what is the biblically correct response to a specific crime by spouse

[ayin jade]

In my op, I merely wanted to address whether or not the spouse should divorce the other spouse. I also clearly stated it is a crime and needed to be addressed as in charged and going to jail. The subway guy went beyond just looking. So his spouse had a biblical reason to divorce since he committed adultery. I am just curious if folks thought it was ok to divorce someone for just looking at porn. No matter how criminally wrong and sick it is.

[OakWood]

 

This topic came up in our household based on the subway spokesman charges. Im curious what your responses are.

 

A spouse looks at inappropriate material (child porn) but does not engage in it with anyone. Only views it online. Obviously a crime and needs to be dealt with. What is a biblically correct response by the spouse? Is it acceptable biblically to divorce the spouse in this instance? 

 

 

 

 

(Minor rant. Jadey hates having to scroll allllll the way down just to start a topic.)

I'm not actually sure that it is a crime to look at child porn online. I think it's only a crime to download it, keep it and/or distribute it.

However, that's an unnecessary digression and not really relevant to the post. Just thought I'd make that point though.

[Guest]

If you have thought it in your heart you have, the same as, performed it in life... it is the vilest of sins to the society with any morality left!
I contain a hatred for it so strong that I have to fight murderous intent in my heart in any of its presence!  I cannot advise... Love, Steven

If you commit adultery in your heart, God looks at it as you have committed adultery, but it is not the same thing.  You didn't bring another person into your sin by laying with them.  The same thing goes with this sin.  When you cross the line and actually mess with a child, you have scarred them mentally.  If it is your secret demon, only you are harmed.  The people I think they should really be going after is those who would take sexual pictures of kids and post them.  They should be locked up and spend the rest of their life in prison.  The same thing goes for those who molest children.  I have known people that were scarred forever because of child abuse. 

That is so not true. Every time a person buys child porn, that child is hurt. That is why the Feds are now making offenders pay restitution to their victims. And yes, they are victimized every time someone gets there jollies from looking at their pics or watching their rape and/or be sodomized. Have you ever read what these children say about what they feel when they know that people are out there watching them being victimized over and over for profit?

[Guest]

In my op, I merely wanted to address whether or not the spouse should divorce the other spouse. I also clearly stated it is a crime and needed to be addressed as in charged and going to jail. The subway guy went beyond just looking. So his spouse had a biblical reason to divorce since he committed adultery. I am just curious if folks thought it was ok to divorce someone for just looking at porn. No matter how criminally wrong and sick it is.

If you look at it as GOD looks at it, than it is adultery, which is the only reason that GOD accepts for divorce. So, my answer is "yes."

[thereselittleflower]

 

This topic came up in our household based on the subway spokesman charges. Im curious what your responses are.

 

A spouse looks at inappropriate material (child porn) but does not engage in it with anyone. Only views it online. Obviously a crime and needs to be dealt with. What is a biblically correct response by the spouse? Is it acceptable biblically to divorce the spouse in this instance? 

 

 

 

 

(Minor rant. Jadey hates having to scroll allllll the way down just to start a topic.)

 

This is what the scriptures say:

1 Peter 4:8

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

 

While the legal aspect is important, the eternal aspect is of monumentally greater importance.

Which do you think God is more interested in?

 

 

 

Edited August 21, 2015 by thereselittleflower

[ayin jade]

Have you ever read what these children say about what they feel when they know that people are out there watching them being victimized over and over for profit?

I have done more than read what the kids say. I have spoken to 2 kids who were such victims. What they go through each moment of their lives even after being out of that life is horrible.

 

Edited August 22, 2015 by Omegaman 3.0
Trimmed out quotes of quotes and misattributed quote to make the post read as Ayin Jade intended.

[Guest]

 

This topic came up in our household based on the subway spokesman charges. Im curious what your responses are.

 

A spouse looks at inappropriate material (child porn) but does not engage in it with anyone. Only views it online. Obviously a crime and needs to be dealt with. What is a biblically correct response by the spouse? Is it acceptable biblically to divorce the spouse in this instance? 

 

 

 

 

(Minor rant. Jadey hates having to scroll allllll the way down just to start a topic.)

I'm not actually sure that it is a crime to look at child porn online. I think it's only a crime to download it, keep it and/or distribute it.

However, that's an unnecessary digression and not really relevant to the post. Just thought I'd make that point though.

Jut for an FYI "Pornography loses its First Amendment protections, however, when it becomes obscene or it involves children. At this point, federal and state laws make it illegal to make, sell, own and even look at some of this material. Anyone violating these laws may be fined, sent to jail or both.It’s a federal crime to have, make, sell or distribute, or look at child pornography (if by looking at it you wanted to be sexually aroused). In other words, it’s unlikely that someone would be prosecuted for accidentally finding and viewing a (singular) child pornographic picture while surfing the web. Every state and the District of Columbia have laws making it a crime to have, make, sell or distribute, or look at child pornography." Source.

[Guest]

I didn't mean for anyone to think that I was addressing my comments to them personally. My apologies.

[Ezra]

A spouse looks at inappropriate material (child porn) but does not engage in it with anyone. Only views it online. Obviously a crime and needs to be dealt with. What is a biblically correct response by the spouse? Is it acceptable biblically to divorce the spouse in this instance? 

No. There was no actual physical adultery committed. And furthermore, divorce is the ultimate action, not the first response. A lot would depend on who witnessed this inappropriate viewing, was the matter brought out and discussed, was the spouse advised to repent and turn away from this type of behavior, is the sinning spouse saved or not,  etc.  All sin is sin, and the Bible provides guidelines for how sins should be addressed. This is the BIBLICAL response.

Treating this as a "crime" resolves nothing. The so-called criminal justice system is a farce. Possessing a few grams of marijuana is a crime, but the drug lords are free to carry on and flourish (and escape). The system is not interested in actual guilt or innocence, and people get off on technicalities. 

[missmuffet]

What are the vows that we take when we get married?For better or for worse?Unless there is infidelity or an unbeliever leaves the marriage there are no grounds for divorce.Abuse is a different story.But from what I hear there was no abuse towards the spouse. Are we not suppose accept our spouse unconditionally?Maybe there was not true love there to begin with.As a born again Christian I would approach this very differently than a non believer.I do not know if they were believers.I would be praying for my husband continuously and I would give the whole situation over to God.

Edited August 22, 2015 by bopeep1909