Dealing With Nasty People

[tah]

We are all nasty at one time or another..

The person you talked with may not have meant to be nasty at all..

You don't want to be nasty..they probably don't either..

That is why God gave us those wonderful Scriptures on forgiving and forgiving and forgiving and

....I think I will quit before I get to 70 x's 7 of them..

But I know just how you feel..I know I have sure been nasty at times...

Yup...and the Lord will change us...its a promise...

remember the cute little saying "Lord make my words tender for tomorrow I may have to eat them."

[WayneB]

You asked, "Dealing With Nasty People, What do you do?"

Simple.

IGNORE THEM!

If their opinion holds no value for you AND if they do not hold your respect, why care about anything they have to say?

IGNORE THEM!

Jesus' situation was different. When he rebuked the Pharisees and Sanducees and Herodians, he did so not for their benefit and not for his defense BUT rather the benefit of all those seekers watching and listening. Each and every time, he amazed the crowd with His words.

[senerhu]

Responding in a like manner to people that are nasty sure does seem like the easy way to do things. and heaven knows I've done it. but I know in my heart that its wrong. I try to remember that it is satan who driving that post and the only way to really have a come back is to let Jesus do it for you...

[Fraught]

I was on a tech forum, and I posted a problem I was having with my video card not wanting to play nice with Linux. The technical problem has since been cleared up, but there was another problem in the process. While most of the responses were helpful, one guy or gal was a total jerk.

This person's post was basically "get a real video card instead of the junk you are using" type of reply.

Not real helpful, and I have to confess that my response to his post wasn't exactly "Christlike". I basically replied that if he wanted me to have a new video card, he could send the $500 or so for it, or he could shut up. I apologized later, but at the time it seemed SO appropriate! (And yeah, it felt really great at the time too. )

One of the reasons for that reaction is that I've spent about the last 8-10 years living hand-to-mouth, and although I'm grateful to the Lord for keeping me going, it gets real old. I tend to react badly to folks like that who thoughtlessly say things like the above, or "oh, just go out and buy a new one." It's a sore spot. I try to be reasonable about hardware and other things, and I don't need a $500 video card, so please, its not about envy.

I'd just like to handle this type of thing better, more like Jesus would, rather than biting someone's head off.

BTW: It is NOT my intention to start a discussion on the "prosperity gospel." That's for another thread.

You have overcome! 1) you feel bad about it, 2) you apologized 3) you recognized why you reacted. Great Job! Way to grow in the Spirit. Now it's all a matter of practice. Luckily, you will probably have plenty more opportunities. lol

[shepherdsgrace]

The advice to practice is so important. And also important is to think ahead. Plan to respond right during the day. Speak to the Lord about it as your day begins. Tell Him how you are leaning upon the Holy Spirit and that it is your desire and plan to speak in a manner pleasing to Him. When you fall, apologize if feasible, ask for forgiveness, and start again. It is amazing how more and more you will respond in a way that makes you feel better about your responses and is a blessing to others.

[zecha51]

God will judge them. Don't worry about it. People are nasty sometimes, but not everyone is like that.

Great verse.....

Romans 12:21 "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

It is hard to deal with nasty people, but God sees everything you do and making the creator smile is a great thing. : )

[None]

I was on a tech forum, and I posted a problem I was having with my video card not wanting to play nice with Linux. The technical problem has since been cleared up, but there was another problem in the process. While most of the responses were helpful, one guy or gal was a total jerk.

This person's post was basically "get a real video card instead of the junk you are using" type of reply.

Not real helpful, and I have to confess that my response to his post wasn't exactly "Christlike". I basically replied that if he wanted me to have a new video card, he could send the $500 or so for it, or he could shut up. I apologized later, but at the time it seemed SO appropriate! (And yeah, it felt really great at the time too. )

One of the reasons for that reaction is that I've spent about the last 8-10 years living hand-to-mouth, and although I'm grateful to the Lord for keeping me going, it gets real old. I tend to react badly to folks like that who thoughtlessly say things like the above, or "oh, just go out and buy a new one." It's a sore spot. I try to be reasonable about hardware and other things, and I don't need a $500 video card, so please, its not about envy.

I'd just like to handle this type of thing better, more like Jesus would, rather than biting someone's head off.

BTW: It is NOT my intention to start a discussion on the "prosperity gospel." That's for another thread.

I believe you must be speaking, generally, to young people if you recieve answers like "just go buy a new one". Young people still living with mom and dad, obviously, with no bills besides maybe a car...possibly a credit card, one that gets paid if they can't come up with the money...

...why it's so important to watch what you say. I'm reminding myself as well.

[kari21]

"Dealing With Nasty People, What do you do?"

There is a good reason why they invented tasers....

[Wingwalker]

You want to know what I do now? (now that i know better)

I keep a pleasant tone and tell them to have a good day. When I leave their presence, I offer up a prayer for them to God.

I tell myself that they are just having a bad day. Since we all have bad days from time to time, it just must be their day to have one.

It took a long time to learn this, but it is so much more rewarding that what I used to do, which is pretty much what every one else wants to do.

[Guest Biblicist]

I was on a tech forum, and I posted a problem I was having with my video card not wanting to play nice with Linux. The technical problem has since been cleared up, but there was another problem in the process. While most of the responses were helpful, one guy or gal was a total jerk.

This person's post was basically "get a real video card instead of the junk you are using" type of reply.

Not real helpful, and I have to confess that my response to his post wasn't exactly "Christlike". I basically replied that if he wanted me to have a new video card, he could send the $500 or so for it, or he could shut up. I apologized later, but at the time it seemed SO appropriate! (And yeah, it felt really great at the time too. )

One of the reasons for that reaction is that I've spent about the last 8-10 years living hand-to-mouth, and although I'm grateful to the Lord for keeping me going, it gets real old. I tend to react badly to folks like that who thoughtlessly say things like the above, or "oh, just go out and buy a new one." It's a sore spot. I try to be reasonable about hardware and other things, and I don't need a $500 video card, so please, its not about envy.

I'd just like to handle this type of thing better, more like Jesus would, rather than biting someone's head off.

BTW: It is NOT my intention to start a discussion on the "prosperity gospel." That's for another thread.

My pastor likes to say, he's always thankful for the things he doesn't say in a conversation.

Sometimes the best answer is no answer.

Hey, have you tried Raden's Realm? They talk a lot about Linux there and there is this GREAT tec guy I know. He's really cute, too. Visit Raiden's Realm and tell'm Bib's sent ya! They can help you get cheap parts that run well with Linux!