Where are the real men?

[child_of_iam]

It's our 31st anniversary tomorrow! Whoooo hooooooooooo!!!!!!!!

May the Lord bless you two another 31 years! YoooHooo congratulation

[Floatingaxe]

It's our 31st anniversary tomorrow! Whoooo hooooooooooo!!!!!!!!

May the Lord bless you two another 31 years! YoooHooo congratulation

Thank you so much!

[RustyAngeL]

It's our 31st anniversary tomorrow! Whoooo hooooooooooo!!!!!!!!

Congrats sis and may the Lord give you 50 more!

[buckthesystem]

If it makes you feel better I was a real man to the best of my knowledge. So the do exist, and you're not foolish for wanting one. I'd like to think that I still am.

Please don't try to start a family though.

Why is it not a good idea to start a family for her?

[child_of_iam]

It's our 31st anniversary tomorrow! Whoooo hooooooooooo!!!!!!!!

Congrats sis and may the Lord give you 50 more!

May the Lord give you 75 more years

[Floatingaxe]

It's our 31st anniversary tomorrow! Whoooo hooooooooooo!!!!!!!!

Congrats sis and may the Lord give you 50 more!

May the Lord give you 75 more years

Wow! Unless I am Sarah, I doubt that could happen! God is good anyhow!

[RGR]

Ask and ye shall receive!

*guys my age are already divorced with children and lots of baggage;

Okay, I come close to fitting into the 1st category of divorced w/ children. I don't believe I have no baggage, lol! My soon to be ex-wife walked out Christmas and after years of putting up with lying, stealing, and cheating I'm not taking her back!

*guys my age who are single are likely gay or still living at home in their parents basement;

*too many guys my age are still tied to their mother's apron strings;

Oh yes, I am living at home again, but only because I couldn't get her to keep a job and it was the only viable option! I do plan on staying a bit as Mom is helping me with the kids, but I'm not attached to her apron strings, lol!

*guys my age are more interested in X Boxes than in cultivating a relationship;

X-boxes? Nah, not me! I still own an Atari 2600 and a NES Nintendo!

*guys my age want the sex but don't want the exertion of building a life together;

Okay, I don't want to be nasty here, but sex IS NOT all their is to a relationship and SHOULD NOT even be a part of it until the wedding night. The newness even wears off of that after a while, especially after you've worked 8 hour days and dealt with your kids, lol!!!!

Okay, I don't mean to come off that I'm advertising myself, lol! I do intend to date again, but it will be a while as there's nothing even final on my marriage yet. Even after there is, I know it's not wise to date for some time afterwards.

Marnie, can I offer a bit of advice? I've seen your profile picture-you're a very, very cute, and I might say, gorgeous woman! Don't slap me! Any guy who isn't interested in you, well that's his loss! I know it's hard sometimes, but if you don't wait on God's perfect timing, you wind up in the mess that I'm in!

[reconditioned]

If it makes you feel better I was a real man to the best of my knowledge. So the do exist, and you're not foolish for wanting one. I'd like to think that I still am.

Please don't try to start a family though.

Why is it not a good idea to start a family for her?

Suppose everything goes wrong after she has any? Suppose they're born with birth defects or someone abuses them and she doesn't know? What if she marries someone who turns into a monster and she starts drinking and doesn't realize her kid is neglected?

Its not worth the risk is it? Have some compassion for crying out loud. Would you put children through what you went through when you grew up? I just don't want to have to have a person like her on my conscience. I don't want her to throw her life and/or someone else's away foolishly.

I hope she finds a good husband though. Althoug hpersonally I think she's better off not even thinking about associating with humanity any way. She should set her standards higher and better, like an great christian deserves to. People settle for less when they do this sort of thing anyway. I think all a person need is a relationship with God and thats all that's good for them. It's healthier. Anything else could only ruin one's being or something.

[Iryssa]

If it makes you feel better I was a real man to the best of my knowledge. So the do exist, and you're not foolish for wanting one. I'd like to think that I still am.

Please don't try to start a family though.

Why is it not a good idea to start a family for her?

Suppose everything goes wrong after she has any? Suppose they're born with birth defects or someone abuses them and she doesn't know? What if she marries someone who turns into a monster and she starts drinking and doesn't realize her kid is neglected?

Its not worth the risk is it? Have some compassion for crying out loud. Would you put children through what you went through when you grew up? I just don't want to have to have a person like her on my conscience. I don't want her to throw her life and/or someone else's away foolishly.

I hope she finds a good husband though. Althoug hpersonally I think she's better off not even thinking about associating with humanity any way. She should set her standards higher and better, like an great christian deserves to. People settle for less when they do this sort of thing anyway. I think all a person need is a relationship with God and thats all that's good for them. It's healthier. Anything else could only ruin one's being or something.

Oh honey...I can tell you've been hurt in the past...but that's no reason to believe that this is what's going to happen if she has a family. There are good men out there who would make real, good fathers (a bad father is no father at all). We need good people in our lives. Shutting oneself off from humanity is as unhealthy as being in the midst of those who hurt us, because that tends to be what we think about when we're alone too much. If you surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you, you have better things to dwell on.

[anitarose]

If it makes you feel better I was a real man to the best of my knowledge. So the do exist, and you're not foolish for wanting one. I'd like to think that I still am.

Please don't try to start a family though.

Why is it not a good idea to start a family for her?

Suppose everything goes wrong after she has any? Suppose they're born with birth defects or someone abuses them and she doesn't know? What if she marries someone who turns into a monster and she starts drinking and doesn't realize her kid is neglected?

Its not worth the risk is it? Have some compassion for crying out loud. Would you put children through what you went through when you grew up? I just don't want to have to have a person like her on my conscience. I don't want her to throw her life and/or someone else's away foolishly.

I hope she finds a good husband though. Althoug hpersonally I think she's better off not even thinking about associating with humanity any way. She should set her standards higher and better, like an great christian deserves to. People settle for less when they do this sort of thing anyway. I think all a person need is a relationship with God and thats all that's good for them. It's healthier. Anything else could only ruin one's being or something.

Oh honey...I can tell you've been hurt in the past...but that's no reason to believe that this is what's going to happen if she has a family. There are good men out there who would make real, good fathers (a bad father is no father at all). We need good people in our lives. Shutting oneself off from humanity is as unhealthy as being in the midst of those who hurt us, because that tends to be what we think about when we're alone too much. If you surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you, you have better things to dwell on.

Like I said before, be grateful you didn't get what I got---a man that cheated on me with another man for 14 years of marriage.

That's all I will say on that subject. If you want more info, go to the divorce support thread.

Anita & Chikachu