Your Weakness...

[Paige42986]

Right now I think that the biggesst thing I would change about myself is my hard heart when it comes to trusing someone else. God is easy to trust but people aren't and I hermit myself because I don't want to trust people enough to get hurt by them. I know that is wrong. But a lifetime of losing alot of people I love has left a scar on my heart and that is the trusting part of me is sort of gone. I just don't know how I can get it back that is all. :hug: :flowers:

[rockswillcryout]

There really is no way I could only want to eliminate one...

the first one that comes to mind is my critical nature. I'm critical of everone around me and of myself. It a very crippling thing in my life. It creates more and more negative thoughts I don't need.

[shazza]

Dear Marilyn,

Thanks so much for sharing, and being so honest.

Mine are very similar to yours, fear of failure, wanting people to like me and another for me is fear of rejection. I am also very gullible and believe what people say. I tend to take criticism personally and can make me feel bad about myself often for days, until God resuces me.

Dear Beth, you have caring and kind heart and that is why you find yourself wrapped in other peoples problems.

Shazza :hug:

[Guest JesusFreak04]

Hmmm....... mine would have to be fear of what others think about me. I dont know, I just care too much about what other people think of me. I try not to think about it, but I find myself doing, wearing, or thinking things that others would want me to do, wear, or think. I try to ignore it, but its hard to.

Edited July 31, 2004 by JesusFreak04

[FaithfulFollower]

This is a rather deep question, very good one too might I add. For me...the worst limitation that I often put upon myself is how much I share with others as well as how much I open my heart to my Christian brothers and sisters. Many years I have had some serious issues with the church and it is this that often times holds me back besides my fear of not being able to deliver God's message as it was meant to be delivered. Once again, very good question

With Love In Christ,

Danielle

[Marilyn777]

Hi Marilyn! NO Way you are not a basket case... !! Honey, your not battling anything anyone else ever did or does.. (except maybe those select few that have escaped the real crappy stuff in life) ... and really you sound just like you are me !! But ya know what... I know now that everday.. I'm a little different than the day before.. you are a work in progress.. God has a wonderful plan for your life... Marilyn God started you.. and he'll finish you and bring you to perfection a little bit everyday and you will fulfill your purpose !! Just keep looking to God..

I have gotten better at taking critiscism.. and compliments too!! my first marriage was emotionally and verbally abusive.. soooooo..that piled up ontop of some childhood stuff... as a result.. when I came out of that I was all messed up!! BIG TIME .. I'm not completely healed.. but I'm so much better .. God is just fixing so much ...restoring so much...changing me so much... but I also still have a ways to go..

I have a problem with recieving anything.. compliments.. gifts.. love.. I also have troulbe with trust.. ..and yes.. that is even receiving God's Love and even trusting Him sometimes..... I suppose its becasue I have always felt like I was not worth anything good...because nothing really good ever happened to me.. my whole life has been abandonment, rejection, loss, abuse, addictions.. etc..etc.. I was told I was nothing.. and even if someone didnt tell me I was nothing.. they left me either in death or like my mother.. just split.. never to return.. so I felt like I was nothing and no one would ever love me... and I ended up believing it.. but that was lie straight from the pit of hell!!! Cause.. just like you said.. God doesnt make junk or mistakes !!! Jesus Loves Us.. so very much..

one of my favorite quotes is what Joyce Meyer says.. I'm not where I need to be, but thank God I'm not where I used to be.. I'm OK and I'm on my way!!!

Praise God.. that is so true.. You are OK... Jesus thinks so.. and so do I

You have a soft heart Marilyn... just like me.. God made us like that..we just have to learn how to use them...

..

I cry easily too.. but not as easily as you seem to.. however.. there is a beautiful lady in my women's bibile study group that is just like you... my goodness.. LOL.. we have to always have a box of tissues on hand for her!! LOL ..If you say anything that is even just a little bit sad.. she will cry a river.. Its ok Marilyn.. that is what makes you beautiful..

