Why a believer should not marry an unbeliever

[missmuffet]

http://www.christianpost.com/news/why-a-believer-shouldnt-marry-an-unbeliever-100030/

 

If you are a believer and you are already married to someone who is an unbeliever, God's Word tells you to stay married to your spouse (see 1 Cor. 7:12,13). If on the other hand, you are a single Christian who is considering getting married to an unbeliever, don't do it. God's Word says, "Do not be unequally yoked." (2 Cor. 6:14)

The most important relationship to a Christian of course is my relationship with Jesus Christ. Every other relationship is secondary. If a believer marries an unbeliever, he or she is choosing to ignore what God says about being unequally yoked. It is never smart to ignore God's Word, and that is certainly the case in a matter as foundational as marriage.

There is no spiritual unity between a believer and an unbeliever. Not an ounce of it. Why? Because a Christian has the Holy Spirit dwelling within him or her, whereas an unbeliever doesn't have the Spirit's indwelling presence. The new birth results in a new life and a new spirituality. There is no unity on that level unless both people are converted through faith in Christ.

 

[cgl1023]

The Word gives two clear prohibitions to a believer and non-beliver marrying.  The preceding post brings up not being unequally yoked.  The second is in 2 Jn, "

⁹ Whosoever transgresseth, and abideth not in the doctrine of Christ, hath not God. He that abideth in the doctrine of Christ, he hath both the Father and the Son.

¹⁰ If there come any unto you, and bring not this doctrine, receive him not into your house, neither bid him God speed:

¹¹ For he that biddeth him God speed is partaker of his evil deeds.

Edited August 23, 2013 by cgl1023

[Micheal Westin]

considering today 50% of Christian marriages fail, I would only say that you could almost garantee that an unequaled yoke of marriage would fail very soon.

personally I don't think a person is really a Christian if they would marry an unbeliever, Its just such a huge part of a believers life, not having the same faith would be such a turn off to me, I couldn't care less how beautiful they were

[other one]

so now we are judging people's salvation by who they marry.......

[Micheal Westin]

so now we are judging people's salvation by who they marry.......

I would say it would be the strangest thing for a Christian to marry an unchristian person as it goes against so many biblical principles, and huge amounts of biblical teaching against such a thing, most undoubtedly who ever would do such a thing either has not read the bible, or they actually don't care what it says and are in rebellion against what it teaches, and are not submitting to God at all 

[other one]

i just find it remarkable that you would judge ones salvation by their pick of a spouse.  i thank God we are not neighbors.

[nikki1]

Many times people marry an unsaved person thinking they're in love and  that in time, the saved person will get the other one saved.  Or both are unsaved at the time of marriage and one spouse will get saved afterwards.    Unfortunately, what usually happens is that the saved person ends up falling away or the marriage is in constant conflict.  It's a really bad situation and only brings strife into the relationship and marriage, and often times the marriage ends up in the divorce court.

[Guest DRS81]

I agree with OP, it's just the finding the born again wife that's tough.

[WIP]

Any believer who marries an unbeliever is rebellious and disobedient...and as such steps out of The Lord's blessing...He will not bless disobedience. Getting married is a huge step to take and there is no excuse for the believer to go ahead and marry an unbeliever totally disregarding what God's word instructs us.

[kwikphilly]

Blessings Everyone..

    I don't know ,I find this topic rather interesting....I don't see how I could pass judgement on the believer that marries an unbeliever,since our flesh is always at war with the spirit there are times many a believer is lead into temptation...does that mean that they are not a believer?Oh,I know there will be post after post of what Gods Word says we shouldn't do but haven't we all done something  we clearly should not have done and then when we couldn't stand the conviction we dropped to our knees & thanked Jesus that He still loves us and we repent?

   I personally don't see what the attraction to unbeliever would be but I don't walk in another brothers(or sisters  shoes)...could it be possible God has predestined one to be saved & has a believer all picked out for them?After all,His Word does say that the marriage can be sanctified and the unbeliever is under the believers umbrella of grace(so to speak)?

   I am just pondering different scenarios is all....any thoughts?I just try not to pass judgement because I cannot know anyones heart....that is between them & God......we would do well to always walk in spirit  & in truth ,to never sin & to always be as Christ is in heaven but for now,we can only strive for perfection....praise & glory to God!

                                                                                                       With love,in Christ-Kwik