is 19 too young to get married?

[mike2]

Charles Dobson has written some GREAT books on marriage.

Give you and your fiance a big blessing and pick them up!

mike 2

[branchesofHim]

I think 40 is the perfect age to get married.

Hmmmmmmmmmmm .......................... I'm 40 ............................

[branchesofHim]

hey, i'm 19 n i am gettin married in 5months to a guy who is 21. we are both christians. are we too young to get married?

i would really appreciate some feedback on this. x

Seriously .....

Age isn't really the factor. It's maturity in the Lord when you are a born again. You seek God regarding His opinion in Christ. Listen to your heart in Christ. Sincerely seek Him about it. Trust the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you into all truth. He will.

I. Corinthians 6

"19": What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

"20": For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

I. Corinthians 7

"24": Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.

"25": Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.

"26": I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.

"27": Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.

"28": But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

"29": But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none

"Don't let your flesh choose, but rather your heart in Christ!"

Peace.

Edited March 2, 2006 by abranchofHim

[sheya joie]

Charles Dobson has written some GREAT books on marriage.

Give you and your fiance a big blessing and pick them up!

mike 2

?

You mean James Dobson, of Focus on the Family?

[mike2]

Charles Dobson has written some GREAT books on marriage.

Give you and your fiance a big blessing and pick them up!

mike 2

?

You mean James Dobson, of Focus on the Family?

Yes, sorry

mike2

Thanks

[RustyAngeL]

Yes I really do believe 19 is to young to be married. I strongly believe in an education first. It's good your both Christians so I'm going to say this. Lust will not wait, love will. I think it's important to be as financially as possible. I know it may seem unimportant but you can't live on love. Money problems are the number one cause of marriage collapse. Please give this much prayer and don't rush into it. I have to agree too, that if your questioning this five months before the wedding you really need to re think this whole thing.

[Rania]

I disagree. If you are compatible in every other way, money is not an issue. I use to think that a higher education and financial stability was so important until I began studying the Word on storing up our treasures in heaven.

It changed my outlook on everything.

The older I get, the more I want to get rid of all the things that I felt were so important to have in my younger years of marriage.

You feel God's leading? You love him? He loves you? You're both wise enough to manage a home?

Marry him...... .....and marry him for life.

[Iryssa]

I think the reason fights about money become such an issue is that couples lose perspective...which, granted, is easy to do when discussing that subject. There are ways to work through financial troubles, as my parents proved during their early years.

[other one]

http://www.familylife.com/conferences/marriage.asp

I would recommend that you and your spouse to be attend one of these seminars before you get married. It will give you a lot of insight as to the problems and what to do about them. I've been to them and can testify that after 25 years of marriage I learned some things. Weekend to remember is designed for people already married but there are a lot of couples that attend them for the knowledge that is available. The weekend we attended there was at least three couples that were getting married within a month or so and they said that they learned a lot. I have a cousin that is involved with this ministry and he tells me that these weekends have saved many many marriages that he is personally aware of.

As for 19 being too young, it would depend on the person and their ability to fund a home. My wife was 19 when we married and even though it was not easy we have done pretty good over the past 36 years. We had three other couples that were close friends and all three of them had at least one person that was 19 or 20 and all of them are doing fine.

I personally don't think anyone is really ready for the trials of a marriage no matter how old they are. It helps tremendously if they are financially stable when they start, so please take that into consideration. That doesn't mean one or both of you have a job, it means that you have the skills to find another job if the one you have falls through also. If getting married means dropping out of school, I'd wait for a while..... My brother and his wife were still in college when they got married and they have done very well....... it just depends on the people themselves and how much they are dedicated to being together..... but it takes both people..... just one will not hold a marriage together even in good times.

Sam

[darkest_red]

I think the reason fights about money become such an issue is that couples lose perspective...which, granted, is easy to do when discussing that subject. There are ways to work through financial troubles, as my parents proved during their early years.

I agree. As I said, my parents were 16 when they got married. At times they struggled financially but they came through it and now they may not be millionaires but we're comfortable.