Is this worth confronting?

[EricH]

I would say that anytime you have an issue that is potentially damaging to a relationship with a bro / sis in Christ you should adress it. My guess is if you approach it from the perspective of the pain it caused you, he will respond positively

[apothanein kerdos]

That doesn't sound good.

Does he know that you are Jewish?

Because I don't think your concern is just him making a racial slur - but that his grind against Jews is hurting you.

Am I correct?

If so, that's all the more reason to speak to him and try to work a reconciliation out between you two.

He knows I'm Jewish...he's known my family for 25 years....longer than I've even been on this earth.

Well, there you have it. He obviously doesn't care that it's a racial slur and has no problem with such. My question now is - having outspoken bigoted views, how has he been the assistant pastor for so long?

Oh it's a corrupt church

[angels4u]

Where oh where would we find a percfect church without wrinkle?

[Iryssa]

*sigh* no kidding...

Anyway, I pretty much agree that he should be confronted over such things. The important thing to remember is to do it in love. Matthew 18:15-17 tells us how we should deal with conflict between brethren, and there is definitely confrontation involved. Still, remember to "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace." (Eph. 4:2) I think if we keep the goal of loving one another in mind, it is entirely possible to keep unity while dealing with offenses...there's a time to confront and a time to drop the issue...it's not an exact science, so do all this while being in constant prayer, seeking out God's will and godly counsel, and searching your heart.

[apothanein kerdos]

Where oh where would we find a percfect church without wrinkle?

There's a difference between a church and a corrupt church

If we were to be apathetic towards sin in a church, we wouldn't have a New Testament. The entire purpose of Paul's epistles was to show corruption and sin and correct it. None of us are perfect, but if there isn't an attempt to be perfect, then the church has become corrupt. As it is, I left the church. Racists, classists, and no accountability (the pastor is basically having an affair and fears no reprocussions). This is the smallest offense as well...that's quite corrupt

[ayin jade]

I left the church.......the pastor is basically having an affair and fears no reprocussions

That is a far bigger issue than poor word choices. That alone would cause me to leave a church. If the leadership is under an unrepentent situation like that, can he effectively lead? No.

[Iryssa]

I left the church.......the pastor is basically having an affair and fears no reprocussions

That is a far bigger issue than poor word choices. That alone would cause me to leave a church. If the leadership is under an unrepentent situation like that, can he effectively lead? No.

No kidding!

[Guest Museed]

I didn't vote on it, but if it hurted you, you should confront him in a righteous manner. Your feelings are as important as any other human in this world. Wisdom requires responseability, that means that if his response caused an urgency in your feelings, he should have the ability to explain his words. The jewish people, just like any other race that's been oppresed through the ages, should have an explanation from their oppresors as to why of their words. If you feel offended, he should take this into consideration the next time he opens his mouth. Because while he may not think it offends nobody, that's his personal feelings, and it's selfish in itself. Now many things offend diffrent people, but when it's based on race, it is unrighteous.

I hope I didn't make this confusing. I have a hard time putting things into words unless I'm writing poetry. You should take him aside, and discuss it, if that doesn't work then the congregation should be told, and the matter settled. I hope this helps.

[larryt]

This is a real life thing I am facing right now.

Hi Joel,

Seeing it is a Ass. Pastor if you decide to approach him I wouldn't take it past that. If he said this in a sermon he probably isn't going to listen. Is this a young guy fresh out of college? If it is, it sounds like the novice being lifted up in pride.(1Tim 3:6)

Do you think he was intentionally ragging on the Jews or as Cats' says just using the colloquialism?

LT

He's in his 60's or 70's and has been the assistant pastor for a long time at this church. Likewise, he used to be a business man and he always talks about how he could never get money out of "those Jews."

Hi Joel,

A man in his 60-70's is an elder in both ways. Only you know the whole story and the info you give can only be in part to those of us you have told. We are told to go to those that have offended us and if we can let him know of the offence we may gain him. There are so many variables that only you can really deal with the problem if it is that big a deal. Spend some time(the more the better) in prayer and I am sure that the Spirit will guide you in what you should do.

God Bless,

LT