YOUR Church has put a DRESS CODE in place!

[LadyKay]

4 hours ago, shiloh357 said:

but churches should enforce modesty meaning nothing overly tight and/or revealing.

You know. That has never been an issue in our church. I'm not saying that you think this way shiloh so don't take it that way, but it seems like some of you on here who think that "yes, a church should have a dress code"; because you  fear that if the church does not have a dress code . Then people are going to start showing up with nothing on but underwear! As far as I know. My church has never had a dress code. And no one has ever  shown up in just their underwear. Or in anything that would look "immodest". Everybody wears just simple clothes that attract no attention. Some of the men wear suits. Some of the women wear nice dresses. Some wear jeans and a t-shirt.

[Guest shiloh357]

2 hours ago, LadyKay said:

You know. That has never been an issue in our church. I'm not saying that you think this way shiloh so don't take it that way, but it seems like some of you on here who think that "yes, a church should have a dress code"; because you  fear that if the church does not have a dress code . Then people are going to start showing up with nothing on but underwear! As far as I know. My church has never had a dress code. And no one has ever  shown up in just their underwear. Or in anything that would look "immodest". Everybody wears just simple clothes that attract no attention. Some of the men wear suits. Some of the women wear nice dresses. Some wear jeans and a t-shirt.

I was visiting a church one time and one of the girls in the praise team was wearing a sweater than was so tight that it left little to the imagination.  It was very distracting and for myself and ( I found out later) for several male members of the church, it was hard to keep one's mind on worship.   I found out it was a regular thing with her, but she was the pastor's daughter and so no one complained.  

I never said there should be a dress code.  I just think it is important for people to govern themselves and use basic modesty and not look at church as a place to show off their physical assets.

[FresnoJoe]

On 4/8/2016 at 3:46 PM, John Robinson said:

When my late grandfather was a young farmer, all eleven of his kids (including my mom) begged him to take them to church. He'd never gone, and neither had they, but their mother had died a year earlier, and they felt they should start.

Reluctantly he agreed.

The next Sunday, all eleven freshly-scrubbed kids in tow and wearing his best pair of overalls (they were poor, and it was the best he had), they entered and sat. The pastor came in, took his place at the podium, looked over the crowd, and then locked his eyes on my grandpa.

For the next sixty seconds the pastor pointed a shaky finger at him, thundering that my grandpa was making "a mockery of the house of the Lord."

Finally my grandpa had enough. Face red with shame, he called the pastor a vile name, gathered his kids, and left. Until the day he died, he never went back to any church.

That's why to my thinking, a dress code is an abomination. And should our pastor ever initiate one, my wife and I would be out of there at the speed of sound.

~

And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, 2 Timothy 2:24

[FresnoJoe]

Interesting Sharing

Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety. Proverbs 11:14

Before I Went Into The US Navy
I Always Wore A Suit And Tie To Sunday Morning Church

Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations. Romans 14:1

After I Went Into The US Navy
I Almost Always Wore A Three-Piece Suit And Tie To Stateside Bars

But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7

Now That I'm A Little Older
I Try To Let The LORD Dress (And Doctor) Me Before I Log On And Attend Worthy Ministries

Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked: I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see. As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent. Revelation 3:17-19

And Beloved I Believe Dress Codes To Be Of The Paramount Importance
Wherever We May Walk

Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 1 Peter 3:3-4

Love, Your Brother Joe

[LadyKay]

Just a question. How would a dress code in a church be enforced? Lets say a church as a "women must wear dresses" dress code in place. So what would happen if a women comes in wearing jeans? And what if this women was not a visitor but a member of the church. Would she be asked to leave? No one seems to be able to answer this question for me. I am asking this out of curiosity.

[Guest Butero]

1 hour ago, LadyKay said:

Just a question. How would a dress code in a church be enforced? Lets say a church as a "women must wear dresses" dress code in place. So what would happen if a women comes in wearing jeans? And what if this women was not a visitor but a member of the church. Would she be asked to leave? No one seems to be able to answer this question for me. I am asking this out of curiosity.

