LadyKay Posted January 2, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 12 Topic Count: 385 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 7,692 Content Per Day: 1.93 Reputation: 4,809 Days Won: 3 Joined: 05/28/2013 Status: Offline Author Share Posted January 2, 2020 1 minute ago, Sower said: But then you still kind of wonder why you weren't included." Yeah kind of like that. But I guess it is not really a big deal or anything and I'm not mad or anything. I may find out more on Sunday about it. Maybe the people just showed up at his house on their own? It could just be a misunderstanding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blood Bought 1953 Posted January 2, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 13 Topic Count: 48 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 6,726 Content Per Day: 2.88 Reputation: 6,258 Days Won: 5 Joined: 12/03/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted January 2, 2020 3 minutes ago, LadyKay said: I'm not really mad at anyone about it. I do wish I could have join in with them though. They all seemed so happy. And I didn't say anything about it on FB. But some other people did about not knowing it was going on and not being invited. I would never knowingly do or say anything to make people feel bad. I just wish I could have join in with the fun they were having. But then I am an introvert, and would most likely spent the evening talking to their dog. ? I think the next Major Holiday coming up on the Calendar is “ Ground Hog’s Day”.......Why not throw a big party and conveniently leave out “ you- Know-Who ?” Make it a point to put it on Facebook......just an idea.... 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willa Posted January 2, 2020 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 68 Topic Count: 186 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 14,242 Content Per Day: 3.33 Reputation: 16,653 Days Won: 30 Joined: 08/14/2012 Status: Online Share Posted January 2, 2020 4 minutes ago, LadyKay said: I'm not really mad at anyone about it. I do wish I could have join in with them though. They all seemed so happy. And I didn't say anything about it on FB. But some other people did about not knowing it was going on and not being invited. I would never knowingly do or say anything to make people feel bad. I just wish I could have join in with the fun they were having. But then I am an introvert, and would most likely spent the evening talking to their dog. ? So would I, Kay. Our pastor is and introvert, too. His wife is the extrovert, bubbly and fun. Perhaps the best thing to do is to rejoice with them in your heart that they are enjoying each others company. We are told to rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep. So just be happy for them. Ask God to bless them. A merry heart is good like a medicine. I don't give out advice that I haven't had to struggle to practice. Php 4:7 AMP And God's peace [shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace] which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Php 4:8 For the rest, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them]. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted January 2, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,991 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,689 Content Per Day: 11.81 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted January 2, 2020 3 hours ago, LadyKay said: Just asking here. If your pastor and his wife hosted a New Years Eve gathering/get together at his house and then posted the photos to his facebook page of all the fun they had and you were not invited. Would you feel left out? Some people said somethings and the reply that was given was that they weren't leaving anyone out and told us to come next year. But it seems only the people who where there know about it. So.....it dose seem like some people were being left out. Well how do you all feel about this? I'm not really sure how I feel. I mean he can't invite the whole church to come to his house. But then you still kind of wonder why you weren't included. Well...thoughts?? One of the problems I had with attending a Church was the cliques. If they posted the pictures on facebook and you were not there then.....yes, you were left out. Why would they say that you were not? Why were some invited and some were not? That is the question I would want answered. That is true he probably did not have a big enough house for everyone but does your Church have a large gathering place? If he could not invite everyone then he should not have invited anyone at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aimes Posted January 2, 2020 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 26 Topic Count: 35 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 6,734 Content Per Day: 2.77 Reputation: 8,345 Days Won: 21 Joined: 08/29/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted January 2, 2020 4 hours ago, LadyKay said: Just asking here. If your pastor and his wife hosted a New Years Eve gathering/get together at his house and then posted the photos to his facebook page of all the fun they had and you were not invited. Would you feel left out? Some people said somethings and the reply that was given was that they weren't leaving anyone out and told us to come next year. But it seems only the people who where there know about it. So.....it dose seem like some people were being left out. Well how do you all feel about this? I'm not really sure how I feel. I mean he can't invite the whole church to come to his house. But then you still kind of wonder why you weren't included. Well...thoughts?? As others have said, it really depends. If it was a private party for just his personal friends and not for the church body, then no, you weren’t left out (unless you’re a close friend of his); but the photos probably shouldn’t be posted to the church fb page and just to his personal profile. If it was part of the church, friends and church attendees alike, then I think I’d feel a little left out. I’m odd though, I don’t like big groups of people (like small gatherings much better), so at the same time I was feeling left out I’d be reminding myself that I wouldn’t have gone anyway lol 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heybro Posted January 2, 2020 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 19 Topic Count: 12 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,360 Content Per Day: 0.66 Reputation: 2,139 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/03/2018 Status: Offline Share Posted January 2, 2020 IMO, if there was to be a gathering together and everyone was invited, I personally would have held it at the church, not at his house, limited space, there would be room for everyone to join in, just saying, God bless. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladypeartree Posted January 2, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 37 Topic Count: 539 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 32,758 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 23,420 Days Won: 221 Joined: 06/21/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/23/1953 Share Posted January 2, 2020 You are feeling down as so many are at this time of year but sorry you were NOT left out and if you needed company you could have invited others who may also have been feeling alone so pull those big girls panties up and rejoice that some like crowds ands others ( myself included ) like to be more in the background xxxxx Oh and ignore BB he is feeling sad cos his best buddy has left him ( even more sad that his best buddy was a rodent ) 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted January 2, 2020 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 952 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,568 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,047 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Online Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted January 2, 2020 6 hours ago, LadyKay said: But then I am an introvert, and would most likely spent the evening talking to their dog. ? Great one! Me too. I could share such stories of even when invited, it is like oh here is the kids table over here please don't spill your milk. LOL I worked for a pastor and eleven other elders, twelve deacons, twelve deaconess. Think I didn't feel slighted often, ha. But praise God for them all. They work mightily sharing as best they can, so very often to deep personal sacrifice and real trauma, all for our Lord and savior Jesus as they try to do all that they do for the glory of God alone. There is choice to be made. If you were to invite people yourself where would you end your own list? As to facebook I don't think facebook serves well anyway. But it is here. Most everyone I suspect can be ( and is ) affronted by what is posted on it no matter the subject or occasion. I refuse so far to sign up. And I miss some of what church(es) puts on their face book entries. Oh well, the price I pay is the price I pay. I will not so far cave into being a member on facebook. May God lift your spirit high today. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted January 2, 2020 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 952 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,568 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,047 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Online Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted January 2, 2020 6 hours ago, LadyKay said: I may find out more on Sunday about it. Oh please don't do that. Don't ask don't seek. Just pray one for another. If you find being an introvert is hampering what you may desire in the way of social company then this Sunday pray and seek out some service to our Lord opportunity that you will take, make your own leap in faith by joining it. That is my thought, and is btw what I had to do for my own encouragement. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
miaandme Posted January 2, 2020 Group: Members Followers: 2 Topic Count: 8 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 67 Content Per Day: 0.04 Reputation: 64 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/30/2019 Status: Offline Birthday: 06/12/1968 Share Posted January 2, 2020 (edited) I don't ring in the new year with anyone anymore as I find its more a Holiday with people that want to drink and well I have had some problems with drinking like too much at times. I rather sleep. So I don't feel left out as I know my meds will put me right to sleep. I wish people would realize we ring in the new year no matter where we are. Happy new year by the way. Quote Edited January 2, 2020 by miaandme trying to take out the quote part unable to do so Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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