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Okay, so I have been been hanging out with this woman a few weeks. She has filed for divorce and is seperated from her "husband". However it isn't finalized yet. We have worked with each other for close to a year, just started hanging outside of work. We really click with each other. We havn't done anything sexual. Just enjoying each others conversation, helping each otehr Christmas shopping, etc.... So am i doing anything wrong here? Please give me a straight answer, you don't have to sugarcoat with me. I want honest replies. Thanks in advance and Merry Christmas to all!

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Yes it is wrong. Furthermore, even if one day you could hook up with this woman, I have a feeling that she's going to dump you the same way. None is worth that aggravation.

There ARE women who might be worth the 'aggravation', my friend. Why wouldn't a woman dump an unfaithful husband?

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Because I just get this hunch that this is not the case. Just by the way that the whole thing is presented, I have this feeling she's running around on her husband---- and that definitely is not worth the aggravation. And whether she's wronged or not, two wrongs do not make a right. Trust me, I sense this is toxic.

Let's just call my feelings "man's intuition" :24:

Um, I dumped an unfaithful husband---but I did wait until my divorce was finalized before dating again. Plus, I immediately made arrangements to go into counseling so that I wouldn't make the same mistake again.

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Okay, so I have been been hanging out with this woman a few weeks. She has filed for divorce and is seperated from her "husband". However it isn't finalized yet. We have worked with each other for close to a year, just started hanging outside of work. We really click with each other. We havn't done anything sexual. Just enjoying each others conversation, helping each otehr Christmas shopping, etc.... So am i doing anything wrong here? Please give me a straight answer, you don't have to sugarcoat with me. I want honest replies. Thanks in advance and Merry Christmas to all!

Edit: wasn't sure where to post this question so i chose here, Mods if you feel it's out of place please move it.

Yes it is wrong. Furthermore, even if one day you could hook up with this woman, I have a feeling that she's going to dump you the same way. None is worth that aggravation.

There ARE women who might be worth the 'aggravation', my friend. Why wouldn't a woman dump an unfaithful husband?

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Because I just get this hunch that this is not the case. Just by the way that the whole thing is presented, I have this feeling she's running around on her husband---- and that definitely is not worth the aggravation. And whether she's wronged or not, two wrongs do not make a right. Trust me, I sense this is toxic.

Let's just call my feelings "man's intuition" :24:

You could be right but....you could also be wrong. And when did men get intution??? :P


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You are the one who can answer the question if you have committed adultery or not ...

Matthew 5:27-28

You have heard that it was said to those of old,

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......You could be right but....you could also be wrong. And when did men get intution??? :P

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The Straight Scoop. What Jesus says is truth, heres what He said concerning adultery and divorce.

Matthew 5:27


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It's much more simple for me.

Separate, have nothing to do with her. Nothing. In that way temptation is removed and the relationship tested.

Until after she is divorced, and even then take it slow, no "rebounds".

In this way you honor God, you honor yourself, and you honor her.

But as Onelight said, only you and God know if you have committed adultery.

Is she a Christian?


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Okay, so I have been been hanging out with this woman a few weeks. She has filed for divorce and is seperated from her "husband". However it isn't finalized yet. We have worked with each other for close to a year, just started hanging outside of work. We really click with each other. We havn't done anything sexual. Just enjoying each others conversation, helping each otehr Christmas shopping, etc.... So am i doing anything wrong here? Please give me a straight answer, you don't have to sugarcoat with me. I want honest replies. Thanks in advance and Merry Christmas to all!

Edit: wasn't sure where to post this question so i chose here, Mods if you feel it's out of place please move it.

Um... why are there quote marks around the word husband?


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It's much more simple for me.

Separate, have nothing to do with her. Nothing. In that way temptation is removed and the relationship tested.

Until after she is divorced, and even then take it slow, no "rebounds".

In this way you honor God, you honor yourself, and you honor her.

But as Onelight said, only you and God know if you have committed adultery.

Is she a Christian?

This about sums it up. But I wouldn't call what we have right now no more then a friendship. But I'll admit that in my heart i have already commited adultery and I know she has too. But there is no plans to be physical or even giving each other a kiss unil the divorce is finalized. Not sure if i can simply have nothing to do with her for a few months though!

She believes in God and the son, wouldn't call her "Christian" though but she has a good heart and I think she want to better herself. Again Thank you all for everything posted so far, I respect the honesty. Im trying to learn as much as i can about this.


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Okay, so I have been been hanging out with this woman a few weeks. She has filed for divorce and is seperated from her "husband". However it isn't finalized yet. We have worked with each other for close to a year, just started hanging outside of work. We really click with each other. We havn't done anything sexual. Just enjoying each others conversation, helping each otehr Christmas shopping, etc.... So am i doing anything wrong here? Please give me a straight answer, you don't have to sugarcoat with me. I want honest replies. Thanks in advance and Merry Christmas to all!

Edit: wasn't sure where to post this question so i chose here, Mods if you feel it's out of place please move it.

I don't believe you have done anything yet that could be called adultery, but if you keep on seeing this woman, it will likely lead to adultery. Do you have any idea why she is getting a divorce? Was her husband cheating on her? Unless the divorce is because of she was cheated on, even if it becomes finalized, if she re-marries, it is considered adultery.

Yes she caught him cheaing on here several times and the guy may possibly have gotten another woman pregnant which is why she filed for the divorce. Also think your right, that if i continue to see her too much before its finalized it maylead to adultery. I appreciate the responses so far!

Romans 7----------------------------If this women puts her husband away because of his unfaithful to her then this is biblical ground for divorce to grant unto him a bill or law of divorcement but until she gets those legal papers of her divorce she is still legally married. When this woman and man get the divorce papers the women releases the man to remarry because she put him away and he can remarry. On the women side she should remain single leaving the door open for restoration as if she remarries she would be committing adultery and the one who marries this woman will also be in adultury.

You need to really pray and get the counsel of the Lord on this because it is a very serious matter. The Lord says, in his word "to let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord says bad company corrupts good manners. The Lord says, to shun even the appearance of evil. Even though you get along really good with this woman she is still married and to me it looks bad as you are standing on the side lines just ready to snatch her up I'm sure there will be a lot of gossip on the sidelines because you don'r carry yourself in the public and secret.

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No its not adultery because she is only legally married. Spiritually, she's already divorced and spirituality is all that matters

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