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[americaneagle82]

I am really troubled and sad.  I have a sexual sin and I'm afraid I'm going to hell.  Are there any cool guys near the Chicago area that could be a prayer partner for me?

Edited July 31, 2019 by americaneagle82

[johnthebaptist]

11 minutes ago, americaneagle82 said:

I am really troubled and sad.  I have asexual sin and I'm afraid I'm going to hell.  Are there any cool guys near the Chicago area that could be a prayer partner for me?

You would feel better if you repent of your sin.

[americaneagle82]

I have

[missmuffet]

12 hours ago, americaneagle82 said:

I have

It sounds like you are soliciting. You do not sound too sincere about your Christianity. 

[Who me]

13 hours ago, americaneagle82 said:

I am really troubled and sad.  I have a sexual sin and I'm afraid I'm going to hell.  Are there any cool guys near the Chicago area that could be a prayer partner for me?

First responce. Are you a Christian, what are you trusting in to save you?

Why if you have been saved are you afraid of going to hell, only nonchristians go there.

So again what are you trusting in, good works or what?

 

If you are serious about stopping your sexual sin are you seriously prepared to make the effort to stop?

Have you set up in your antivirus the controls that will

1 stop you looking at any porn site.

2 alert a third party, say your wife or pastor, that you are trying to look at porn.

Please read and memorise 1Cor10:13 no temptation has seized you except what is common to man, God is faithfull he will not let you be tempted beyound what you can bear, he will always provide away out.

My comment from experience. That way out is always there if, if, if you want to avoid falling into sin.

The problem is all too often the sin is what we want.

also read and memorise Hebrews12:4 In your struggle against sin you have not resisted to the point of shedding blood.

My comment. We do not really resist sin, we think about it and want it, realise we shouldn't, think about it and do it.

 

If you want to stop you have to make the effort, God has promised to help but how hard do you try?

[AnOrangeCat]

In an area like Chicago I imagine there are a lot of churches around you could go to and find someone willing to pray with you.

[BeauJangles]

Post deemed to be ineffective and unhelpful.     

Edited August 1, 2019 by BeauJangles

[Billiards Ball]

19 hours ago, americaneagle82 said:

I am really troubled and sad.  I have a sexual sin and I'm afraid I'm going to hell.  Are there any cool guys near the Chicago area that could be a prayer partner for me?

Don't listen to anyone here who says, "Try harder to overcome sexual bondage". The truth is...

Break the cycle by understanding the four-part willpower noose cycle:

1.       Root of bondage

   a.       Early sex exposure/early sex imprinting, father wounds, abuse

2.       Shame mindset

   a.       Guilt “I did wrong” > Shame “I’m wrong” > shame is who you see yourself to be

   b.       Feel worthless and inadequate, anger is a secondary emotion, the primary is fear, but almost always sexual bondage is eroticized rage . . . men’s rage seen in pornography

3.       Binge, purge, wait a while, binge (to numb shame)

   a.       Addiction is to feel euphoric or feel nothing, avoids feeling pain (but increases pain)

  b .       Triggering > Ritual > Acting out > Triggering Cycle, like a coke addict who sees a $20 bill

4.       Cloak of denial with others

  a.       Habit key = Identity, I am not ashamed

5.       The works noose pushes it all deeper

 

The best thing to do when the urge strikes is NOT to "try harder, pray harder, repent harder" but to say aloud, "Lord Jesus, you love me!" or if it helps, "Lord Jesus, do you love me!"

 

Salvation is not by "trying hard" and "trying harder" but by leaning on the love and care of Christ--His death, His blood, His resurrection! Try this, "Jesus, you LOVE ME!" and start exploring the root wounds you hold. Sex sin starts as a moral issue but is always rooted in past non-sexual woundings.

[americaneagle82]

6 hours ago, missmuffet said:

It sounds like you are soliciting. You do not sound too sincere about your Christianity. 

Thanks you made me feel better.  I needed someone to judge me.  You don't know I'm going through.  Do me a favor and don't talk to me anymore.   I'm reporting you to the Admins.

[missmuffet]

On 7/31/2019 at 10:07 AM, americaneagle82 said:

I am really troubled and sad.  I have a sexual sin and I'm afraid I'm going to hell.  Are there any cool guys near the Chicago area that could be a prayer partner for me? 

How do you expect me to address this post? Several times on Worthy you have said " Are there any cool guys around here". Why not say are there any Christian members near Chicago why " cool guys"?.