What is the difference between love and sex?

[prayforusall]

What is the difference between love & sex-?

while I was a teenager, the term “sex” was not a term spoken among my circles.  I grew up believing intercourse was for the procreation of children. I still believe this, only--------

At the same time, I had a few girlfriends. We held hands, kissed each other from time to time and continued a great relationship; but I never considered this “sex”.

I eventually married and now I am a grandfather several time over.

My desire to have children has long since passed; I am a grandfather several times over, but I still enjoy the company of a woman. Having said the above, I now wonder if my joy of having the company of a women; a feeling of “sex” or one of “love”; or is there a difference-?

In short is it sinful to enjoy the company of a woman knowing marriage is not an option.

Just asking

No animosity intended or implied

Just curious

 

[appy]

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[other one]

48 minutes ago, prayforusall said:

In short is it sinful to enjoy the company of a woman knowing marriage is not an option.

that would probably depend on what one would consider the company of a woman and if you are married.

I am not sure I want to discuss that on the open site.

 

[Selah7]

I feel this is an inappropriate topic for this forum, prayforusall, but heyyy, welcome to the forum!  

[missmuffet]

Love :

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

 

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Sex is lust.

[Willa]

Love includes a strong commitment.  It desires what is best for the other person, laying down one's own desires and rights for her, and desires to keep the relationship pure in God's eyes.  If you are married to one woman but want the companionship of another you are falling into the tempter's hands and running head long toward the edge of the cliff.  

Sex includes strong desire and even lust.  It is selfish when not bridled by godliness and compassion.  

Eph 5:25  Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,  Eph 5:26  that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,  Eph 5:27  so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

 

 

[BK1110]

Love is a choice to place another's needs above and before your own. It spurs you to action on behalf of it's target. Intercourse can certainly spring from and be guided by love, as it should be.

[johnthebaptist]

13 hours ago, prayforusall said:

What is the difference between love & sex-?

while I was a teenager, the term “sex” was not a term spoken among my circles.  I grew up believing intercourse was for the procreation of children. I still believe this, only--------

At the same time, I had a few girlfriends. We held hands, kissed each other from time to time and continued a great relationship; but I never considered this “sex”.

I eventually married and now I am a grandfather several time over.

My desire to have children has long since passed; I am a grandfather several times over, but I still enjoy the company of a woman. Having said the above, I now wonder if my joy of having the company of a women; a feeling of “sex” or one of “love”; or is there a difference-?

In short is it sinful to enjoy the company of a woman knowing marriage is not an option.

Just asking

No animosity intended or implied

Just curious

 

Jesus commanded us to love God with all our hearts, minds, and souls, and love our neighbors as ourselves (Mattew 22:34-40). However, it is a sin to fornicate (Mark 7:21), look lustfully at another person (Mark 5:28), or engage in homosexual activity (Leviticus 18:22).

[appy]

God gave us different TYPES of love. Eros, Storge, Philia, and Agape. All of these are Greek words used to describe the different types of love;

The one that is most often asked about is “Eros”. Eros is limited to romantic love. Which is characterized by physical attraction and sexual desire. This type of love is wholly right and good within the boundaries of marriage between a man and a woman. This kind of love outside of marriage is sin.

God created this type of love to be shared between a husband and wife as part of a loving marriage relationship, NOT merely for the purpose of procreation. In the first part of 1 Corinthians 7, we read that a husband and a wife “belong” to each other and have rights to each other and to NOT deny each other the rights. So within the confines of marriage, Eros is to be celebrated and enjoyed.

“storge” describes the love that occurs between family members. It is the affectionate bond between a parent and child, and between siblings, that occurs naturally within families. This is not the same as the love we would have for those outside of family members.

“philia” is the most general type of human love which is the encompassing love for fellow humans, care, respect, and compassion for people in need. And is NOT to be confused with eros.

"philostorgos" is unique to Christianity. And describes a brotherly love in which God calls his children to love each other with the deep affection of storge love.

And finally we come to “agape” This Greek word describes God's immeasurable, incomparable love for humankind. It is the divine love that comes from God. Agape love is perfect, unconditional, sacrificial, and pure.

 

[JohnR7]

On 7/11/2021 at 8:14 PM, prayforusall said:

a feeling of “sex” or one of “love”; or is there a difference-?

There is a bonding hormone, oxytocin. You hear about sugar daddy relationship between older men and younger women. Also this is common with an older man getting married to a younger women from a third world nation. I would think the younger women becomes more of a caregiver.  Although they could still have a degree of intimacy and work with whatever limitations they have to work with. I know a girl right now who is looking for an older man to help her get a greencard and she is willing to take care of him for the rest of his life in exchange for his help to get her citizenship.  Although I am sure they are hoping that he will leave her the house or leave her something when he dies. Of course there are older women who would like an arrangement like this also. Age has very little to do with it. These women can be very loving and strong in faith.