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14 hours ago, Jude felix said:

Me and a girl. Had lustful desires between us to satisfy each others desires we had sex. The girl is convincing me that even If our intentions were wrong she experienced love. But I definitely feel its lust.. guys should I marry her or even if i marry her will we be a happy couples

I am no expert on this. Fornication is a serious sin. I would suggest you get married, but because of your sin, I think you will have difficulties.

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16 hours ago, Jude felix said:

Me and a girl. Had lustful desires between us to satisfy each others desires we had sex. The girl is convincing me that even If our intentions were wrong she experienced love. But I definitely feel its lust.. guys should I marry her or even if i marry her will we be a happy couples

You have lust but not love for her? Not a good sign for getting married. Trust Jesus for salvation and get to an evangelical church for counseling, for both of you, together and separate.

Thanks for asking.

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17 hours ago, Jude felix said:

Me and a girl. Had lustful desires between us to satisfy each others desires we had sex. The girl is convincing me that even If our intentions were wrong she experienced love. But I definitely feel its lust.. guys should I marry her or even if i marry her will we be a happy couples

The fact that you have to ASK people if you should marry this girl that you only feel lust for is mind-boggling.

You would know beyond a shadow of a doubt if you loved her and wanted to marry her.  You wouldn't have to ask anyone. 

You say you will be a "happy couple".  Based on what?

She thinks it's love and you know it's lust.  What else have you got?  Anything to base a marriage on?

Seek a pastor or older Christian couple and get some counseling and advice.

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On 12/18/2019 at 9:04 PM, Revlori said:

In order to consider marriage, you must be in love.

 Hi all, I suggest that biblically and historically that has not been so.

 

 

 

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On 12/19/2019 at 6:44 AM, other one said:

I can tell you that our long happy marriage had very very little to do with sex.  you can have sex with just about anyone.....   question is, what do you think about her for the other 23 hours and ten minutes a day...    that's what is going to make a good happy marriage.   

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On 12/19/2019 at 6:44 AM, other one said:

the other 23 hours and ten minutes a day.

LOL, ....

But yes the day is longer than the nights or mornings or noons for sure. Sex will not build a marriage, but marriage will build up sex. At some point  a person has to live with their life mate partner and be willing to live for them and to die for them if necessary. That love has nothing to do with sex.

Marriage is a commitment made even before love is realized and brought into focus.  Marriage is far more than warm fuzzies, it is a serious commitment. The young do not know love, nor especially the extent  of the marriage commitment. They can't, for it is born of the experiences within marriage. 

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On 12/19/2019 at 6:44 AM, other one said:

Jude,   I'm 72 years old and as of early July of next year we will have been married for 50 years.....    I can tell you that our long happy marriage had very very little to do with sex.  you can have sex with just about anyone.....   question is, what do you think about her for the other 23 hours and ten minutes a day...    that's what is going to make a good happy marriage.   

you should not have had sex before being married, but that's beside the point now....    but since we don't stone people for that any longer I guess you might have a choice.

So I ask, what do you want to do...   do you want to spend the rest of your life taking care of her.....    Jesus commanded that we love our wives as he loves the church.....   are you willing to let a group of guys beat you half to death and hang you on a tree to die if it is in her best interest....     that's the kind of commitment he commands from us....    and oddly enough not from her...        so think about it....       and if it scares you just know that even at 72 and not that many years left for me I would gladly have guys beat me up and kill me if it would keep her safe....   she does mean that much to me.     Of course they would have to take my AR 15 away from me first if we were at home and the .40 cal if we are out.....    but I'd still die for her in a heart beat.

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This is the best thing ive read all day. Christ was beaten and killed for us that means husbands have to love their wives to this degree. 

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On 12/18/2019 at 11:27 PM, Jude felix said:

Me and a girl. Had lustful desires between us to satisfy each others desires we had sex. The girl is convincing me that even If our intentions were wrong she experienced love. But I definitely feel its lust.. guys should I marry her or even if i marry her will we be a happy couples

Look at everything in your relationship with her before you make that choice. For example is there trust, is communication good, is physical appearance good enough to want to stay with her. Etc.

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