Having a hard time with my break up

[Figure of eighty]

Its only been 1 day and i feel really depressed. Im so tempted to drive over to his house and apologize and what not but a part of me knows.. 

 

I did the the right thing as.. 

He would compliment girls infront of me. He told one girl that her hair looked better than mine. 

He drinks and smokes 

I always had to pick him up..but he did pay for dinner whenever we went out and put gas in my car..but still. 

I know i did the right thing but i feel incredibly lonely. I dont have friends i can hangout with to fill this void ( i try to make friends but nothing ever sticks idk why) and my family is broken. Idk i just try to take my baby out places but i feel bad being alone in public.

Like i was going to go to another store to look around but i felt depression hit me and went home. 

 

 

I just feel really alone right now.

[leah777]

It's going to take time. Be gentle with yourself. Focus on scripture, the Psalms are a good idea.

You can do this. Think about why you broke up. It wasn't about him, or how he behaved. It is about Jesus, and your relationship with God.

This will pass.

[Aimes]

28 minutes ago, Figure of eighty said:

Its only been 1 day and i feel really depressed. Im so tempted to drive over to his house and apologize and what not but a part of me knows.. 

 

I did the the right thing as.. 

He would compliment girls infront of me. He told one girl that her hair looked better than mine. 

He drinks and smokes 

I always had to pick him up..but he did pay for dinner whenever we went out and put gas in my car..but still. 

I know i did the right thing but i feel incredibly lonely. I dont have friends i can hangout with to fill this void ( i try to make friends but nothing ever sticks idk why) and my family is broken. Idk i just try to take my baby out places but i feel bad being alone in public.

Like i was going to go to another store to look around but i felt depression hit me and went home. 

 

 

I just feel really alone right now.

It's going to take a bit to heal from it. Even though you're the one who broke up with him, your feelings are very real, and our hearts take time to recover. Give yourself time to grieve the loss of the relationship. Ask the Lord to help you. Remind yourself often that you deserve better (you're the daughter of the King after all). Look at this time (however long it is) as time for you to grow in your relationship with the Lord and to be there for your little one. I know what it is to feel very lonely and to have that pain convince you to make decisions that you will regret later on (like your feelings to go and apologize to him, etc). Loneliness is not an easy thing to deal with but I promise you it's a better than being with someone who doesn't truly value you/respect you. Don't settle for less than you deserve, it may ease the pain you feel for a moment but in the end it only leads to a greater ache. Praying for you. 

[Figure of eighty]

20 minutes ago, Aimes said:

It's going to take a bit to heal from it. Even though you're the one who broke up with him, your feelings are very real, and our hearts take time to recover. Give yourself time to grieve the loss of the relationship. Ask the Lord to help you. Remind yourself often that you deserve better (you're the daughter of the King after all). Look at this time (however long it is) as time for you to grow in your relationship with the Lord and to be there for your little one. I know what it is to feel very lonely and to have that pain convince you to make decisions that you will regret later on (like your feelings to go and apologize to him, etc). Loneliness is not an easy thing to deal with but I promise you it's a better than being with someone who doesn't truly value you/respect you. Don't settle for less than you deserve, it may ease the pain you feel for a moment but in the end it only leads to a greater ache. Praying for you. 

Its not easy to deal with. Especially when he made me feel seen and heard when  i feel invisible any other time. 

 

Idk i do think loneliness is just my cross to bear.

[Wayne222]

2 minutes ago, Figure of eighty said:

Its not easy to deal with. Especially when he made me feel seen and heard when  i feel invisible any other time. 

 

Idk i do think loneliness is just my cross to bear.

Sorry you feel loneliness. It's not a good feeling.  In time God will bring someone and friends also. Like he knows your whole life and every bit of it. Wait on him and you will see. But Jesus is your number one friend. There no better friend then our king. He is near to us everyday. Give it time. Spend a lot of time reading the word. 

[Figure of eighty]

18 minutes ago, Wayne222 said:

Sorry you feel loneliness. It's not a good feeling.  In time God will bring someone and friends also. Like he knows your whole life and every bit of it. Wait on him and you will see. But Jesus is your number one friend. There no better friend then our king. He is near to us everyday. Give it time. Spend a lot of time reading the word. 

I really feel i might go back to him. Ive been praying for friends for years and im still alone.

Edited August 8, 2020 by Figure of eighty

[Sower]

24 minutes ago, Figure of eighty said:

I really feel i might go back to him.

Perhaps God is helping you decide. Listen to Him....

Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding
In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.

Give it (your decision) to God...

Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart:
wait, I say, on the LORD.
 

[Figure of eighty]

1 minute ago, Sower said:

Perhaps God is helping you decide. Listen to Him....

Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding
In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.

Give it (your decision) to God...

 

Wdym? Are you saying me going back to him is Gods will?

[Sower]

8 minutes ago, Figure of eighty said:

Wdym? Are you saying me going back to him is Gods will?

No!
You said;   "I really feel i might go back to him"

I am saying to tell God you need His help deciding.
Do not trust your own understanding, tell God your thoughts.
Allow Him to impress upon your thoughts His directions....
(He knows a lot more than we do.... )

[Figure of eighty]

22 minutes ago, Sower said:

No!
You said;   "I really feel i might go back to him"

I am saying to tell God you need His help deciding.
Do not trust your own understanding, tell God your thoughts.
Allow Him to impress upon your thoughts His directions....
(He knows a lot more than we do.... )

Oh ok. Just have to take it one day at a time. 

 

I feel incredibly lonely and broken. He was the only one planning something for my birthday. I never do anything for it. 

 

I really just want to settle and go back.

Edited August 8, 2020 by Figure of eighty