Do any Christian ladies really save themselves for marriage?

[Big Time]

I get ridiculed a lot for this one, especially since I am now in my late 30's. I have always had high standards and never married, usually because of this very issue.

I trust God with whatever His plan is for putting such a strict rule in my heart, but I get angry at self-righteous females, who have made mistakes, and take it personally when they find out what my standards are. Bunch of uppity snobs.

I know that God is the great redeemer and that being a born-again virgin is a real thing, but seriously, are all Christian women who are closer to my age hiding behind that excuse?

I can't help the way I feel. I won't ever settle for used merchandise or any such ignominy to that effect.

Any emotional female who has a problem with that can bite me. "You won't ever have a wife, then" and "That isn't realistic at your age" and "If God forgives her it's as if it never happened" are common excuses that aren't gonna work for me.

Do they really think forgiveness is the same as permission? Do Christian girls really think oral sex doesn't count?

I'm upset about all of this lately. I like classy women who have a sense of dignity and are strong Christian's, not a bunch of worldly posers who go to church after a night of binge drinking and debauchery. I need new friends or something.

[ladypeartree]

whilst I agree that Christians should " keep themselves pure " till marriage the same standards apply to both men and women...he who is without sin etc

I also know ( I have three daughters and a son ) that men tend to think that those standards dont apply to men only to women.

I understand you want a strong Christian lady to be your wife but many of the best I have met became Christians after discovering how hollow the other way is and if God has forgiven them then you have no right to condemn even if you chose not to get involved in a romantic relationship with them.

[Botz]

Any emotional female who has a problem with that can bite me.

Buddy..maybe the lack of classy christian women flocking your way is not because of your chastity standards.

Hit the nail on the head mate.

[MorningGlory]

I get ridiculed a lot for this one, especially since I am now in my late 30's. I have always had high standards and never married, usually because of this very issue.

I trust God with whatever His plan is for putting such a strict rule in my heart, but I get angry at self-righteous females, who have made mistakes, and take it personally when they find out what my standards are. Bunch of uppity snobs.

I know that God is the great redeemer and that being a born-again virgin is a real thing, but seriously, are all Christian women who are closer to my age hiding behind that excuse?

I can't help the way I feel. I won't ever settle for used merchandise or any such ignominy to that effect.

Any emotional female who has a problem with that can bite me. "You won't ever have a wife, then" and "That isn't realistic at your age" and "If God forgives her it's as if it never happened" are common excuses that aren't gonna work for me.

Do they really think forgiveness is the same as permission? Do Christian girls really think oral sex doesn't count?

I'm upset about all of this lately. I like classy women who have a sense of dignity and are strong Christian's, not a bunch of worldly posers who go to church after a night of binge drinking and debauchery. I need new friends or something.

If God has forgiven these women, then who are YOU to condemn them? Sure, you don't have to date or marry them but, if you're already in your late thirties and never been married, you might be deluding yourself as to what kind of women you can attract. Also, you have to look inward and see if YOU are without sin; are you good enough for a godly woman? Btw...women aren't 'merchandise'; unless you're a muslim.

[nebula]

Do any Christian ladies really save themselves for marriage?

I am.

My sister-in-law did.

Do they really think forgiveness is the same as permission? Do Christian girls really think oral sex doesn't count?

I'm upset about all of this lately. I like classy women who have a sense of dignity and are strong Christian's, not a bunch of worldly posers who go to church after a night of binge drinking and debauchery. I need new friends or something.

I sentimentalize with your anger and frustration.

But I too am bothered by your expression of anger. Anger is something I am very sensitive to, and if I were with you in person, I could see myself backing away from you very . . . slowly. . . .

Yes, it is very noble of you to be saving yourself for your wife. That really is awesome! And it is great that you are desiring a woman who has a passion for holiness. There's not enough of that going around.

But what is holiness devoid of love?

[ayin jade]

If I may ask .....

What do you have to offer as husband material?

Anger? Viewing woman as property or objects instead of someone God loves?

If I were single, I would be avoiding you like the plague.

Before you throw out every woman who doesnt meet your high standards, ask yourself if you meet any Christian standard of a husband.

[Fez]

Ummm...how to start, how to start....

Do any Christian women save themselves for marriage?

Yes they do! I know this as a fact.

Do as many men?

Probably not... I know this as a fact.

We live under Grace, we live under His forgiveness (even though this is not about forgiveness, except to ask forgiveness of self). It is about love, being equally yoked, and most important of all about Jesus.

Have you never done this? I used to. Every day.....

Mat 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Can you do this? Because if you cannot you cannot be forgiven.....

Mat 6:14 For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you,

Mat 6:15 but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Before you throw out every woman who doesnt meet your high standards, ask yourself if you meet any Christian standard of a husband.

Right Jade!

Get rid of the anger and pride issues brother. Set them down before the cross and hand them over to Jesus.

Anger was never a base for any relationship. Laughter, love, consideration and talking about and forgiving the small things before they become big things, is.

Blessings.

[Guest]

Believer Or Not

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Colossians 3:19

Any Woman Married To A Believer

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; Ephesians 5:25

Should Have No Question That She Is Desirable, Desired And Deeply Loved

Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. Proverbs 5:18-19

Man Up!

But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8

And Be Blessed Beloved Of The KING

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. Proverbs 18:22

Love, Your Brother Joe

[Guest LadyC]

hmmm.... yes, there are women who save themselves for marriage. they may be few and far between, but they do exist.

ya know, sometimes people have this list of expectations in a future mate. i used to have a lot of expectations. and it seemed like when i'd find someone who i thought met all those expectations, the relationship just didn't seem to work out the way i'd thought it would.

and then one day, i decided i wasn't going to have any expectations anymore. i prayed, and i asked God to forgive me for my arrogance in thinking i knew what was best for me, and asked Him to bring me HIS very best for my life.

and ya know what? He did. and the person He brought to me as a husband didn't meet ANY of my former criteria, even the ones criteria that i thought would please God. and along with the husband who didn't meet my criteria, God also gave me an unconditional love for this man that continues to grow stronger even when he proves himself to be far less than perfect.

perhaps you need to trust God to bring you who He wants to be your wife, virgin or not. i know, you're thinking no way would God ever expect you to marry a non-virgin, right? well, hosea sure didn't think God would expect him to marry a prostitute, either. but ya know what happens when we think we know how God thinks, right? God pulls a fast one on us in order to humble us.

[fromIslam2Christ]

hmmm.... yes, there are women who save themselves for marriage. they may be few and far between, but they do exist.

ya know, sometimes people have this list of expectations in a future mate. i used to have a lot of expectations. and it seemed like when i'd find someone who i thought met all those expectations, the relationship just didn't seem to work out the way i'd thought it would.

and then one day, i decided i wasn't going to have any expectations anymore. i prayed, and i asked God to forgive me for my arrogance in thinking i knew what was best for me, and asked Him to bring me HIS very best for my life.

and ya know what? He did. and the person He brought to me as a husband didn't meet ANY of my former criteria, even the ones criteria that i thought would please God. and along with the husband who didn't meet my criteria, God also gave me an unconditional love for this man that continues to grow stronger even when he proves himself to be far less than perfect.

perhaps you need to trust God to bring you who He wants to be your wife, virgin or not. i know, you're thinking no way would God ever expect you to marry a non-virgin, right? well, hosea sure didn't think God would expect him to marry a prostitute, either. but ya know what happens when we think we know how God thinks, right? God pulls a fast one on us in order to humble us.

AMEN, AMEN LadyC... All wisdom here in this post. I couldn't have said or thought it better.