Where am I going wrong?

[popsthebuilder]

On 2/15/2021 at 8:43 AM, Who me said:

Then be as I said sneaky and get up before they do and move the car. Think about selling it and use public transport..

Please dont tell him to be sneaky. We are not to repay evil for evil. Two wrongs do not make right. His dad will have to deal with what he has done. It isnt for us to meet out punishment or to seek retribution or revenge. Turn the other cheek. We fight evil with good. The mans conscience will convict him if his son is only ever considerate and caring. 

[Figure of eighty]

4 hours ago, Regenerated-Adult said:

Being here isn't draining your mental health though.  No matter where you are, that will drain your mental health.  So there's no point in running away.  And thank for you for telling me that my words were beautiful and sweet.  

Everybody that exists has a challenge of life to face, don't they?  If you had a stable home and income, do you think you would be having shouting matches with your parents?  Wouldn't you want to be free from that?  Is your enthusiasm dead?  Do you suffer from depression?  Sad and low?  Perhaps confused and discombobulated?  Or are you knowledgeable about your reality and environment?  Are you socially astute or socially challenged?  

Suicide is an ideation of the mind that is against God.  You should now ask yourself if you are even born again?  Why would a saved person want to commit suicide?

Lol I didn't being alive is draining my mental health I meant staying with my parents is.  I know Im saved Ive been baptized the whole nine--I don't think depression or struggling with any other illness is an indication you aren't saved. Ive heard of bipolar pastors that ended up taking their own life. God is soveriegn--He could take everything away but doesnt always do that--remember Paul's thorn.

[Figure of eighty]

4 hours ago, popsthebuilder said:

Please dont tell him to be sneaky. We are not to repay evil for evil. Two wrongs do not make right. His dad will have to deal with what he has done. It isnt for us to meet out punishment or to seek retribution or revenge. Turn the other cheek. We fight evil with good. The mans conscience will convict him if his son is only ever considerate and caring. 

Yeah I decided to just let my dad use the car and he's not ignoring me anymore--well for the time being. Not sure how long it'll last.

[Who me]

On 2/21/2021 at 6:18 PM, popsthebuilder said:

Please dont tell him to be sneaky. We are not to repay evil for evil. Two wrongs do not make right. His dad will have to deal with what he has done. It isnt for us to meet out punishment or to seek retribution or revenge. Turn the other cheek. We fight evil with good. The mans conscience will convict him if his son is only ever considerate and caring. 

 

1/ he is a she.

2/ selfish people do not suddenly change, this father will not help his daughter take her child his grandson to a hospital appointment.

3/ the whole family takes advantage of her.

4/ we are to be as wise as serpents and as gentle as doves.

Getting her car out of the way of a selfish, unreasoning father and brother, needs her to be sneaky.

[popsthebuilder]

1 hour ago, Who me said:

 

1/ he is a she.

2/ selfish people do not suddenly change, this father will not help his daughter take her child his grandson to a hospital appointment.

3/ the whole family takes advantage of her.

4/ we are to be as wise as serpents and as gentle as doves.

Getting her car out of the way of a selfish, unreasoning father and brother, needs her to be sneaky.

Im sorry, but we are not ever called on to be deceptive. Being sneaky is being deceptive.

[Paul James]

On 2/12/2021 at 10:43 AM, Figure of eighty said:

I don't know what I'm doing wrong. My family home just seems tense, when I think things are okay they aren't.

So today my mom left for her assignment in another state and the car we share is here at home. I woke up to my brother and dad talking about what all they had to do and their jobs and stuff. My brother saying he had work, my dad saying he's going to work... 

The car is mine (well both my mom and I) I traded in my old car to get my new car and I feel I have no say in it. Like anyone can take it and no one asks me, I just feel disrespected. 

Even more so bc when my son had a cancer scare I asked him if he could take my son and I to the children's hospital bc they had to do blood draws twice a week, My dad moans about how he didn't want to and I should be able to take myself (he never taught me to drive and he said it was bc I was stupid) He called me a user among other nasty stuff during a really trying time in my life. So i had to use a medicaid van to transport my son and I. I would carry his car seat, a backpack on my back and my son in my other hand while my dad watched me struggle -- It took other strangers caring to actually help me. 

