 0.78 Reputation: 2,150 Days Won: 9 Joined: 01/10/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted June 21, 2019 (edited) On 6/17/2019 at 1:38 AM, turtletwo said: I know someone who just lost her twin babies born at 20 weeks. We thought the second one might pull through (she'd been in the incubator, fighting.) But in the end, Abigail didn't make it. It comes from the Hebrew name אֲבִיגַיִל / אֲבִיגָיִל Avigail, meaning "my father's joy" (alternatively "my father is exultation", or "my father is joy"). I wrote this poem for her tonight. Footprints On My Heart You left your footprints on my heart Although we never met You were a tiny treasure Who I never shall forget I saw a photo of you once Your little parts well formed I couldn't help but love you And it left me strangely warmed Your mouth was like a rosebud Though it barely got to grow Too soon you came, so soon you left We wept to see you go But Heaven is a wondrous place For precious ones like you To bloom where God has planted In the Home He's brought you to. Just love her and let her talk if she needs to, grief is a proccess iT has no set time she has to work through it. Just be there for her. If you get really worried. Maybe you can check and see if their are any pastoral grief group work shops in your area and invite her to go with you. Take tissues and hold her hand if she needs it. It really helps to know others are going through the same pain and loss and some how when you are listening to others try to express it or encouraging and comforting them it lessens your own pain. Plus, she will see that the load does lighten when she talks to people far past the loss and that her pain is lightening as she talks to people with a new loss. Regular meetings once a month or once a week can help put some sence of routine or order in her life too. Edited June 21, 2019 by Reinitin Typos 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted June 21, 2019 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 597 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,106 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,840 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted June 21, 2019 I think the best thing to is offer a big hug and just cry along with both of them... Look them in the eye with tears streaming down you cheek and tell them that you are at a total loss for words..... they will understand and love you for it. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sower Posted June 21, 2019 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 14 Topic Count: 32 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 5,247 Content Per Day: 0.97 Reputation: 5,852 Days Won: 1 Joined: 07/09/2009 Status: Offline Share Posted June 21, 2019 Like above. Hold her hand allow silence. Cry together. Share her pain 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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