Trusting Humanity

[Zemo]

Yesterday was Valentine's day, and I personally do not like that day. 

I am a very affectionate person, and sometimes I feel sad because the last person I gave my heart took it for granted, made me feel like I was worthless, and that I was the problem.

I have a friend whose Christian like me, and because I was open to her I feel like our friendship has actually increased and strengthened even if she did not have the same feelings, which honestly makes me feel grateful.

I digress, yesterday I was in pain and I felt like my soul was broken. Even though I am so involved with God, I can feel just as lonely. I even prayed and realized that God was the only thing I can ever put my trust in, and not humanity.

I'm not saying I hate humanity, or that I push people away, or that I never trust God. I tend to want to involve my life with another person if it means I can help them find God or help them through even the darkest of times.

I mean that I do not trust humanity when it comes to relationships, feelings about another person, or themselves when they cannot control their own actions. The only person I seem to trust in is God more then the other person.

Is this a bad thing to have? I don't see anywhere in the Bible where it's ok or not ok to feel this way, but I just personally don't know anymore. It's not good to have distrust in humanity, but is it still wrong to not trust humanity in only one or two areas without seemingly holding onto any grudges?

Thank you,

[Who me]

On 2/16/2021 at 4:21 AM, Zemo said:

I tend to want to involve my life with another person if it means I can help them find God or help them through even the darkest of times.

Friendship is a two-way relationship, both parties contribute as well as receive from there liking of each other.

 

I find that it takes time to build relationships with people, surfing that time one gets to know something about there strengths and weaknesses, what you like or dislike about them.

I am distrustful of someone who I've just met and who wants to be my best friend.

 

So take your time, be friendly and talk to people. Have patience and see what happens.

Take the same approach to members of the opposite sex.

If you find  a girl keeps appearing and talking to you!  Test the situation by asking if she would like to go for a coffee.

If she screams and runs, she doesn't like you, if she accepts, if you can keep the conversation flowing, it's then worth asking her to go to the cinema.

 

Best advice I have is take your time.

[BK1110]

We should of course only trust God fully, but God does not intend us to be alone or cut off from other believers. Fellowship with other Christians is a key part of our new life as the children of God. They will occasionally hurt you because they are imperfect, but the same is true of you, of course. And those times are opportunities for you to grow in love, patience, and forgiveness, key attributes of Christlikeness. Choose who you spend your time with wisely, but do indeed choose.

[missmuffet]

On 2/15/2021 at 8:21 PM, Zemo said:

Yesterday was Valentine's day, and I personally do not like that day. 

I am a very affectionate person, and sometimes I feel sad because the last person I gave my heart took it for granted, made me feel like I was worthless, and that I was the problem.

I have a friend whose Christian like me, and because I was open to her I feel like our friendship has actually increased and strengthened even if she did not have the same feelings, which honestly makes me feel grateful.

I digress, yesterday I was in pain and I felt like my soul was broken. Even though I am so involved with God, I can feel just as lonely. I even prayed and realized that God was the only thing I can ever put my trust in, and not humanity.

I'm not saying I hate humanity, or that I push people away, or that I never trust God. I tend to want to involve my life with another person if it means I can help them find God or help them through even the darkest of times.

I mean that I do not trust humanity when it comes to relationships, feelings about another person, or themselves when they cannot control their own actions. The only person I seem to trust in is God more then the other person.

Is this a bad thing to have? I don't see anywhere in the Bible where it's ok or not ok to feel this way, but I just personally don't know anymore. It's not good to have distrust in humanity, but is it still wrong to not trust humanity in only one or two areas without seemingly holding onto any grudges?

Thank you,

[Riverwalker]

You should never trust a person not to let you down, Even if they aren't being malicious , they will still err.  We are just people.

Proverbs 3:Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;

God will never let you down.

Your post reminded of this comic I saw as kid and it stuck with me

[other one]

I have people that I can trust not to take advantage of me or my family.   Can't say that any of us might not make a mistake.   That would be a standard that no human would/could ever accomplish.      But good friends that you can trust will always make it up and work through it....   and it's in those times that true trust is developed.

 

[Willa]

You shouldn't become close to a person to lead them to the Lord, especially of the opposite sex.  You can be a stranger to do that.   My son would invite his friend on boat rides or group activities, and finally to church.  It was after church that he led her to the Lord.  Then they became closer friends till he married her.  My grandson did the same.  They worked together for some time before he led her to the Lord.  Now they are engaged.  

I made the mistake of marrying someone who wasn't saved and I was too new in the faith to know he wasn't.  I just knew that I was relaxed and comfortable with him and could be myself.  We could always find things to talk about and we enjoyed each others company.  It was 11 painful miserable years before he was saved.  Don't do that.  God does disciple those He loves.   I learned to walk with God though it all and by God's grace we were married 54 years.