I was Pastor of a church sometime ago, and I didn't have a hard dress code for those who simply came to church.  What I did was have tracts that showed why it was wrong for women to wear pants that were visible to anyone as they were coming into the church.  I made it mandatory that women who were in positions in the church had to wear a dress, that is if they were teaching Sunday School or leading the singing or anything like that, and I would come against men or women wearing what pertains to the opposite sex in an occasional sermon.  Women would not be asked to leave if they didn't adhere to the dress code but they would be uncomfortable after a while. 

My former Pastor told me that he had a female member of the church wearing pants and had other ladies complaining about it to him.  He actually went up to her and asked her to wear a dress to church.  There is a church in Charlotte I have attended where the Pastor has a new converts class for those who are going to join, and the women are taught that as members, they are to wear a dress to church.  I would imagine there are many ways to do it.  You could easily have what some Pentecostal Churches call a church discipline that you have to know and agree with to join the church, and it could include the dress code.  I have been part of a church that had something like that, and it had all kinds of rules you were expected to adhere to that went far beyond clothing.  This stuff is not enforced upon visitors.  It is for those who join. 

[MorningGlory]

13 hours ago, LadyKay said:

I say those things. But I never look down on people who want to dress up for church. I see that as really none of my business. Actually I look at their clothes sometimes and wish that I had the money to buy some nice clothes like they have. But I don't. And I really do not have a dress code for myself. I switch off from wearing a skirt to a dress to  wearing jeans from time to time. The thing is is that I only have 1 skirt and 1 dress.  Bottom line is a dress code church just would not work for me. And I simply would not want to attend a church who was more concern with what people are wearing then with people who are hurting. Think what you want of me. But that is how I feel.

I'm inclined to agree, LK.  As long as you're clean and modestly dressed I think it's too hard on people to impose suit and tie/dress only rules  on them.  Inevitably some would stop coming and that is NOT what a church should want. 

[Guest Butero]

11 minutes ago, MorningGlory said:

I'm inclined to agree, LK.  As long as you're clean and modestly dressed I think it's too hard on people to impose suit and tie/dress only rules  on them.  Inevitably some would stop coming and that is NOT what a church should want. 

All the churches used to do that, and people still came.  There are others who stopped coming to church because they let down the standards. 

When I was Pastoring a church, I remember hearing them speak of how a church needs to consider the people they are trying to reach.  If you want a church that reaches people that want to come casual, you set things up that way.  If you want a church that reaches people that don't like that, you have a dress code.  We have churches on nearly every corner, so there is no reason why you can't have churches that will cater to nearly everyone, yet most want to impose their beliefs on every church.  If I see a church with a sign that says "come as you are" meaning casual dress, I won't go there, so you lose people either way. 

[LadyKay]

1 hour ago, Butero said:

All the churches used to do that, and people still came.  There are others who stopped coming to church because they let down the standards. 

This must have all taken place way before my time. So your saying people stop coming to church because the church allowed people to "come as they are" so to speak? Somehow I think people have stop attending church for reasons other then churches doing away with dress codes.

[Guest Butero]

Just now, LadyKay said:

This must have all taken place way before my time. So your saying people stop coming to church because the church allowed people to "come as they are" so to speak? Somehow I think people have stop attending church for reasons other then churches doing away with dress codes.

It is just part of it.  That is not the only reason.  As far as dress codes go, things started to change drastically in the 90s.  If you watch an old episode of "Andy Griffith," notice how everyone dressed for church.  That is how things were when I was growing up in the 70s, and there was still an expected dress code into the 80s.  That is when you would have the occasional person show up to try to push the boundaries.  Most churches started catering to the "come as you are" crowd in the 90s, and now the remaining hold outs are mostly Independent Baptists, some Menonites Apostolics and some Pentecostals.