Then when I was trying to not only provide for my son all his needs and try to move out, I had to lyft bc my mom worked and got off late but btwn lyft and paying my baby sitter/bro-- Sometimes I didn't have the money, then my car got banged up and the few times I needed to be taken into work-- He'd say someone else better take her, im not doing it, why are you still here? You're a coward, pathetic, this that blah blah  when i called a taxi it'd be booked or lyft wouldn't work... so I lost my job.

 

I remember how he treated me and he still ignores me around the house (he contributes zero to--nothing) and acts like i don't exist but acknowledges my son and not me..  BUT with my older brother he makes sure he gets to work on time and picked up wile I waited hrs to be picked up. I just remember all of that.

 

Anyway so my brother went to work and took my keys-- I feel sad bc when I was working I couldn't do that. No one cared to help me keep my job so i could provide for my child. No one asks about my car if they can use it they go around me, disrespect, and when I told my mom I didnt want my dad using my car she got an attitude and said 

I'll need my dad before he needs me, I need to look within myself, don't text her anymore. She was mad bc I wouldn't let her see my son but that wasn't true I always let her see him so I dont get where that came from--even more so bc I was talking about my dad.

 

I feel like I keep trying to move and move on but my wings get clipped before I can fly. If my son didn't get sick I wouldve been gone. 

Please tell am am I wrong? 

If so where am i going wrong?? idk what to do anymore I feel Im doing right well was by trying to work --idk Im just really confused and feel like Im being punished by God or something.

1.  Get driving lessons from a professional driving school.  Parents and family members are the worst teachers.  They are not trained teachers and don't know how to inspire someone to have the confidence needed to successfully learn to drive.   However, I taught my daughter to drive, but then I am a trained teacher, and always bolstered her confidence.  As a result she is a completely safe driver with good driving habits.

Once you have learned to drive, take possession of your car and demand everyone give you their keys.  If any of your family, except your mother, takes the car without your permission, report the car to the police as a stolen vehicle, because that is what it is if they take it without your permission.   If your name and your mother's is on the ownership papers, then anyone else taking it without your permission is stealing it.

You said it got banged up, presumably by someone else taking the car.  If the car is insured, there is a larger excess for someone who doesn't own the vehicle having an accident in it.   They need to pay it.  If the car is not insured, you have the right to demand payment for the repairs.  If they refuse, you can make an application to the Small Claims Court to get a court order requiring them to pay.

You would be better off moving and having your own place.  There comes a time when children need to leave the nest and start living their own lives.  Your mother may need to pay you for your share of the car, so you can put the money down to buy your own car and be independent.

[grumix8]

Life is hard and we all understand it's hard for ya. Ask god for help day and night know the hard times are ahead but A solution will come just wait for it. Know god is not punishing you and he loves ya. Love your family and forgive them work hard for the solution it will come with love an tears.

[Who me]

On 2/27/2021 at 10:06 PM, popsthebuilder said:

Im sorry, but we are not ever called on to be deceptive. Being sneaky is being deceptive.

No it is protecting what is yours and preventing it being stolen.

 

May I suggest you read about Corrie ten Boom's war time deception of Basie's while helping Jews escape.

 

Not everyone is able to live in an ideal world.

[TheBlade]

You do have allot going on. JUST before I came to your thread in the music threads I listen to a song saying "my peace I leave with you" What comes to mind is if we lack wisdom to ask and He.. He being your FATHER will give it to you  The hard part which in truth should be the best part the easiest part is love never thinks of self. Always puts others first. To love to help to reach out when its not given back yet to do it with all joy. ... I don't know.. whats I am thinking. praying.. In JESUS name..

You can NEVER say His name enough 

[popsthebuilder]

4 hours ago, Who me said:

No it is protecting what is yours and preventing it being stolen.

 

May I suggest you read about Corrie ten Boom's war time deception of Basie's while helping Jews escape.

 

Not everyone is able to live in an ideal world.

Luke 6:27-38

Might i suggest you stick to the teachings of the Christ of GOD and do what leaves your conscience clear. Not a selfish conscience though. A selfless one.