Women

[KeilanS]

Sorry for taking so long to reply after saying I would give an opinion, I was on the phone for almost 2 hours there

Now before I say anything else I'm going to go right out and say I'm a 15 year old guy, I've had 2 girlfriends that I broke up with and on Monday I asked a third girl out (she was the one I was on the phone with for 2 hours). I just wanted to make sure you're aware that I'm still young, unmarried and my opinion is definatly not law

What I think is that you should try to just not worry about it. Keep on living, serve God, try to be the best person you can be. When you meet nice women, get to know them as friends before you even consider becoming more than friends. I find that if you date someone a day after you meet them, it will be a very bad start for the relationship.

Basically speaking, just let things happen as they happen, when God is ready for you to meet "the one" then it will happen. There is a couple at my Church, both extremely soft spoken, kind hearted people. They're both the absolute pinnacle of "turn the other cheek" and I can't imagine them fighting or arguing no matter what. Anyways, these people seem like the type that would be shy about dating and such, and hence, they were single until they were both around 40. Then God brought them together and they're a perfect match. Like they have the type of relationship where you could chat 5 minutes with 20 people and you would be able to pick the two of them out as a couple despite having no prior knowledge of it. When God finally lets you meet that person who is just for you, then it will work out great!

God Bless!

[mikado5001]

Sorry for taking so long to reply after saying I would give an opinion, I was on the phone for almost 2 hours there

Now before I say anything else I'm going to go right out and say I'm a 15 year old guy, I've had 2 girlfriends that I broke up with and on Monday I asked a third girl out (she was the one I was on the phone with for 2 hours). I just wanted to make sure you're aware that I'm still young, unmarried and my opinion is definatly not law

What I think is that you should try to just not worry about it. Keep on living, serve God, try to be the best person you can be. When you meet nice women, get to know them as friends before you even consider becoming more than friends. I find that if you date someone a day after you meet them, it will be a very bad start for the relationship.

Basically speaking, just let things happen as they happen, when God is ready for you to meet "the one" then it will happen. There is a couple at my Church, both extremely soft spoken, kind hearted people. They're both the absolute pinnacle of "turn the other cheek" and I can't imagine them fighting or arguing no matter what. Anyways, these people seem like the type that would be shy about dating and such, and hence, they were single until they were both around 40. Then God brought them together and they're a perfect match. Like they have the type of relationship where you could chat 5 minutes with 20 people and you would be able to pick the two of them out as a couple despite having no prior knowledge of it. When God finally lets you meet that person who is just for you, then it will work out great!

God Bless!

Thanks. It does not matter how young, or old, you are. Your opinion is welcomed. I got news for you. My then 9 year old cousin. She solved a problem for me that even the so called wiser ones could not. So youth rules!!! Always stay young.

[shepherdsgrace]

Dear Mikado,

When it comes to unfulfilled desire in any area I have learned of only one thing that helps me. I have learned to REST in GOD's LOVE. I meditate upon it and think on it and ponder it all during the day and before sleep at night. I think of that GREAT LOVE that Loved and loves in full measure. He came that we might have life and that more abundantly. But we receive all things by faith. And when we are stressed and up tight because of lack in our lives it cuts off the faith and so we do not receive what is already provided by His over abundant love. ........We receive all of his gifts and mercies by faith.

But I have learned that as I meditate upon his great love I begin to believe and I begin to have peace. HE just moves in where stress and pain and lack have fermented. And He begins to make a difference.

You have to persevere in this. But it is a great way to live. And it opens the door to answered prayer in all areas. And while waiting you are content and happy and you soon find that you are no longer waiting but rather you are living!

You see faith works by love. As you ponder that great love the faith just simply rises out of its source, the Spirit of God.

That great Sea of Love........swim in it. Float in it! Take a dive in it. God is ever present in His overflowing abundance. WE can receive.....

[Marnie]

I do come off as desparate. But how do I not?

Mik--

How about doing this:

There is nothing better for a man, than that he should eat and drink, and that he should make his soul enjoy good in his labour. This also I saw, that it was from the hand of God. (Eccles. 2:24)

Or this:

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. (Phil. 4:8)

And this:

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. (Matt.6:33)

And this:

I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. (Phil. 4:11)

And finally,

Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have. (Heb. 13:5)

You have a lot to offer someone and Someone. Put Him first, and His word.

[Floatingaxe]

Marnie!

Excellent!

[passiondaze]

Mik,

Speaking as a single woman, there is nothing as unattractive as a man desperate for a date. I have always felt that a man should have better things to do than worry about such things. This is not meant as an insult to you. There are lots of men and women, especially those of us over 30 and (still) single that wonder if we will ever find "the one." But, getting into a dither about your singleness won't help. My advice: live your life, eat right, think right, work hard and make the most of what the Lord has given you, and if it be the Lord's will, a lovely young thing will come waltzing into you life. There are worse things than not being in a relationship, one of them is being in a bad one!

Amen, Marnie!

Mikado---Just serve God with all your heart, and He will send her to you! After all, He alone knows her, He alone sees her, what she looks like, what her name is, what her calling is, etc.... Trust that God is looking at her right now and she is relying on Him also to point her in the right direction!

Your paths are going to cross and each day as you go about serving Him, not fixating on your own loneliness brings your intersecting paths closer and closer!

This is of the Lord!

Amen to both of these replies!

Remember, it's all about God's timing.

Amen to all 3 of these replies!

[LightofJesus]

I am an older woman who was married for 23 years and am now a widow. It has been two years already, but I went through the lonlies and found myself feeling all desperate for a mate and thought I found him!!! NOT. I was in charge of that and God did save me from a horrible nightmare. He sometimes allows certain things in our lives to help us grow up in Him. I have now come to a revelation that we must be content where we are so we can better serve Him by serving others, and we cannot serve others if we are not content in Him. Amen?

Your sister in Christ,

and old enough to be your mother, lol

[nebula]

I do come off as desparate. But how do I not?

Look for friends, not for dates.

Build up the friendships you have.

Get involved with volunteer work, a ministry, or recreation activity/event for the purpose of ministy or having fun or self-improvement rather than to "find girls."

Make sense?

[mikado5001]

I do come off as desparate. But how do I not?

Look for friends, not for dates.

Build up the friendships you have.

Get involved with volunteer work, a ministry, or recreation activity/event for the purpose of ministy or having fun or self-improvement rather than to "find girls."

Make sense?

Yes it does.

And thanks to you to LightofJesus.

And most of all THANK G-D!!

[healthnut]

Mik....

I appreciate your honesty about where you are at in your life right now.

Best advice I can give you....

Stop looking for "the one", and you WILLl find her!!

Sometimes we get so caught up in searching, that we can perhaps miss the obvious.

My wife and I found eachother when both of us had went through bad relationships and had all together stopped searching. We started out as friends.... and that grew into a bonding marriage.

You will find her... or she will find you.

Just hang on.

God Bless you!

Edited February 3, 2021 by healthnut