Sexual harassment at work

[SweetBabyGirl]

Should i ignore abusers at work because i don't think reporting them will benefit me as i may get fired or make things worse and i am poor

Edited May 20, 2021 by SweetBabyGirl

[johnthebaptist]

On 5/19/2021 at 9:42 PM, SweetBabyGirl said:

Should i ignore abusers at work because i don't think reporting them will benefit me as i may get fired or make things worse and i am poor

If someone is abusing you, I'd report it.

[OneLight]

On 5/20/2021 at 12:42 AM, SweetBabyGirl said:

Should i ignore abusers at work because i don't think reporting them will benefit me as i may get fired or make things worse and i am poor

If you live in the US, you cannot be fired for reporting sexual abuse.  Make sure it is in writing and you have a copy, dated.

[Who me]

On 5/20/2021 at 5:42 AM, SweetBabyGirl said:

Should i ignore abusers at work because i don't think reporting them will benefit me as i may get fired or make things worse and i am poor

Keep a diary of the abuse. Who did or said what and when.

talk to other girls there, do they experience it.

will they also keep a diary and complain with you/

[appy]

On 5/19/2021 at 9:42 PM, SweetBabyGirl said:

Should i ignore abusers at work because i don't think reporting them will benefit me as i may get fired or make things worse and i am poor

I don't know about the rules and laws in other countries, but harassment in the work place in the U.S. is a huge no-no. No matter who is doing the harassment. The place to report this is to your company's human resources department, (HR) if it has one. As soon as you file a complaint, the situation should stop. The bigger the company, the better off you will be. Part of the purpose of reporting it, is so there is a record of the complaint on file, even if there is nothing done about the situation. If there is retaliation for reporting or the harassment continues, and you lose your job over it; there is a record of the complaint on file should you need to hire an attorney. If you have to, the first visit to an attorney is simply a consultation and that is usually free. Should you and your attorney go to court, the attorney will get his/her fees from the settlement.

I agree that if you are able to report it, to get a copy of the report and request that it be signed and dated. I also agree with keeping a diary of the abuse by whom, what the person did and when. I also agree with the suggestion if possible to record conversations on your cell phone. However, I would not talk to others about it, because of gossip in the work place and the other persons stories could suddenly change when pressed. Or they go to the person who is abusing you and let them know you reported them. The people to talk to is human resources and your attorney.

[BK1110]

If it's happening to you, it's probably happening to others, or will down the line. Reporting is a way to defend others as much as yourself, and we are certainly called to be sacrificial of ourselves for the sake of others, and to value truth and justice.

[Whyme]

If its against the law tell the person that sexual harassment is illegal.

[Whyme]

9 hours ago, Who me said:

Keep a diary of the abuse. Who did or said what and when.

talk to other girls there, do they experience it.

will they also keep a diary and complain with you/

I think just letting the guy know sexual harassment is wrong might be enough. Just the word alone might remedy the problem.

[JohnR7]

9 hours ago, Whyme said:

I think just letting the guy know sexual harassment is wrong might be enough. Just the word alone might remedy the problem.

I remember once a person made a statement about my asian wife that I felt was discriminatory. I asked them about it in a very casual way and they were so sorry and did not have any intention of saying anything that could have been considered to be racist. 

Of course we are always to treat people in a way we would want to be treated. So we should ask ourselves if we did something that others considered to be harassment then how would we want people to approach us about that. I am afraid to do or say something to others that I would not want them to do or say to me. 

We are to "gently reprove" (2Tim2:26) first before we get others involved. In the hope that they will: "come to their senses".  Then if they do not turn away from their sin we are to turn away from them.  If they do not think there is anything wrong with what they are doing then you have every right to have them evaluated. I would think just the threat that they are going to be held accountable would be enough to cause them to stop what they are doing. 

As Christians we are to learn how to use the authority we are given. 

[Willa]

My adult son has an impish habit of  sticking people in the ribs by saying outrageously offensive things like racial slurs when he is trying to shock people and get a reaction from them.  He leaves people asking Did he mean that?, Is he serious or joking?  It often leads to a ridiculous debate.   He especially likes doing this to people who are women's lib.  He met his match with his mother in law, who always swore she would pay him back.  They had a great relationship.