Why get married?

[kittylover0991]

Hey everyone,

There has been a lot of talk about marraige at my church considering that two people from my chuch are getting married in the course of about a month, and I'm wondering as to what the actual purpose of getting married is. I'm not talking about certain aspects that are to be reserved only for marraige (if you catch what I am referring to) but rather, why shoudl one get married? There is a mixed understanding of what getting married is all about because many seem to have a false idea of what "love" really is. Obviously, it isn't all about those pleasures being fulfilled and there is a lot to do with a friendship and growing together and growing closer, but why would someone get married? Paul was never married and sure, I am guessing there are certain aspects of marraige that are great while others take some time, but what is the real reason for getting married and I'm really looking for an answer beyond the word "love" becuase I know that couples develop a greater udnerstanding of love as they go (according to my youth pastor ).

So far these are my thoughts... the reason for getting married, it can't just be for a relationship becuase pp have various relationships all the time, but a marraige relationship shoudl be a closer bond... alright... Then, there is the idea of getting married and growing together in the Lord BUT a marraige is two complete individuals coming together as one flesh .. Then, starting a family and raising them in the Lord so that THEY can grow in the Lord and lead others and serve HIM... but what about those that can't have children and maybe, for whatever reason, can not even adopt? What is the reason/what are the reasons for getting married?

[IreneM]

under the old marriage ideals

a woman was protected

a man was faithful

a family unit was created

a man was head of the home

etc

for a woman it was a home for a man it was lets be honest sex cooking and companionship

and having children for both legally

all good reasons to marry but the main reason was to procreate

marriage was a chruch thing for centurys now it is a legal thing that government has taken over

at one time no liscense was needed now you need one to build a fence lol

Is it valid today yes

to protect ones self but we now have laws that say you don't need marriage just shack up together we have you covered under our new laws

you are no longer a wife or husband you are a signifcant other or a companion or domestic partner

which by passes the marriage deal all together

As a christian Yes we should marry Mans laws change all the time God's laws do not

In Christ

IreneM

[ayin jade]

Im not changing the cat litter. Thats his job.

All kidding around aside, marriage is about bonding. Its a cold world out there. Hubby is there when I feel "needy". Im there when he is "needy". We are supportive of each other.

Marriage is also a type depiction of Jesus and the church. Remember all those times He speaks of the Bride and the Bridegroom?

[IreneM]

I love my hubby dearly would be lost without him in my life

he is a big teaddy bear and yes we could have just lived together but we are both christian and could not do that

We got married even when his kids and mine said it would not last

we have been married for 11 years and only had 4 arguments in all that time

we are beyond child bearing

we got married because we love each other because we did not want to be alone he is 69 i am 58 when his wife died he said he would never marry again the Lord changed his mind and mine as I never wanted to get married again after an abusive relationship made me weary of it but the Lord works wonders and after 11 years we are still happy and we still have what most call a solid relationship built on Christ trust and friendship as we were freinds for years before we got married Same chuch his wife worked with me at police station etc.

Yes love is a component but you can love someone and not want to marry them

Glad you are happy Ester

God Bless

In Christ

IreneM

[Leonard]

Legal marriage is instituted primarily for the protection of children.

[Openly Curious]

Hello Kittylover,

There are many different reasons why couples get married in life as every couples have their own ideas and such and some even have plans they want to fulfill as they've planned their lives for months beforehand.

But for me it was companionship on top of it being the Lord's will for me to marry my husband. I can't have children so my marriage was not to procreate and raise a family in the fear of the Lord. But that doesn't mean that there wasn't a person in which God had for me to walk with in this earth along side. And it is as Ayin Jade said a marriage depicts the bride the church and the bridegroom being Christ and as she said further remember that when you read the scriptures as it makes things more enriched in knowing that truth as I love to watch weddings as that truth becomes more apparent that one day we will all be joined to Christ side and be one with Him forever as He is our husband. I also love reading about various wedding ceremonies and the different traditions within them.

