My mom took money from me without me knowing

[Sower]

4 hours ago, BeauJangles said:

Sounds about right to me. My former missus' boys were a bunch of opportunistic freeloaders and leeched every thing off of us they could manage. The oldest, who had the most going for him educationally speaking, had one good paying job after another, and would quit after about 6 months, complaining it was too much pressure. He'd move back and do nothing. Never contributed a cent or would help out with chores or responsibilities. I gave him everything. A good running automobile, in great shape to come and go and use for work, school, personal entertainment with friends. He never once offered anything in return. I finally got sick and tired of the ingratitude and booted him right out of the door!

My wife and I helped our kids get started, only helping them with that little extra
for the money they saved to buy a car, or college, or a place to stay.
They all moved out to be on their own before 18-19 yr old. Each married within a few years.
All had jobs part time jobs before high school, and saving the money for their needs.
They soon found it difficult to part with a hard earned paycheck.
We taught them how to be prepared, in becoming an independent working adult.
We raised our kids on the cookie jar principal.  It wasn't hard. It was expedient.
 

[BeauJangles]

18 minutes ago, Sower said:

My wife and I helped our kids get started, only helping them with that little extra
for the money they saved to buy a car, or college, or a place to stay.
They all moved out to be on their own before 18-19 yr old. Each married within a few years.
All had jobs part time jobs before high school, and saving the money for their needs.
They soon found it difficult to part with a hard earned paycheck.
We taught them how to be prepared, in becoming an independent working adult.
We raised our kids on the cookie jar principal.  It wasn't hard. It was expedient.
 

I'm glad everything turned out so well for you. Here was my situation as a "stand-in father". I could merely attempt to undo the damage done to these three hellion boys whose father was an alcoholic foremost and a methamphetamine addict secondarily. He was also a "dead-beat dad", never paid court ordered child and/or spousal support, took them on weekends partying with his buddies, broke continual promises to his boys about doing things with them personally, and their mother grappled at trying to make up for their lousy father and try to compensate by overly "mothering" them far beyond the age of usual need. I did the best I could to set the godly example, took them to Disneyland instead of their dad who promised that and broke it. We attended church but the kids misbehaved horribly during services and caused needless disruptions and making a ruckus. I believe in a certain aspect of corporal punishment, but believed their father should administer that sort of thing and not me being the ages they were when me and for former missus (God rest her soul) became wed. (6-8-12) So, you see, I was between a rock and a hard place on that. Still, I did the best under the circumstances.