Does forgiving someone mean that you have to continue to be friends/to communicate with them?

[Ervin P]

I personally don’t have a problem forgiving those who wronged me, but I find it hard to let’s say not block there mobile number. I find it hard to continue to be friends/ to communicate with them. Not those who have changed, but those who continuously do wrong. Those who don’t want to change and are trying to corrupt you as much as they can.

Am I in a wrong? Do I have to constantly overlook and pretend as if everything is fine when it isn’t. Do I have to talk hours every day on the phone with someone who is a officially a satanist for instance?

 Thanks 

[other one]

no

 

[Your closest friendnt]

5 hours ago, Ervin P said:

I personally don’t have a problem forgiving those who wronged me, but I find it hard to let’s say not block there mobile number. I find it hard to continue to be friends/ to communicate with them. Not those who have changed, but those who continuously do wrong. Those who don’t want to change and are trying to corrupt you as much as they can.

Am I in a wrong? Do I have to constantly overlook and pretend as if everything is fine when it isn’t. Do I have to talk hours every day on the phone with someone who is a officially a satanist for instance?

 Thanks 

Leave them alone 

[BeauJangles]

7 hours ago, Ervin P said:

I personally don’t have a problem forgiving those who wronged me, but I find it hard to let’s say not block there mobile number. I find it hard to continue to be friends/ to communicate with them. Not those who have changed, but those who continuously do wrong. Those who don’t want to change and are trying to corrupt you as much as they can.

Am I in a wrong? Do I have to constantly overlook and pretend as if everything is fine when it isn’t. Do I have to talk hours every day on the phone with someone who is a officially a satanist for instance?

 Thanks 

Hi Ervin, 

First and foremost, no, you are not wrong in your personal feelings about being wronged by anyone. This would pertain to both your fellow believers in Christ, or a secular relationship of any sort. I'm glad to hear that you do have a forgiving heart with people who have been abusive to you. This frees the Lord's hand upon your life to continue moving in servitude towards Him. So, that's great. March on for Jesus Christ!  

But no, this does not mean you must be continually abused like having someone use you as a welcome mat for ongoing abuse. Yes, you can sever the relationship of a toxic demeanor. This is not what God wants for you. I was rather surprised at the actual satanist thing unless you're using this as an analogy. I wouldn't have need of someone with that type of harassment. No need to be a bull's eye for target practice. 

Shalom, 

David/BeauJangles

Edited July 26, 2020 by BeauJangles

[missmuffet]

8 hours ago, Ervin P said:

I personally don’t have a problem forgiving those who wronged me, but I find it hard to let’s say not block there mobile number. I find it hard to continue to be friends/ to communicate with them. Not those who have changed, but those who continuously do wrong. Those who don’t want to change and are trying to corrupt you as much as they can.

Am I in a wrong? Do I have to constantly overlook and pretend as if everything is fine when it isn’t. Do I have to talk hours every day on the phone with someone who is a officially a satanist for instance?

 Thanks 

The Bible tells us we must forgive. But we do not have to continue to have a relationship with that person. 

[Your closest friendnt]

2 hours ago, missmuffet said:

The Bible tells us we must forgive. But we do not have to continue to have a relationship with that person. 

Some time we do not have to forgive..as on some cases we may be guided to leave them to Jesus to deal with them...this way we leave the case open to be dealed by Jesus Christ...

If we forgive the case is closed...

[missmuffet]

10 hours ago, Your closest friendnt said:

Some time we do not have to forgive..as on some cases we may be guided to leave them to Jesus to deal with them...this way we leave the case open to be dealed by Jesus Christ...

If we forgive the case is closed...

When would we not have to forgive?

[Ray12614]

On 7/26/2020 at 4:34 AM, Ervin P said:

I personally don’t have a problem forgiving those who wronged me, but I find it hard to let’s say not block there mobile number. I find it hard to continue to be friends/ to communicate with them. Not those who have changed, but those who continuously do wrong. Those who don’t want to change and are trying to corrupt you as much as they can.

Am I in a wrong? Do I have to constantly overlook and pretend as if everything is fine when it isn’t. Do I have to talk hours every day on the phone with someone who is a officially a satanist for instance?

 Thanks 

I think the bigger issue is 'why' would you want to talk hours with someone who has this type of behavior?  Is this a co-dependent relationship? I would find new Christian friends and take the time to develop those relationships.

Ray . . . 

[Your closest friendnt]

6 hours ago, missmuffet said:

When would we not have to forgive?

We have to address the issue of"dederant" ...

Not to encourage the offender to keep doing the same offense over and over again...

This is in  matters between us...of one to another...in general....

When has someone offended (you)...the issue is not only to forgive or not to forgive...but when to forgive if one has to forgive....

Not to look in one self and say I have forgive "I am ok"...this is ok...not to say quickly something against that and people quickly "tear up their clothes"...going into the "righteous indignation "...

So I want to comment you for inquiring...

The issue is also about the offender, to realize that he has done something wrong and he has propose to him self to avoid repeating it...that would be ok...but there is a duty place upon the wise of how to help him in his rehabilitation and  ot to encourage him with leniency to become a repeat offender...

We are holding our forgiveness till the time the offender has earn the right to be forgiven...

With his repentance and steps taken towards his rehabilitation...

If not and we quickly forgive out of self reasons not to feel polluted with unforgivness we may encourage the repetition of the offense...

When we hold are forgiveness for the right time...we are not poluted..on the other hand we pursue the rehabilitation of the other party...or the least no to be seen by him/her as a license to do the same thing all over again....

"To remember that the other people are not as we are...they maybe tricky...intising to elicit forgiveness from someone.   

**the instructions about forgiveness..it also includes not to take matters in your own hands...or to take the Law in our own hands...

Not to think that we are in the Law of Moses and God and go out and kill our adulterous husband..

(If you were not a woman but a man...without prejudice I would have said "our adulterous wife...or to be politically correct...I sould have to say....OUR PARTNER IN LIFE...

Not to go out and kill the "rapist" believing we are on a mission from God...

Hope I was accountable to your inquiry...

Jesus teach in the same lines....

 

[leah777]

13 minutes ago, Your closest friendnt said:

We are holding our forgiveness till the time the offender has earn the right to be forgiven...

can you give scripture for that please?