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Why are Christians so afraid of affection?

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You know, It's only been a short while since I re-dedicated myself to Christ, but I've noticed something in regards to many of my brothers and sisters in Christ....something that, I'll be honest, I miss from my days socializing with non-Christians.

Back when I was not serving God, many of my non-Christian friends and I were openly affectionate towards one another...NOT AT ALL in the erotic sense, but both the guys and the gals whom I would"party" with were much more openly affectionate towards each other.

A great big hug and a kiss on the cheek would be standard for the gals, and my guy friends would not be afraid to hug me. Now that I have come out of that lifestyle, I tend to miss the warm affection that I'd share with friends.

At the church I go to, the people are very gracious and warm, but there is no real outward display of friendship or affection there. The women don't seem to like hugging very much, and as far as the guys are concerned...FORGET ABOUT IT, because I know that it could probably be construed as something more.

That's just it, though....when I'd hug one of my secular guy friends, it was construed as nothing more than a sign of friendship. But in the church, it's like you have to practice the 6-in. rule or something.

I am a very affectionate person, but only when I feel that affection is being requited.....and not freaking the other person out. Why are Christians so afraid of hugging, or of outward displays of affection? Are they really so afraid that there's some alterior motive involved?

To be honest, you guys, this really makes me miss my old friends.

It all depends on the circle of people; you can't just say Christians are less affectionate than others. My family and church are all huggers! So are all the Latinos I know. The least 'huggy' people I know are the Canadians. They are more a handshake type group. (Now, don't you Canadians get offended; I'm only talking about those I know!) It's pretty much a cultural thing, not religion based, IMO. :thumbsup:

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Well, you can bet your bottom-dollar that when I get to Heaven, I'm going to be hugging everyone in sight, so be prepared, people...and it's not just going to be some cheezy half-hug...I'll be throwing my arms around everyone in sight, so be warned!! It's going to be a huge lovefest (lol)

I second that goal, DNW!!! :thumbsup:

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Well, you can bet your bottom-dollar that when I get to Heaven, I'm going to be hugging everyone in sight, so be prepared, people...and it's not just going to be some cheezy half-hug...I'll be throwing my arms around everyone in sight, so be warned!! It's going to be a huge lovefest (lol)

O boy I have spent enough time on earth dodging the compulsive huggers, don't tell me I'm going to have to duck and dive in Glory as well!! :thumbsup:

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Well, you can bet your bottom-dollar that when I get to Heaven, I'm going to be hugging everyone in sight, so be prepared, people...and it's not just going to be some cheezy half-hug...I'll be throwing my arms around everyone in sight, so be warned!! It's going to be a huge lovefest (lol)

O boy I have spent enough time on earth dodging the compulsive huggers, don't tell me I'm going to have to duck and dive in Glory as well!! :emot-hug:

You and me both Botz!

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Well, you can bet your bottom-dollar that when I get to Heaven, I'm going to be hugging everyone in sight, so be prepared, people...and it's not just going to be some cheezy half-hug...I'll be throwing my arms around everyone in sight, so be warned!! It's going to be a huge lovefest (lol)

Since we know that love conquers all....begin loving and hugging them today. Everyone wants to be loved - God made us that way. If you aren't spreading your love it is because you fear rejection or awkwardness. Very likely the same feeling that the "hugless" experience. Push past it! There is nothing anyone likes more than to feel special and important. Your display of love could just be the beginning for your church. And there is something very special about a person that has that much love to give! Everyone wants to be around a happy, loving person. You can't lose!

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Hmmm. I generally kiss Christians on the cheek as the 'Sign of Peace,' and in greetings, often.

I guess you haven't lived until you've been kissed by bald, burly 50-something theologian!

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1 Corinthians 16:20

20)All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss.

I don't mind the hug but I might pass on the kissing.

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Anyone up to washing my feet? :emot-handshake:

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Weeell Sister,

Why wait until you get to Heaven just give me a big ol hug right now! :emot-handshake:

Love Ya mean it!

Doug

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Okay....so what I'm getting from the responses here is that hugging and outward display of affection is not really a Biblical issue, but a personal one?

I guess I can see how the gesture can be misconstrued, so I can see where some people are coming from.

I'm glad that I started this thread, because I really was under the impression that, for some reason, displays of affection like this were unholy.

Thanks for clarifying

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