Is this over the top or normal..

[Guest rachel_56]

thanks for all your great responses,

but I have to agree to disagree,

I know my nephew and I KNOW he is too immature to know what he wants!

For one of his gifts he wanted a SONY playstation -is this a mature young man?

I don't think so!

While I was talking to him the other day, he told me how much fun and frivolty he and his mates got up to when they went to some island off Australia and spent all their money and have fun.

Mature? I don't think so!

I know his mother is behind all the pushing to get married because she did this with my wedding

to my husband.....

She and my Mother in law kept on saying, 'You better hurry up and get married because you may be tempted to a sexual sin. But for us, it was not so, because we knew when to set boundaries and I was 32 when I got married.

So..I know he has been pushed into marriage this early purely for the reason

that he dosn't have sex outside marriage.

If her parents want to waste money then that's their problem!

I wish them well though.

They are not christians...

[sweetycakes]

I stopped reading at $80.00 a head for the reception. If this was my kid, I'd have put the kibosh on it. At 19, for goodness sake...sounds like her mother is living vicariously through her daughter's dream wedding.

Over the top? I think so.

The words 'Scrooge' and 'Grinch' spring to mind

Romeo and Juliet were only 14 and 13.....and that was a true story, wasn't it?

It was not a true story. And I am NOT a Scrooge....just....frugal.

So.........does that mean I'm not invited to Christmas dinner at your place, then?................unless I bring my own turkey?

[Candi770]

I dont know your family, but my parents wed when he was 19 and she was 16- next year it will be 50 years and everyone told them it wouldn't last.

[Marnie]

I stopped reading at $80.00 a head for the reception. If this was my kid, I'd have put the kibosh on it. At 19, for goodness sake...sounds like her mother is living vicariously through her daughter's dream wedding.

Over the top? I think so.

The words 'Scrooge' and 'Grinch' spring to mind

Romeo and Juliet were only 14 and 13.....and that was a true story, wasn't it?

It was not a true story. And I am NOT a Scrooge....just....frugal.

So.........does that mean I'm not invited to Christmas dinner at your place, then?................unless I bring my own turkey?

haha.....of course not! Nobody could ever accuse me of being cheap when it comes to food! lol

[Marnie]

I dont know your family, but my parents wed when he was 19 and she was 16- next year it will be 50 years and everyone told them it wouldn't last.

That's just plain scary. lol Ah, the good old days, huh?

[Shy Christian]

25+ years ago, it was common to marry at 19. More people nowadays realize it's smarter to wait until they're more mature and established in their jobs. Getting married young just to not participate in pre-marital sex is not the right reason to get married.

[Marnie]

25+ years ago, it was common to marry at 19. More people nowadays realize it's smarter to wait until they're more mature and established in their jobs. Getting married young just to not participate in pre-marital sex is not the right reason to get married.

It is a Biblical reason, though. In fact, the Bible gives many reasons for marriage. Curiously, the most common reason, love, is not given as a reason for marriage in the Bible.

[Shy Christian]

That's interesting.

What reasons does the Bible give for marriage? I certainly wouldn't marry someone I didn't love so I could have sex with them!

[Marnie]

That's interesting.

What reasons does the Bible give for marriage? I certainly wouldn't marry someone I didn't love so I could have sex with them!

Well, procreation is one. Carrying on the family name is another. Companionship is another. Making treaties is another. Of course, most of the "reasons" for marriage given in the OT are implicit, not explicit.

Paul's famous reason is getting married for sexual reasons. But he also advised widows to remarry and have kids so others wouldn't gossip about them and also if a widow is getting old, she should remarry. Here are some references:

But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. (1 Cor 7:9 NIV)

I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander. (1 Tim. 5:14 NIV)

If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting along in years and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married. (1 Cor. 7:36 NIV)

Marrying for love is actually a fairy recent development,both in the history of the world and the Church. I'm not saying it's a bad idea, mind you. I married my husband primarily because we were (and still are) head-over-heels in love with each other.

[sheya joie]

I stopped reading at $80.00 a head for the reception. If this was my kid, I'd have put the kibosh on it. At 19, for goodness sake...sounds like her mother is living vicariously through her daughter's dream wedding.

Over the top? I think so.

The words 'Scrooge' and 'Grinch' spring to mind

Romeo and Juliet were only 14 and 13.....and that was a true story, wasn't it?

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Uh, I wouldn't use Romeo and Juliet as a good example of young marriage - they both wound up dead, right?