What is Cheerful Obedience and respect toward Adults?

[other one]

I know it's a respect thing, but the first time someone younger than me called me ma'am, it kinda depressed me!   

I know what you mean....   Mister this and Mister that and yes sir and no sir.....     I must say though that it grows on you.

[Littlelambseativy]

Whether Christian or not the expression.. You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar is a good way to look at this. The better you treat others the better you will be treated. If you respond in surliness it will gain you nothing but equal contempt. Remember that though you are young now as once the elderly were, so you will be. the way you treat others is the way you will be treated. Another expression..with what measure you measure ..will be returned to you. God made you in love, love others especially your elders.. What you enjoy whether freedom or wealth is their gift to you...at their expense.

[Willa]

I know it's a respect thing, but the first time someone younger than me called me ma'am, it kinda depressed me!   

I know that millitary brats and people in the south always say yes sir and yes ma'am, but the first time a waiter said that to me in a restraunt I felt insulted. I am definitely insulted if they call me a Ms. Mrs is OK but very stilted to me. If people have a repectful attitude toward me they can call me by my first name. Honey and sweetie are definitely not respectful when coming from a young person or a waiter.

I have an aunt who insisted I address her as auntie even after I was in my sixties. So I guess we each have our own limits of decorum. But much of this is regional. In our area I never hear people being replied to as yes ma'am or yes sir in school, homes or church, and I worked for the school district and also taught Sunday School. But if that is expected in your home or school or region, It would be helpful to yourself to do so and make your life easier..

We are told in the Bible that that rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft. Pride is at the root of rebellion, and both were the sins of satan. He rebelled in heaven and took 1/3 of the angels with him. So you need to acknowledge this as real wickedness. I frequently pray and ask God to create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit within me.

I agree that godly love does create respect and regard for those in authority over me, but I still struggle with this at times when their actions are ungodly. I somehow need to seperate those actions from them and remember that they are people for whom Christ died, whom He loves. Even when they are far from perfect, I need to respect them as human beings whom God loves, and because He loves them I can be concerned for them and respectful toward them as human beings as well. I am told to bless those who persecute me and pray for those who spitefully used me, so I will ask God to bless them with godly wisdom. I will hope that they are doing the best they know how to do, and what they believe to be right.

You will note how often I am saying "I will". I am determining in my heart to do these things, even though I don't feel like it and I don't always want to. I am determining to do God's will and not my own. This is called self discipline or self control. It will come up again, and each time I will calm down and repent, determining in my heart to do God's will till His love for them superceeds my outrage over injustices. In God I have no rights. I lay them at the feet of Jesus. We are to have the same mind in us as Christ when He gave up His rights and powerful name to take on a human form of a baby, and become a bondslave to the Father, doing only His will. That is what I also choose to do--God's will.

Blessings,

Willa

[JustinM]

You are off to a good start by asking us for advice here.  I am in the military and people have been addressing me as Yes Sir, No Sir, ever since I joined up, so when someone says yes sir, or no sir to me, I don't take it as an insult because of my age.  There's a rank structure and hierarchy and junior military members learn very quickly how valuable respect is to their seniors.  They get disciplined for a lack of respect and learn that they will not advance as quickly as their peers if they are disrespectful to their leadership.

 

My advice, be polite and respectful to grown-ups.  Even the biggest loser of an adult has something valuable to teach you, even if it is to not repeat their mistakes.  You will be an adult much longer in your life than you will be a child/teenager, learning early on how to treat other adults will be beneficial to your personal and professional relationships.

[katyolemiss]

Thanks y'all

Hard for me to know if I should or shouldn't say it lol ALOT of different answers

 

I'm supposed to say it and expected, so I guess I should. I think whn I don't I'm just trying to rebel or something? Not sure. Could that even be possible.

 

Thanx again! I appreciate any comments