Catholic baptism

[Thewhitedove]

I'm married with two children. Husband is a non believer raised in Catholicism and both our children were baptised into the Catholic faith before I got saved. It's just tradition where I live. Everyone gets their baby baptised no matter their true beliefs.

Husband was always adamant that we were finished having children. I always prayed that if it was God's will for me to have another baby, the idea would come from my husband. 

To my utter shock, my husband has said that he would actually like to try for another. I was delighted by the idea until I realised that there would be immense pressure from our families to have the baby baptised in the Carholic church.

To not do so would create immense family discord. My husband said that he isnt risking a family fall out over something so silly and that the baptism is the least of his worries. My husband thinks all religion is made up nonsense so it doesnt bother him to go through the motions to appease his family. He doesnt understand why it would be an issue for me. My family and in laws have zero interest in what the Bible says so no point showing them the Scripture. I dont feel strong enough to fight against everyone on this and know it would ruin my entire pregnancy, should I conceive.

I feel like my only option is to not try for another baby to save myself the enormous stress of not baptising the baby in the Catholic faith.

Fwiw: if I could find away around it, or some way to compromise I would, but cant think of anything. 

[Justin Adams]

Do what the Lord would like. Would He like another soul to save? Who cares about the window dressing and the 'religion'.

You as the believer sanctify your family. Does not matter what others say, what God says is what counts.

Edited April 18, 2021 by Justin Adams

[David1701]

23 minutes ago, Thewhitedove said:

I'm married with two children. Husband is a non believer raised in Catholicism and both our children were baptised into the Catholic faith before I got saved. It's just tradition where I live. Everyone gets their baby baptised no matter their true beliefs.

Husband was always adamant that we were finished having children. I always prayed that if it was God's will for me to have another baby, the idea would come from my husband. 

To my utter shock, my husband has said that he would actually like to try for another. I was delighted by the idea until I realised that there would be immense pressure from our families to have the baby baptised in the Carholic church.

To not do so would create immense family discord. My husband said that he isnt risking a family fall out over something so silly and that the baptism is the least of his worries. My husband thinks all religion is made up nonsense so it doesnt bother him to go through the motions to appease his family. He doesnt understand why it would be an issue for me. My family and in laws have zero interest in what the Bible says so no point showing them the Scripture. I dont feel strong enough to fight against everyone on this and know it would ruin my entire pregnancy, should I conceive.

I feel like my only option is to not try for another baby to save myself the enormous stress of not baptising the baby in the Catholic faith.

Fwiw: if I could find away around it, or some way to compromise I would, but cant think of anything. 

It is God's will that matters.  He is King of kings and Lord of lords; so ask him, in prayer, to show you, in a way that you will understand, what his will is, then do it.  He will always give the grace that is needed to do his will.

[Hopefully]

This is a really tough question. I have been thinking about it and on one hand if it were me I’d refuse the catholic baptism thinking they can’t stay mad with you forever because if the did it’s not Godly, but neither is forcing baptism or anything spiritual for that matter.

On the other hand I thought have your baby and avoid the conflict knowing “People can plan what they want to do, but it is the Lord who guides their steps.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭16:9‬ ‭
 

You could always say your own prayer in your mind as they are saying theirs speaking to God about what you really want for your baby knowing he hears you.

Maybe something like Our Father who art in heaven hear my voice over these. I do not agree with their ways. Bless my baby today and guide his/her steps that he/she will find their way to Jesus  through truth and spirit. In the name of Jesus I block any false spiritual attachments on my baby that may arise from this ceremony yes they are null and void. Etc. 

I would also like to say I have never seen or been to a catholic baby baptism, so I don’t know the dynamics but just wanted to share my thoughts. 
 

 

 

[Who me]

On 4/18/2021 at 1:50 PM, Thewhitedove said:

feel like my only option is to not try for another baby to save myself the enormous stress of not baptising the baby in the Catholic faith

 

Fight the battles that are important. Getting stressed over a superstition won't help you or your children.

 

What is important is that your husband regularly attends a church where there is Bible centered preaching and a good number of Christian men doing practice things around the church and that his family also attends family services at Christmas, Easter etc where they will here the gospel.

If need be let them know that the ' christening' is only superstition done to minimise family friction.

 

Questions to ask your husband.

Just what do you believe?

What evidence do you have for that belief?

The aim is to get people to know what and why they do or don't believe and for most unbelievers it is laziness.

 

[Whyme]

Its your baby not your families. I say do what you think is right.

[missmuffet]

On 4/18/2021 at 5:50 AM, Thewhitedove said:

I'm married with two children. Husband is a non believer raised in Catholicism and both our children were baptised into the Catholic faith before I got saved. It's just tradition where I live. Everyone gets their baby baptised no matter their true beliefs.

Husband was always adamant that we were finished having children. I always prayed that if it was God's will for me to have another baby, the idea would come from my husband. 

To my utter shock, my husband has said that he would actually like to try for another. I was delighted by the idea until I realised that there would be immense pressure from our families to have the baby baptised in the Carholic church.

To not do so would create immense family discord. My husband said that he isnt risking a family fall out over something so silly and that the baptism is the least of his worries. My husband thinks all religion is made up nonsense so it doesnt bother him to go through the motions to appease his family. He doesnt understand why it would be an issue for me. My family and in laws have zero interest in what the Bible says so no point showing them the Scripture. I dont feel strong enough to fight against everyone on this and know it would ruin my entire pregnancy, should I conceive.

I feel like my only option is to not try for another baby to save myself the enormous stress of not baptising the baby in the Catholic faith.

Fwiw: if I could find away around it, or some way to compromise I would, but cant think of anything. 

The problem is marrying a Catholic to begin with. Now you are unevenly yoked. It will be tough to get out of the obligations now of what the Catholic religion asks of you. 

[Thewhitedove]

4 minutes ago, missmuffet said:

The problem is marrying a Catholic to begin with. Now you are unevenly yoked. It will be tough to get out of the obligations now of what the Catholic religion asks of you. 

We were both Catholic when we got married. My husband doesnt believe in God at all and I got saved 2 years ago. All the Catholic stuff that we did was for tradition and just because 'that's what you did'. I dont believe that I am under any of the bonds of my previous Catholic sacraments. The unequally yoked thing is a different story however. 

[Thewhitedove]

10 hours ago, Who me said:

 

Fight the battles that are important. Getting stressed over a superstition won't help you or your children.

 

What is important is that your husband regularly attends a church where there is Bible centered preaching and a good number of Christian men doing practice things around the church and that his family also attends family services at Christmas, Easter etc where they will here the gospel.

If need be let them know that the ' christening' is only superstition done to minimise family friction.

 

Questions to ask your husband.

Just what do you believe?

What evidence do you have for that belief?

The aim is to get people to know what and why they do or don't believe and for most unbelievers it is laziness.

 

My husband is an atheist from a nominal Catholic family. My in laws like things to be done by tradition. Hubby thinks it's all made up mumbo jumbo but goes along with certain things to keep other people happy. He refuses to come to my Evangelical church and says he wants nothing to do with it. He is happy to get a potential baby baptised into the Catholic faith as nobody in his family really takes God very seriously. 

[Justin Adams]

9 minutes ago, Thewhitedove said:

The unequally yoked thing is a different story however

This is addressed in the new testament since it happened then often. I will repeat: You sanctify the home as the only believer. Read about it. 1 Cor 7:14

1 Corinthians 7:14 New King James Version (NKJV) 
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy

Edited April 20, 2021 by Justin Adams