Can marriage make someone happy?

[Ani Tefillah]

8 hours ago, Rosie1jack2pauline3 said:

Well, I’ve been married x 2. And divorced x 2 so no, my 2 marriage  did not make me happy.

 

I now wait on the Lord to bring me a husband, if it’s his will for my life,🙏

To be honest, I don’t need a husband ,it’s been the Lord and myself for the last 30yrs..I’ve had conversations with him, and told him, I won’t ever settle for second best,...not that he would bring me second best, he would bring me the best...he knows my heart desire.💗🙏

As I say, I wait on him and only him...I have all that I need in the Lord.

That is so wise of you to finally wait on the Lord! I tried for many years to find my husband by myself, but it didn't work out for me, it caused misery. 😔 Finally the Lord brought me the husband that He had for me, and that was a perfect match! 😊 I don't say that we've had a marriage without any struggles, but we have a marriage with the Lord in the center, so we've learned to forgive each other and work through the process. 

[Mick70]

Food for thought- monks and nuns deon't get married and they seem happy enough..:)

[kwikphilly]

Blessings Leonardo

   Youve shared a beautiful WORD here and a ONE that ought to encourage everyone to KNOW that a half & a half is a whole, right?     WRONG, not for the Eternal Minded Born Again Believer in Christ Jesus, or anyone for that matter BUT we can easily Understand this.....

First & foremost we are WHOLE when we are Undwelled- Jesus Completes us! What can be better to put together a whole 1 & a whole 1 and you come out with THREE who are really ONE- sound familiar? Lol oh Glory to God!!!!!!

Anyway I suppose I surely KNOW these things and no doubt I am Complete in Christ and yet Im on my 4th and thats a flop!!! So who am I to give advice on marraige? Or maybe Im the best to tell what not to do? Im not sure but Im okay and I also know God is Able to Restore but Im not asking because I dont Believe twas His Will to begin with......

Whew, its such a relief to be Transparent, I always feel uncomfortble whenever I do not put myself out there to bare my soul......

Anyway, I certainly do not want to give anyone the impression that the marraige Sanctified by God is to be taken lightly or that divorce is acceptable because it is not.....God Only Made the Allowance"& gave it to Moses because we cannot keep His Laws &for extenuating circumstances that will bring this way off Topic( & my apologies for already going off Topic) its not about my (our)experiences, its about the One & Only One Who Fulfills us COMPLETELY- Praise Jesus!

God Bless you Leonardo, wonderful OP.....

With love in Christ, Kwik

[Omegaman 3.0]

Marriage may or may not make one happy, but a bad one can sure contribute to unhappiness. If I person is hoping that a spouse will complete them, they are putting a lot of pressure and high expectations on another, flawed human being, like they themselves are.
Find your fulfillment in God. Live by His standards. Honor your spouse, and serve them like you would serve the Lord if you love Him.
Don't make finding the right person as much of a priority as being the right person, but if you are both looking upward in the right direction, you will grow closer together, as you draw nearer to Christ.
There is nothing at all wrong with being single, but if you want children, a good marriage is the right way to do that and benefit the kids.

[Alive]

As to the question….many years ago, my own mom said, “happiness is over rated”.

In thinking about that, I came to realize the key was ‘contentment’. What scripture tells us.

As far as marriage, there are so many dynamics, but for those in Christ, chapter 13 is helpful.

For myself, love is being truly convinced that someone else is more important than you are. This informs behavior.

Cherishing…..its a real thing.

:-)

[Marathoner]

We walk in what the Lord has for us, and that is where contentment lies. Nothing more, nothing less.

I'm so grateful that I'm neither married nor a father of children. This is not selfish, born from a desire to avoid responsibility; it comes from the knowledge of what I've endured and the places I've walked over the years. 

My children would have been without their father for most of their lives, and that would have been a terrible thing for them to suffer. The same for a wife. Even if we had no children, I could not bear subjecting her to some of the places where the Lord has sent me. I would lose my mind worrying for her safety.

Ah, but that's just it: the Lord never intended me for marriage nor fatherhood. In this I am more than content... I'm joyful! I would never expose my wife to hardship, deprivation, and the terror by night. 

God is so good. 

 

[The_Patriot21]

Well its made me abundantly happy. Happier then you are making all these posts people rarely read and you never respond to.

[Starise]

On 5/6/2022 at 3:49 PM, branchesofHim said:

Well said! I was thinking that very thing when I first read the post! Shalom

Having said that, there is no such thing as Mr. or Mrs. perfect. Lots of divorces happening because two people could not agree to accept the sometimes failures and humanity of the other person. If Jesus would have had the same approach to forgiveness none of us would make it.

Pride is another big one. Too prideful to admit we might be wrong and not big enough to look at ourselves and ask forgiveness and change our ways. Many would rather break off a relationship than look in the mirror or put some work into a marriage.

While there is plenty to be said about compatibility. We should be looking for the one the Lord would have us meet if not married and seeking marriage.

It seems to me many in this day and age are conditioned for everything to be easy, including marriage. Marriage is not easy sometimes. I'll call them thin skinned people who can't stand up to any storms. They would rather run off and place all the blame on someone else for doing it.

Some people are selfish and truly better off single.