Toxic People

[Believer1997]

I am blessed to learn of your profession. I have an extreme interest in this field. I thought for the longest time that I wanted to work in criminal justice but now I'm leaning more towards helping others like you do. My step mom was a crisis counselor for years as well, even wrote some books, was a speech therapist, etc. I want to get a degree in Psychology. Have any suggestions? My step mom says one of her biggest battles in that field is having to separate psychology from religion or something along those lines. I may have misunderstood her.

I do this only in a volunteer capacity now. It is a wonderful field and there is a great need for good 'listeners'. I say that because one of the best instructors I ever had said that is all we can hope to be - good listeners who hear not only the words, but what is really being said. It is a very stressful line of work and as I said, I no longer do it as a career. I have the highest respect for those who are dedicated to this work.

[Fez]

I am blessed to learn of your profession. I have an extreme interest in this field. I thought for the longest time that I wanted to work in criminal justice but now I'm leaning more towards helping others like you do. My step mom was a crisis counselor for years as well, even wrote some books, was a speech therapist, etc. I want to get a degree in Psychology. Have any suggestions? My step mom says one of her biggest battles in that field is having to separate psychology from religion or something along those lines. I may have misunderstood her.

I do this only in a volunteer capacity now. It is a wonderful field and there is a great need for good 'listeners'. I say that because one of the best instructors I ever had said that is all we can hope to be - good listeners who hear not only the words, but what is really being said. It is a very stressful line of work and as I said, I no longer do it as a career. I have the highest respect for those who are dedicated to this work.

Said it before, and I will say it again. You are a wonderful, strong woman of God. Forget the sandpaper, and that from an old pot scourer like me Wise words, and words we should all take heed of.

[jesussaves]

More than once those who seem to rub us raw emotionally have sent me running to the Fathers arms. I have learned that He sometimes uses them to not only help us to learn to obey His command to love, but to draw us closer to Him. More than once I have also cried out something like, "Lord, I have had a rough day, please close the mouth of the lion for awhile."

I am sure I, too, have gotten under someones skin more than once. Glad he teaches us love is patient, love is kind... :-)

[Openly Curious]

Believer I love reading what you write. All the time. This is so great. And that later example of sandpaper on wood makes it even more clear.

Have you ever read the book "Hind's Feet on High Places"? The writing style was not really to my liking but because the story was engaging I went right through it. The protagonist's name was called "Much Afriad" and the Lord gave her two helpers to get to his Kigdom on "High Places". Her compainons which were given by the Lord were "Sorrow" and "Suffering". It was a really interesting story and I learned a lot from it. It carries much similar lessons to what you shared with us here..

Title of the book is based on this verse:

Habakkuk 3:19

19The LORD God is my strength, and he will make my feet like hinds' feet, and he will make me to walk upon mine high places.

"Hind's Feet on High Places" is one of my favorite books as the more I read the more I wanted to read. It is an excellent allegory to read.

Excuse, me I don't want to derail the thread

oc

[Believer1997]

Believer I love reading what you write. All the time. This is so great. And that later example of sandpaper on wood makes it even more clear.

Have you ever read the book "Hind's Feet on High Places"? The writing style was not really to my liking but because the story was engaging I went right through it. The protagonist's name was called "Much Afriad" and the Lord gave her two helpers to get to his Kigdom on "High Places". Her compainons which were given by the Lord were "Sorrow" and "Suffering". It was a really interesting story and I learned a lot from it. It carries much similar lessons to what you shared with us here..

Title of the book is based on this verse:

Habakkuk 3:19

19The LORD God is my strength, and he will make my feet like hinds' feet, and he will make me to walk upon mine high places.

"Hind's Feet on High Places" is one of my favorite books as the more I read the more I wanted to read. It is an excellent allegory to read.

Excuse, me I don't want to derail the thread

oc

You certainly didn't. I love the book too...

[JCISGD]

what we see in others is often in us too, thats why we are seeing it. Im a peice of 40 grit.

[Believer1997]

I think we all have within us the nature to be abrasive and an irritant - but we have to overcome those negative feelings. I am praying for a brother now who is affected by someone so abrasive and combative towards him and others. I pray that this person realizes that the very nature of their personality shows an ugliness that is not pleasing to God - no matter how much scripture is quoted. I pray that for today we all walk in the shadow of Jesus and let His Peace be what we strive to have in our lives and our dealings with others. Let us not be divisive but embrace others and show them how He loves us all. Shine the light that the Lord has given all of us... In Jesus' Name. Amen.

[MorningGlory]

I think we all have within us the nature to be abrasive and an irritant - but we have to overcome those negative feelings. I am praying for a brother now who is affected by someone so abrasive and combative towards him and others. I pray that this person realizes that the very nature of their personality shows an ugliness that is not pleasing to God - no matter how much scripture is quoted. I pray that for today we all walk in the shadow of Jesus and let His Peace be what we strive to have in our lives and our dealings with others. Let us not be divisive but embrace others and show them how He loves us all. Shine the light that the Lord has given all of us... In Jesus' Name. Amen.

It's my opinion, from observing many unhappy people, that sometimes they are abrasive and hateful in an attempt to control their world. They feel unloved and uncared for so they throw up roadblocks to avoid being rejected outright. Just call me Glory Freud.

[Believer1997]

I think we all have within us the nature to be abrasive and an irritant - but we have to overcome those negative feelings. I am praying for a brother now who is affected by someone so abrasive and combative towards him and others. I pray that this person realizes that the very nature of their personality shows an ugliness that is not pleasing to God - no matter how much scripture is quoted. I pray that for today we all walk in the shadow of Jesus and let His Peace be what we strive to have in our lives and our dealings with others. Let us not be divisive but embrace others and show them how He loves us all. Shine the light that the Lord has given all of us... In Jesus' Name. Amen.

It's my opinion, from observing many unhappy people, that sometimes they are abrasive and hateful in an attempt to control their world. They feel unloved and uncared for so they throw up roadblocks to avoid being rejected outright. Just call me Glory Freud.

You are absolutely correct - people who are unhappy feel that they have little or no control over the circumstances in their lives - they can be some of the most toxic individuals - It's quite sad isn't it? IMO - happiness is a conscious choice we each make every morning - we can choose to be positive and smile and be happy and thankful for our blessings or we can choose to be irritable, self-involved and make other people as miserable as we are.... not much of a choice in my book ... I work with an 89 year young volunteer every week - her hands almost make me cringe in pain they are so twisted with arthritis - yet, she never complains. If it's raining, she is praising God for the water. She is happy and cheerful and a joy to be around - few people know that she has no family left - her only son died many years ago and she is 'alone' - but yet she's always on the go and surrounded by people in our community and involved in so many things that she's rarely home alone. She is a blessing and if I am so fortunate to be blessed with a 1/4 of her energy and her ability to find the good in all things - I will be happy.

[alljoy123]

AWESOME!!