I Just Need To Vent

[Guest lovinghim4ever]

I really am a very positive person, so please forgive me for this long post that sounds so negative. I just need to vent!

This certain girl works where I work. Several years ago she filed for bankruptcy, lost her car and has ever since been bumming rides from anyone she can.

A few years ago she began asking me for rides. I didn

[Candi770]

Tell her no, you have the right to. You don't even have to explain. You have no true ties to her. It's not like she was paying you and returning jesters or asking politely (like normal people should). You should feel better saying no to someone who you are not in a relationship with. I would never do that to others and neither would you- so say no. I wouldn't put it off, you can voice your opinion without getting ugly-right.

My mom gave rides to a woman that paid her when she could, but they were ok friends and it wasn't too inconvient for my mom, but sometimes, mom said, I'm sorry I can't do it and the lady found another way-but, see she asked in advanced and was able to make other arrangements.

[sierra21]

You feel taken for granted, which is understandable considering the circumstance. I had a friend who did something similar, and eventually it came down to the fact that she was not thankful, and I couldn't afford to drive her around all the time.

I sat down with her and told her (quite bluntly) that I couldn't afford to drive her around all the time, but if she was willing to pitch in some gas money, I wouldn't have any problem with it. She said she could not afford to give me any money. And I said "thats too bad then". And that was it.

You CAN be a Christian and say NO. It doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you realistic.

[gypc]

Sometimes we find people in our lives who absolutly get on our nerves and we ask why. We must remember that ..........Rom 8:28And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

For some reason this person is in your life and somehow it's working for your good. When there are people like that in my life, this is what I do. Everytime we are around each other I preach the Word, praise God and sing worship songs. One of 2 things will happen........they will either be totally on fire for Jesus or never want to be around me again.

What did the Lord tell you to do? If your not hearing from him then hear from him in his Word and you will find the answer.

In his love,

Brian

[Giaour]

try listening to the Bible on cassette or cd the whole time she is in the car, invite her to church, tell her Jesus loves her,pray with her , she will either change her behavior and convert or run away screaming

[sierra21]

try listening to the Bible on cassette or cd the whole time she is in the car, invite her to church, tell her Jesus loves her,pray with her , she will either change her behavior and convert or run away screaming

I liked this advice!

[SueZQ]

((((((((((lovinghim4ever))))))))))))))))))

I also have been in a similar situation, and I am amazed how much patience you have had. It got to the point where I just stopped, told the person, I was unable, did not give an explanation, and kept this up until she stopped asking me.

[Guest man]

I would say you're in a tricky situation.

I want to say just totally blow her off....but then I think about Job and how the devil messed with him.

I would go the witness route....talk to her about God every chance you get....It could very well be that the devil is using her to get at you. I'm not saying this is the case, but you never know.

Witness to her.

Christ said "I was hungry and you fed Me, thirsty and you gave Me drink, naked and you clothed Me".

If you're uncomfortable about speaking to her about God, do as Giaour said....a cassette or bible CD.

I don't know what else to tell you....I've been where you're at and it's not fun.

[Guest Biblicist]

I swear I have heard this same story before. . .

Does anyone in here have any idea what it is like to not have a vehicle? To be forced to "bum" rides of friends and coworkers, or family? Has anyone faced the humility of that? Knowing you are completely dependant on others for transportation is humiliating, frustrating and depressing.

I can understand that you would like some appreciation from her for showing her such kindness, I wonder, how often did people repay Jesus? Is it possible we could? I don't remember any stories about anyone even thanking him, save for the one leper. Your reward will be in Heaven. "If you have done this for the least of these my brethren, you have done it for me."

[Guest man]

I would say you're in a tricky situation.

I want to say just totally blow her off....but then I think about Job and how the devil messed with him.

I would go the witness route....talk to her about God every chance you get....It could very well be that the devil is using her to get at you. I'm not saying this is the case, but you never know.

Witness to her.

Christ said "I was hungry and you fed Me, thirsty and you gave Me drink, naked and you clothed Me".

If you're uncomfortable about speaking to her about God, do as Giaour said....a cassette or bible CD.

I don't know what else to tell you....I've been where you're at and it's not fun.

I've also been car-less and that's not fun either.