Christian Retreat-everyone is going, I don't want to

[shepherdsgrace]

Not only should you not go if you do not want to and have other priorities, but the "secret" business is always alarming to me. By no means am I going to a meeting where I do not know what is going to be done. Also all the pressure that is being exerted upon you is not a good thing. Lots of little red flags waving around on this one!

[Guest LadyC]

yeah, that secret business sounds kinda cultish... i'm sure it's NOT cultish, but it sounds like it!

[MAYBEBREE]

I did say no, I told my pastor that I only signed up because it was expected of me and that I was sorry for doing that, because I thought I shuld be doing something like this to get closer to the Lord not because other people want me to.

His reply was that it was okay that others encouraged me to go and that that was a good thing.

He said it was important for me to go and that I can just go in October when the next encounter is.

He said his wife didn't want to go but he put her out of the car and dropped her off.

I am aware that part of this is because I am sometimes not in the mood to do what EVERYONE else is doing and will sometimes just refuse because I feel like I'm being pushed.

[Guest LadyC]

his wife didn't want to go and he FORCED her to go by putting her out of the car and just leaving her???????????

:whistling:

[MAYBEBREE]

here is the link to what the retreat is about:

www.myencountermyfreedom.com

[MorningGlory]

I did say no, I told my pastor that I only signed up because it was expected of me and that I was sorry for doing that, because I thought I shuld be doing something like this to get closer to the Lord not because other people want me to.

His reply was that it was okay that others encouraged me to go and that that was a good thing.

He said it was important for me to go and that I can just go in October when the next encounter is.

He said his wife didn't want to go but he put her out of the car and dropped her off.

I am aware that part of this is because I am sometimes not in the mood to do what EVERYONE else is doing and will sometimes just refuse because I feel like I'm being pushed.

I have to say it, maybebree. You need to find a different church. The pastor putting his wife out of the car and leaving her there......well that should tell you all you want to know. This should have the alarms going off double time, my friend, because that's NOT normal behavior for any man. But a pastor????

[Guest LadyC]

that's kinda what i was thinking too....

[lakefrontgirlmi]

I did say no, I told my pastor that I only signed up because it was expected of me and that I was sorry for doing that, because I thought I shuld be doing something like this to get closer to the Lord not because other people want me to.

His reply was that it was okay that others encouraged me to go and that that was a good thing.

He said it was important for me to go and that I can just go in October when the next encounter is.

He said his wife didn't want to go but he put her out of the car and dropped her off.

I am aware that part of this is because I am sometimes not in the mood to do what EVERYONE else is doing and will sometimes just refuse because I feel like I'm being pushed.

He put her in the car? I have issues with that one. It sounds like most at your church are trying to talk you into things 'they' think are better for you instead of worrying about their own walk with God. Pray hard about it, maybe the Lord will lead you to another church that will make you feel comfy and at home. You need one like that, not one where they think they know whats best, or trying to tell you you need it. No one but God and yourself knows what you need and are lacking with your walk. Youre being judged by them, Id sure be looking up a diff place to attend if it were me. I'll keep you in my prayers!

Edited May 8, 2008 by lakefrontgirlmi

[Trusting Jesus]

I did say no, I told my pastor that I only signed up because it was expected of me and that I was sorry for doing that, because I thought I shuld be doing something like this to get closer to the Lord not because other people want me to.

His reply was that it was okay that others encouraged me to go and that that was a good thing.

He said it was important for me to go and that I can just go in October when the next encounter is.

He said his wife didn't want to go but he put her out of the car and dropped her off.

I am aware that part of this is because I am sometimes not in the mood to do what EVERYONE else is doing and will sometimes just refuse because I feel like I'm being pushed.

There are red flags going off every where inside my head. I looked at the website and I really wasn't impressed. I looked at the website for the church, and again I wasn't impressed. Really, I am glad that you have decided not to go. There is something strange in that it seems to be so very important to your pastor that you go to the retreat. Yes, it's nice that others have encouraged you to go, but it sounds as if the retreat is a requirement -- or an indoctrination. I absolutely would not go.

How long have you attended this church? Are they at all New Age? Is it Christ centered? Is the Bible the authority? I don't mean to be nosy, but if it were me, I don't think I would keep attending there. That's just my opinion. But I'm glad you aren't going to the retreat.

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Nathele

[Wingwalker]

I looked at the site. This sounds like a church that I would run from, not to. And from what you have already posted, you might find peace in finding another Church.