What happens post adultery to willful participant

[Logostician]

A willful partipant in adultery should seek forgiveness from God and the spouse he/she cheated on.

The faithful spouse who is the victim of the adulterous spouse should seek healing and guidance from God.  The faithful spouse may rightfully seek divorce over the broken marriage contract.  But he/she could also seek reconciliation.  The decision rightly belongs to the faithful spouse, whether that's the husband or the wife.

God forgives and God heals, but adultery leaves permanent scars in marriage, even if it doesn't end in divorce.  The trust will be lost.  And trust is a big part of love.

 

[missmuffet]

On 5/25/2020 at 3:39 PM, wombat said:

What happens post adultery to willful participant? 

What have you noticed or seen in your life, work, or church to a  Christian who committed adultery intentionally.   Im the exspouse of the accused. 

 

Thanks

 

God has it. That is all I can say. 

[wombat]

I admire the woman who prayed for her husband to return and he did so 14 years later. God bless them.

No one can judge someones heart, except God. Only God will determine the punishment if any for her sinful (in my eyes)  actions and decisions. I may never know if any financial, health, emotional or other troubles that befall her are directly attributed to her adultery. So my question maybe is wrong. My concern is our children as I prayed for the parties involed to repent and they have not. So God's judgement is fine with me if He is so inclined. 

 

 In due time I want the children to know the truth and know that sinning is not profitable. 

 

[BeauJangles]

8 minutes ago, wombat said:

 In due time I want the children to know the truth and know that sinning is not profitable.

Pray for the proper timing and exactly what the Lord would want you to share. God is merciful. We also need to express His compassion with others, but especially your children. She is their mother after all. 

[Coliseum]

10 hours ago, Logostician said:

God forgives and God heals, but adultery leaves permanent scars in marriage, even if it doesn't end in divorce.  The trust will be lost.  And trust is a big part of love.

I must respectfully disagree. If the trust is dependent upon God, it not only can be restored, but ultimately flourish. I have witnessed this on three occasions. If our trusting in someone is based upon our own standards, it will fail. But "Love never fails" if it is based upon God's. The wounds that Jesus' body bore were there as scars when he returned. Thomas touched them and believed.  Those scars were left on his perfect body for all to see. His scars represent what our scars look like when we overcome the deep wounds in our lives. Jesus uses everyone of them to bring us closer to him and into the kingdom of heaven. Many people have been afflicted in order to make them more fully dependent upon Jesus, and in their own weakness made stronger and complete in Him.

[leah777]

1 hour ago, wombat said:

 In due time I want the children to know the truth and know that sinning is not profitable

She is their mother. Be careful how you handle this. The love between a child and mother is valuable to their well-being, perhaps you will wait until adulthood before saying anything. The risk of setting child against mother is a heavy one, risking serious harm to even adult children.

Forgiveness, and leaving her actions between her and God is wise.

Think of why you want them to know. You can teach about sin without specifying their mother.

Children will feel torn in their heart if you tell them.

[Coliseum]

1 hour ago, wombat said:

I admire the woman who prayed for her husband to return and he did so 14 years later. God bless them.

No one can judge someones heart, except God. Only God will determine the punishment if any for her sinful (in my eyes)  actions and decisions. I may never know if any financial, health, emotional or other troubles that befall her are directly attributed to her adultery. So my question maybe is wrong. My concern is our children as I prayed for the parties involed to repent and they have not. So God's judgement is fine with me if He is so inclined. 

 

 In due time I want the children to know the truth and know that sinning is not profitable. 

 

She never committed adultery. Her husband simply left her. She was betrayed, yet neither committed any sexual sins. She was left abandoned with six children, but remained in prayer for 14 years. How many would do that. I knew her. She strengthened many who watched in real time how she survived day by day. When she was sick, some of us came and helped with food. But what was beautiful is that she once shared with me that though she was waiting for her husband to return, her real Husband never abandoned her!