I personally would be more apt to approach the solo woman. Not in anyway do I discriminate because someone is different, but I tend to respond to women & children much easier.
I know my church has greeters and the ushers welcome everyone no matter who you are.
People actually plan meals? Perhaps this is why I never know what I'm eating! Seriously, I really should do this with the health problems in our household, I pray that the Lord will give me wisdom to overcome this.