But answer to what you are asking is different for different people cause all have differing ideas in what they are wanting and needing out of a marriage. For me again it was companionship within a commited relationship and like some of the others I need someone to keep me warm and do all the bad jobs around the house. But seriously stay with scriptures and what God wants in a marriage.

OC

[Guest loverofu]

I have been thinking about htis lots. It is not good for man to be alone. I have learned this recently. Though we are not alone Because He will never forsake us. There are many things we GOd cant refine in us (patience, Commitment, lvoe, love love) while we are living outside of community. Also, there has een no greater joy, than seeing my little boy grow up...and yes GOD does intend for us o be fruitful - " Childrn are the rewards of YHWH"! (psalms perhaps). Also, in this last day of this present evil ag, GOD is blasting the devil out of th water. HE is using teams to do it. 2-3 people agreeing in prayer, decreeing a matter are destroying the works of the enemy all over the world. If I could find a prayer warrior woman who walked in purity with GOD I would marry her. Powerful. "Two are better than one. One will put 1000 to flight, 2, 10,000 o fligth. HOWEVER. Dont make the mistake of marrying a woman who is not DOING all JESUS commanded. Better to stay single than have a children to be turned over the laws of the state concerning divorce - been there...not good.

Peace.

[MeCajunboy]

Hey everyone,

There has been a lot of talk about marraige at my church considering that two people from my chuch are getting married in the course of about a month, and I'm wondering as to what the actual purpose of getting married is. I'm not talking about certain aspects that are to be reserved only for marraige (if you catch what I am referring to) but rather, why shoudl one get married? There is a mixed understanding of what getting married is all about because many seem to have a false idea of what "love" really is. Obviously, it isn't all about those pleasures being fulfilled and there is a lot to do with a friendship and growing together and growing closer, but why would someone get married? Paul was never married and sure, I am guessing there are certain aspects of marraige that are great while others take some time, but what is the real reason for getting married and I'm really looking for an answer beyond the word "love" becuase I know that couples develop a greater udnerstanding of love as they go (according to my youth pastor ).

So far these are my thoughts... the reason for getting married, it can't just be for a relationship becuase pp have various relationships all the time, but a marraige relationship shoudl be a closer bond... alright... Then, there is the idea of getting married and growing together in the Lord BUT a marraige is two complete individuals coming together as one flesh .. Then, starting a family and raising them in the Lord so that THEY can grow in the Lord and lead others and serve HIM... but what about those that can't have children and maybe, for whatever reason, can not even adopt? What is the reason/what are the reasons for getting married?

Cajunboy:::: Two cents Worth! God gives us an amazing capacity to Love! Why waste it on my own selfish motives and wants and desires?? Would you be contented to only share your love with a pet?? Do you think that is way God gave us this awesome capacity and everything tied to it?? After 35 years of marriage, I find that she completes me! Without her I would not be complete. I would only be selfish and self-centered and looking after my own needs. And when I very old and wrinkled, I would have a problem telling myself that I'm still a beautiful and wonderful person. The excitement in her eyes and voice when I give her a gift, no matter how cheap or expensive. How exciting would that be to buy something for myself?? Is it as puroseful and surprising when I already know what I want and can't afford??? When she brings me my coffee in the morning to get me started for the day and I carry her off to bed because she's so exhausted at night to get off the sofa from working a long day with insurance customers.

All this to say why we should be together, but I couldn't live with myself if I didn't live by God's Word which tell us , "One woman for one man!" Without it, I believe having sex would be called what........SIN???

And yes, Paul did say that it was better for man not to be married, If he could live without the warmth of a woman, but he also realized that there is so much perversion and sin in the world in this area that he also says, "If you have trouble with temtation of lust, it is better to marry and take a woman! But as for Paul, and his own opinion, he preferred to be single because he could do the work of God more effectively.

Hope that answers some of your questions?

Be Blessed

Cajunboy

BE BLESSED

[Grandtheftcow]

Marriage in the western world brings legal benefits as well as tax benefits.

If you find someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with it's likely in your best interests to get married.

Of course it is a nice reassurance to your parter that you intend to spend the rest of your life with him/her as well.

[peaches]

many many times though, one only hears and sees complaints about being married.