Frustrated.

[LadyKay]

So.......what would happen if you stop giving money to your parents?   My guess would be you would have to put up with some screaming and complaining from them wanting you to hand over your money to them.  But if you are able to get through all of that, you could then have the money saved to move out.  Let them scream and complain about it while you look for your own place to rent. 

Anyway. It sounds like you are being used. It sounds like your mother knows that if she is getting your money you will not be able to leave. She will just keep getting your money from you and keep you stuck there. Not to be rude or anything but you kind of sound like you have become your patent's "cash cow".     Well anyway, that is what I think. 

Edited July 18, 2020 by LadyKay

[Figure of eighty]

47 minutes ago, ReneeIW said:

This is not going to change. It sounds like you are living in a home where the family culture is not conducive to getting ahead or changing your situation for the better. I think you need to come up with a plan of how to get out of the house.

I had a friend years ago that had a baby and she applied for government assistance and went back to college and lived on the college campus with her baby and had all sorts of help in that environment. And of course got a degree and was able to provide for herself.

Family will continue to take advantage of you. They don’t really change unless they are forced to, and even then, it doesn’t happen overnight. 

 

I think I'll do that. Apply for housing-- with Covid though I'm not sure how to go abt it though.

[Marathoner]

2 minutes ago, Figure of eighty said:

I think I'll do that. Apply for housing-- with Covid though I'm not sure how to go abt it though.

This website (click here) is a good place to start. The link takes you to a government website which furnishes information as well as links which will aid you in learning how to do that.

[ReneeIW]

I wouldn’t click on any links.

[ReneeIW]

9 minutes ago, Figure of eighty said:

I think I'll do that. Apply for housing-- with Covid though I'm not sure how to go abt it though.

Yeah everything is tough right now due to Covid. I was thinking more long term. 
 

[Jedi4Yahweh]

3 hours ago, Figure of eighty said:

For saving money- I can't when uber costs 120 a week. And still have a baby sitter to pay. I'm not just throwing money away. 

 

Ive looked at car dealerships ans scouted apartment complexs already. My only solution would be to move in with my bf bc my salary alone would be difficult to live on especislly with a car factored in. 

Then I couldn't save when my mom needes help financially bc my dad refused to work and my mom got laid off. 

I gave her So much money but she needed it. 

 

Now I see why I'm anxious half the time. I get it now.

Its sad that you parents who stay at home can not babysit while you are at work.   Praying for you!  Where is the Father of your children...is he helping?  Most states require the Father to financially support his children.

Edited July 18, 2020 by Jedi4Yahweh

[Marathoner]

On 7/18/2020 at 9:59 AM, ReneeIW said:

I wouldn’t click on any links.

It's a .gov (government) website custom-tailored to help people learn how to apply for housing assistance. In this age of COVID remote assistance is the best one can hope for. 

Edited July 20, 2020 by Marathoner

[Debp]

On 7/16/2020 at 8:17 AM, Figure of eighty said:

They came an hour late and my dad was on the passenger side and kept going pn abt how he wasnt gonna pick me up -- so my mom who works 20 hrs a day ended up doing it. My mom yelled at me called me ungrateful,

Your mom yelled at you because she is overworked and stressed.   She probably feels like yelling at your dad since he isn't doing anything much to help her...but instead she lashed out at you.

Could you ask to pay a certain amount for rent?   Then it should be up to them to budget their expenses with what you give for rent and their other income.   Your dad should certainly contribute to the family income.   He is the man of the household...and you are not.

[Figure of eighty]

1 hour ago, Debp said:

Your mom yelled at you because she is overworked and stressed.   She probably feels like yelling at your dad since he isn't doing anything much to help her...but instead she lashed out at you.

Could you ask to pay a certain amount for rent?   Then it should be up to them to budget their expenses with what you give for rent and their other income.   Your dad should certainly contribute to the family income.   He is the man of the household...and you are not.

 

4 hours ago, Marathoner said:

It's a .gov (government) website custom-tailored to help people learn how to apply for housing assistance. In this age of COVID remote assistance is the best one can hope for. 

Ok. Thank you for this

[Figure of eighty]

On 7/18/2020 at 11:23 AM, LadyKay said:

So.......what would happen if you stop giving money to your parents?   My guess would be you would have to put up with some screaming and complaining from them wanting you to hand over your money to them.  But if you are able to get through all of that, you could then have the money saved to move out.  Let them scream and complain about it while you look for your own place to rent. 

Anyway. It sounds like you are being used. It sounds like your mother knows that if she is getting your money you will not be able to leave. She will just keep getting your money from you and keep you stuck there. Not to be rude or anything but you kind of sound like you have become your patent's "cash cow".     Well anyway, that is what I think. 

Yeah I did that once and got yelled at. I helped My mom until she got another job so everything's somewhat ok. Just when stress levels are high I get the brunt of it. 

Which for the most part is why I cling to my bf for support.