Jesus Loves You.. you are so special to Him... if you have to write that down and paste it on every mirror in your house until you get that embedded in your mind, body and soul... .. than do it.. cause its true..

If you ever want to talk Marilyn.. you can email me at

kelli65@jesusanswers.com

Gods Blessing to you..

Love Kelli

Hi Kelli

Thank You so much for that wonderful encouraging post! Sorry I haven't responded sooner but last night I had to reformat my computer again!! My hard drive is very small and I end up putting way too much stuff on my computer, but its hard not to. I can't afford to add more ram right now so after I was getting error after error and then I couldn't get it out of safe mode I had no alternative but to reformat.

My next door neighbour, thank you Jesus, knows alot about computers and came over and reformatted for me this is about the 4th time since I got it (December) that I've had to do this. But the computer was given to me by a friend when he upgraded so I went from having no computer to having a free one so I feel really blessed to have this one.

And I'm still so much a newbie I can't figure alot of this stuff out myself, I hate having to ask people for help. I want to know how to do these things myself, I've got manuels up to my neck and I still have to ask for help! I wish I was smarter, but I don't think I ever will be in this field.

Anyway that is another weakness of mine, I would like to have a technical mind I'm not too bad with creative stuff and I love to cook been told I was very good in that area actually. But I would like to be able to figure out mechanical and computer stuff.

I'm sorry you had to go through so much pain and heartache Kelli why do some people have to suffer so much more then others? Life is really not fair is it? But as they say (who are "they" anyway ) what doesn't kill ya makes ya stronger some times I wonder about that!

There are a couple in my praise and worship team that nothing bad has ever happened to them, they have lived a very calm uneventful life have 3 ground kids that are very talented and doing really well in their chosen fields, they have very calm personalities, I've never seen either one of them angry or riled up about anything. They are very affectionate with each other, love each other deeply, have never had to deal with sickness, depression, violence, heartache nothing.

It does make it hard for them to understand people with depression because they have never had it. Wow how do some people get off so easy? I don't get it? Does anyone out there in cyberspace have an answer to this I would love to know. Ever since I've met them I've been extremely jealous of their kids they have always had so much love and affection from their parents. I never had that and I wanted it so bad I could taste it.

They were always giving their kids hugs and the kids have grown up and they are stable, even tempered people, in stable relationships of their own. Like I said I don't get it. How come some people have such a well balanced life and others live in a world of turmoil? I sure am going to be asking God that question when I see Him face to face thats a big 10/4. (affirmative).

Anyway I got off topic sorry Kelli its nice that God does bring people into our lives like you to encourage and build up. And I thank you for that I really needed to hear your nice words today. God Bless and I will keep you in my prayers and ask God to put a hedge around you to protect you and give you peace and I want you to know I care about you. You have a special gift of making people feel better about themselves and I know God will use you in this area.

Thanks Again Kelli for your encouraging words and support I think as Christians we should be doing alot more of that instead of being so critical. There are alot of wounded, hurting people out there and we need to be more caring and sensitive to their needs! :hug:

In Jesus' Love

Marilyn

[Guest LCPGUY]

It does make it hard for them to understand people with depression because they have never had it. Wow how do some people get off so easy? I don't get it? Does anyone out there in cyberspace have an answer to this I would love to know.

Marilyn,

maybe they have never suffered from depression as there are many folks who don

[other one]

I think my language is most likely my biggest weakness at the time. It is about as difficult to control as smoking was when I smoked. Someone that has over the years built up a bad vocabulary really can have trouble getting rid of it. And I don't mean "aint". But we're working on it.

Sam

[Marilyn777]

It does make it hard for them to understand people with depression because they have never had it. Wow how do some people get off so easy? I don't get it? Does anyone out there in cyberspace have an answer to this I would love to know.

Marilyn,

maybe they have never suffered from depression as there are many folks who don

[Guest LCPGUY]

It does make it hard for them to understand people with depression because they have never had it. Wow how do some people get off so easy? I don't get it? Does anyone out there in cyberspace have an answer to this I would love to know.

Marilyn,

maybe they have never suffered from depression as there are many folks who don