I need help

[MorningGlory]

Why isnt anyone telling me to just not do it?

Maybe because it's better for you to just do it ..........it's a great confidence booster. If you're speaking about your Dad you just speak from your heart. Pray about this, Giaour; the Lord will tell you which way to go. I can SO identify with what you're feeling. In my case, if I wanted the promotion, I had to get over my aversion to speaking to groups. You might find that, by learning to speak before an audience, you are able to serve the Lord in a whole new way.

[ladypeartree]

ok I too come from a church where women do not speak ...the only exception being when you give your testamony at your baptism...so

GIAOUR DO NOT DO IT you will not mind that you had the oportunity to maybe reach out to someone and touch them for the Lord....it wont matter to you that you are being disrespectful towards your dad, your pastor ( who has such faith in you and believes that what you have to say will be of help to others ) and who was the other person you are being disrespectful towards ...oh yes GOD

have you read about Jonah ????????

Moses begged God not to use him too ....cant understand that ...I mean like you they were being asked to speak up in front of friends and family that love them ...well they were werent they ??????

Now do you feel better that someone has told you what you wanted to hear

Love you sis and will be praying for you when YOU SPEAK UP IN PRAISE OF GOD

[traveller]

Your relationship with your dad must be very special for someone to have noticed and wants you t speak of it. And it's what? Father's Day? Will he be there?

What a gift to give him!

Sis, we all have fears. I'm right there with you on speaking in public. There's something I've been contemplating as well, becasue I'm so throw-down shy. But it boils down to the end result, ya know? Like, in your case, after it's all said and done, what will be the result? Will you feel good about it? Will your family?

Think of picking someone out in the crowd - a family member - and talk to them. Stare at them the whole time, since this is your first time. Someone that you're comfortable with. If you can do this, and get through it, you're fear will take a step backwards. It may not completly diminish, but it will retreat a bit.

If it's a serious phobia, and it's totally impossible, then talk to your pastor. Perhaps it's something that could be written down and read by another? However, coming from you would make all the difference in the world.

Pray about it.

[RedeemedByHim]

Well, I can't say I have had that feeling, but my pastor has and now he is great at it...many people have over come the fear of talking to people. Now I actually love talking in front of people. Maybe it would be different if I had to teach or preach...but I will be praying for you. This first time will be the hardest...after that it all gets easier...

[Zol]

Deep breathing helps.

[dugmando]

Sister,

I can relate to you, I struggle almost everytime I stand before people to speak.

Problem with that is being a Pastor, Teacher and being nervous they don't work very well together.

As a few others have already said remember first who you are speaking about, Speak from the heart, if He is there focus on Him and think about Him blocking everyone else out, and understand this most of all.

Don't worry about what you say or even how it comes out because if it is from the heart, it will be just fine.

The subject of Love and how much you love someone should not be hard to express but sometimes it can be.

Besides as someone has already said here on these boards, you don't seem to have any trouble expressing yourself.

Remember if your Dad is there focus on Him if not pick someone who wants to see you overcome your fears and focus on them.

One other thing I might add, My Dad died 7 years ago and oh how I wish I had an opportunity to speak to Him, I miss Him greatly, Sister this is an wonderful opportunity that you must not let pass by.

If you do there may be a day when you will regret that you did.

Praying for You

Dug

Edited June 14, 2007 by dugmando

[Giaour]

What great advice and support, thank you all very much.

I'm touched, really I am.

My dad cant be there, he is in S Carolina for a couple weeks.

I dont know what I'm going to do yet.

[shepherdsgrace]

Hello,

I find that love takes care of the whole bundle. If I remember to look out at my audience and look at particular persons and love them and smile at them. Then from on it is just a sharing of what is to be said.

And although you really could just say "no" and no one be hurt by it and you be more comfortable, it truly is not a good thing to be ruled by fear. And certainly you do not want your fear to rule you to such an extent that you just do not show up.

Bless you. We all have a fear somewhere that we have to deal with. You are not alone.

[Giaour]

IF, I do this.

Is this okay to say?

Pastor David asked me to come up and say a few words about my dad. I

[dugmando]

Just Awesome and your Dad will be proud of you!

If you get nervous, remember what you wrote: He was always so proud of me and would make a big deal over every accomplishment no matter how small it was. He taught me to have confidence in my abilities and the belief that I can do anything that I set my mind to.

Because you can and trust me some day when your Dad is gone and your having a bad day full of regrets you will remember this and be blessed.

Dug