Interacial Dating

[visionary]

Marrying within the same race is like inbreeding, the children seem to take on the worse characteristics and features. Mixed races seem to produce such beautiful children with unique combinations of both charcteristics and factures that are often the best of both worlds. Strange... but my best feature is the high cheek bones of a cherokee.

[nebula]

Hmm, I was once told it is not the Race issue, it is the lifestyle chosen when you engage in a relationship such as that. My father forbid me to see any girl of another culture.....

You hit the nail on the head, IMO.

Race issues are not really about skin color and facial features.

Race issues are actually culture issues.

Think about it. when you think of a person of another race, what comes to mind? Looks? Or lifestyle, clothing styles, manner of speach, attitude(s), food preferences, etc.?

As for dating, you can get past the "concept" once you get to know the person. Then once you recognize the cultural "quirks" that irk you, you can work through those.

Bet even after this, if there's still a problem, then is it the "race" or the person?

If the person is godly, rejoice and be glad!

If the person is not godly, then why are you worried about race? Ungodliness is reason enough to not hav eyour daughter date him!

[Trust & Obey]

If the they are both Christians it should not matter what "race" they are.

Gal 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

Now, if they are not both Christians then I could see where the problem would arise. But, 2 kids sold out for Jesus Christ should be a winner, as long as they are both equally committed to the Lord.

2Co 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

They need to be "equally yoked." Now, in it's purest sense this means they must both be children of the God. But, I think there is another meaning/principle at stake here. They should also be equally yoked in the sense that they a similarly committed to God.

For example, if you have a girl who has a heart fo missions and the guy wants to be a pew-potato... then that is being unequally yoked.

If you have a guy who feels called to be a Pastor, and the woman is not chaste and discreet, then this is being unequally yoked.

Edited June 6, 2005 by Trust & Obey

[ayin jade]

If you have a guy who feels called to be a Pastor, and the woman is chaste and discreet, then this is being unequally yoked.

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How is this unequally yoked?

[Gerioke]

If my relatives disowned my kids for the company they kept I would disown my relatives.

I would rather have my kids have real relationships with outsiders than to have superficial relationships with relatives.

Love conquers all

[Nicks Girl]

I don't think there is ANYTHING wrong with dating or marrying someone of a different race. As someone else said, we are all part of the HUMAN race, and just because we are different colors doesn't change that. The only thing that is important is your relationship with the Lord. If my daughter found an awesome man of God that loved her, why should I care what race he was?

That is what I would be worrying about with my children, not the race of the person they were seeing, but the intention behind their dating, and their commitment to God.

[Trust & Obey]

If you have a guy who feels called to be a Pastor, and the woman is chaste and discreet, then this is being unequally yoked.

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How is this unequally yoked?

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LOL! Sorry. I forgot the word "not" before "chaste and discreet. I'll go edit it now.

[Iryssa]

*laugh* thanks for clearing that up, Trust & Obey, had me confused, too

Have you guys ever heard that DC Talk song called "Colored People"? It's on the Jesus Freak album if you wanna go looking for it. Here are the lyrics:

Pardon me, your epidermis is showing (sir)

I couldn't help but note your shade of melanin

I tip my hat to the colorful arrangement

'Cause I see the beauty in the tones of our skin

We've gotta come together, and thank the Maker of us all

We're colored people, and we live in a tainted place,

We're colored people, and they call us the human race,

We've got a history so full of mistakes

And we are colored people who depend on a holy grace

A piece of canvas is only the beginning

It takes on character with every loving stroke

This thing of beauty is the passion of an artists' heart

By God's design we are a skin kaleidoscope

We gotta come together, aren't we all human after all?

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That's not the whole song, but I think that bit gets the point across. I love the emphasis on grace in this song, and how it turns the focus to God's hand in diversity.

I don't have a whole lot else to say, since I've never been in that kind of situation (considering I don't have kids of my own)...but anyway, I just thought that song (coming from a musical group consisting of two whites and one African-American) puts things into perspective.

[Catsmeow]

If the they are both Christians it should not matter what "race" they are.

Gal 3:28  There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

Now, if they are not both Christians then I could see where the problem would arise. But, 2 kids sold out for Jesus Christ should be a winner, as long as they are both equally committed to the Lord.

2Co 6:14  Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

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Well said, Trust!

[Pax]

I don't think your biggest issue should be what race your daughters are dating, but the fact that they are dating at all. I would caution you about letting your daughters get into exclusive relationships, especially at a young age. Most young couples who are dating exclusively are going to be having pre-marital sex. The statistics about this speak volumes. I would encourage your daughters to be in group settings, and I would also not allow you daughters to be alone with boys, either in a car, or at your own home. Be careful about letting them be in the basement alone. Definantly set som strict ground rules. Good luck, this is a tough time