I have moved

[jackie d]

I am sorry for your pain and for your loss.

[Trusting Jesus]

I honestly don't know what to say either. I can't at this time go into a lot of detail because of how emotional it is for me still. But I have been in a very controlling and abusive church. almost cult like from what others have told me. Although I won't go that far. So, I decided to leave. When I came out here to visit family my husband was spending alot of time with his pastors. He called me the night before and told me our marriage was over with and not to bother coming home. Since then, he has taken my name off of everything, cleaned out my bank account, changed his home and cell phone numbers, and not responded to any of my emails. It is very hurtful to think that a person can just up and throw away three years. On top of all this, all through our marriage he has called me horrible names that are not appropriate for me to say on here. I thought I deserved it. This is something I never thought I would encounter but I had no option. I appreciate the prayers. I know some in here are against divorce as I am too, but especially after this week, I have decided to not fight it. I want this over with as quickly as possible. The last thing he said to me was that he doesn't want to speak to me again. This is all I can say for now as I am already in tears.

Oh, I know this hurts. I will say that it sounds as if the church wasn't Bible based and is a cult. God does not like divorce and a church that was truly trying to be Biblical would try to help things work out between you and your husband and not encourage him to do what he did. That being said, God does not want you to be abused and that is what your husband was doing. I hope you have a lawyer to defend your rights.

Divorce is not the perfect will of God, but it is not the unforgivable sin, either. It seems as if you do not have a choice, and the reality is I don't think your marriage was withing God's will either. I hope that your family is supportive of you and that you will go to a Christ centered church. You will find love and support from other Christians. Don't feel guilty.....God loves you and knows exactly what is going on. You are His child. He loves you.

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Nathele

[Guest]

[GloryToGod!]

Tina,

I have been in your situation. My husband began calling other women while still living with my 3 yr old son and I. He woould barely speak to me. Shortly after he left our son and myself.

I am so sorry you are going through this!

Dear Lord I ask You to comfort and minister to the needs of Tina. Please put people in her life that can help her through this divorce. I pray in Jesus name.

[~~ angelique ~~]

[meagain]

I honestly don't know what to say either. I can't at this time go into a lot of detail because of how emotional it is for me still. But I have been in a very controlling and abusive church. almost cult like from what others have told me. Although I won't go that far. So, I decided to leave. When I came out here to visit family my husband was spending alot of time with his pastors. He called me the night before and told me our marriage was over with and not to bother coming home. Since then, he has taken my name off of everything, cleaned out my bank account, changed his home and cell phone numbers, and not responded to any of my emails. It is very hurtful to think that a person can just up and throw away three years. On top of all this, all through our marriage he has called me horrible names that are not appropriate for me to say on here. I thought I deserved it. This is something I never thought I would encounter but I had no option. I appreciate the prayers. I know some in here are against divorce as I am too, but especially after this week, I have decided to not fight it. I want this over with as quickly as possible. The last thing he said to me was that he doesn't want to speak to me again. This is all I can say for now as I am already in tears.

My heart hurts for you

[Afal]

I am so so sorry to read this. I am lost for words, but be assured that I am praying for you. :t2:

[ladypeartree]

Oh honey how I remember the hurt at this time but please believe me when I say that God has sooo much better in mind for you ..just try to hold on to the knowledge that you are loved and worth sooo much more than your husband was capable or willing to love you and that one day you wil look back at this time as a blessing and the start of a much better life

Praying for you

[Northern lass]

Tina we all love you and feel your hurt! Praying for you!

[RedeemedByHim]

Thank you all for the prayers. Right now I am just leaning on Jesus. I am living with my aunt and uncle and going to church with them. Their church has already shown me so much love. Even the ones who know all of the background. (My aunt works in the church office) Two couples have given me money for clothes which was unexpected. But today I am going to go get my hair cut. The hardest thing to imagine is how Brandon would just cut me out of his life as if the last three and a half years mean nothing to him. But you all are right. It was not a good "church" and I had tried before to leave cause I was seeing stuff that didn't line up with the Word of God. But each time, I just wanted to be with my husband so I ended up staying with the church. Even though our marriage was not a good one, i have never been single in my life. This is the first time for me. And so like I told my Aunt, Jesus is the only man in my life right now and He will be for a long time.