Hyphenated Names

[coheir]

i have met some ladies who use their married name; a hyphen and their maiden name as one name. Is this wrong did they not leave their

parents to marry a man. i know they say to honor the name of mom or dad but seems they can honor the husband without the hyphen and also can honor parents without the hyphen.

what does people here think about this.

[nebula]

For some women, it is the the feminine independence thing. It's not about keeping their parents' name so much as it is "her" name.

 

Some women do this because they are "known" by their maiden name and it creates identity confusion. (I'm in the process of last-name-changing, and there are so many legal documents I will be needing to change. I don't know how my job will handle this, considering my work's email address utilizes my original last name.) This is something "traditional" women of the past never had to worry about.

 

Those are two reasons I can think of.

[BFP]

I hyphenated my last name when I married because I had two children and I didn't want to lose identity with them ( school, etc). But if I could go back I would have changed thier names instead of hyphenating mine, because I feel like I have aliases now. It was not a wise thing for me, looking back.

[coheir]

so it seems  that taking the mans last name with the hyphen should not offend him, or is it even though a person is marrying him he has no say. Does this affect any biblical laws or rule or guidelines

i dont know how this landed under humor instead of general discussion

[ayin jade]

In many cultures, they keep the maiden name regardless. There is nothing wrong with keeping ones maiden name. My maiden name is quite unusual and I was single for 30 years. I took my husbands name but have been missing my maiden name now for quite awhile. It is who I am. 

 

Your assertion that she didnt leave her family to take his name is a bit off. The bible says the man leaves his family and cleaves to his wife. 

 

Genesis 2

24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh.

 

Husbands and wives dont need wedding bands to know they are married. A wife does not need to take his last name to know she is married. It is nothing more than a hold out from times when a woman was barely a step above property according to the laws of the land. 

 

The only time I could see this being a problem is if the husband or wife is at odds with the other over this issue. 

[CAP73]

 

In many cultures, they keep the maiden name regardless. There is nothing wrong with keeping ones maiden name. My maiden name is quite unusual and I was single for 30 years. I took my husbands name but have been missing my maiden name now for quite awhile. It is who I am. 

 

Your assertion that she didnt leave her family to take his name is a bit off. The bible says the man leaves his family and cleaves to his wife. 

 

Genesis 2

24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh.

 

Husbands and wives dont need wedding bands to know they are married. A wife does not need to take his last name to know she is married. It is nothing more than a hold out from times when a woman was barely a step above property according to the laws of the land. 

 

The only time I could see this being a problem is if the husband or wife is at odds with the other over this issue. 

 

True that.  Totally agree.

[missmuffet]

I am old fashioned I believe in taking the husband's name when married.That is only my opinion.It is a matter of choice.When I divorced I could have written my name on the dotted line and I would have been able to take back my maiden name.I asked my children what they were comfortable with.They wanted me to keep my married name the same as theirs would be.That is what I did.My childrens comfort meant alot to me.

[Willa]

Some professional women have their certificates in their maiden name and their business set up in their maiden name. So the hyphen ate the name to bring continuity, or so they say. But in most cases I wonder if there might be a lack of committment involved.

I signed my name as Mrs.(husband's name) for 20 years. Now I just use my first name and our last name.

[missmuffet]

Some professional women have their certificates in their maiden name and their business set up in their maiden name. So the hyphen ate the name to bring continuity, or so they say. But in most cases I wonder if there might be a lack of committment involved.

I signed my name as Mrs.(husband's name) for 20 years. Now I just use my first name and our last name.

Yes,I have seen this several times.

[The_Patriot21]

I say, if both people are ok with it, then theres no problem with it. But I think it should be something that is discussed-and agreed upon before marriage, so that it doesn't become a issue in the marriage. The Bible says become one-it doesn't say the wife "has" to take the same last name.