8 ways we're judged by others

[MorningGlory]

This is not about Biblical judgment but rather the type we face on an everyday basis.  I can totally see that most of us judge, and are judged, by the following....what do y'all think?

 

http://finance.yahoo.com/news/8-small-things-people-judge-160047114.html

[Openly Curious]

I think the article was very interesting as well as spot on, in how people do notice the smaller things to judge us by.

#3 I thought was good advice.

#4 got me to wondering about my own self as I don't know if I look in my cup or over it when I'm drinking as I've never noticed that about myself. Now I'll have to ask somebody. lol

[ayin jade]

1. Your handshake

 

I admit, I do evaluate the way someone shakes my hand. I dont judge their personality over it but it does seem to affect the way I react to them. 

 

2. Whether you show up on time

 

I am a bit obsessive over being on time. My hubby isnt. He really needs to be lol.

 

My pastor though does judge folks on it. If they tend to be late to the service, he takes that as a mark against them for possible service to the church. 

 

3. How you treat restaurant staff

 

Any staff, whether its a shop or restaurant. If someone tends to be rude to them, that is a black mark against them for sure. 

 

4. Where you look when you drink out of a cup

 

Not something I ever considered lol.

 

5. Whether you bite your nails

 

Not something I ever considered. Since my nails have to be almost nonexistent to play the harp, I wonder how that would be perceived. 

 

6. Your handwriting

 

When I was a teen, I developed an artistic handwriting style (big and open) because I thought it suited me lol. I didnt like the cramped handwriting I see people have. 

 

7. How often you check your phone

 

Ok I admit that one does affect how I view someone. If you are talking to me, pay attention to me. If you are checking your phone, Im mentally checking out too.

 

8. Whether you make eye contact

 

I dont do eye contact much. Ive heard that someone with something to hide doesnt make eye contact (like liars when confronted). Im just afraid of looking crosseyed lol so I dont make much eye contact. Yes Im insecure lol.

[oldzimm]

I believe number 8 (eye contact) might be the most important. Number 1 (the handshake) I heard many times is important but I'm afraid of breaking someones hand (specially elderly people), I mean do we squeeze their hand until they say uncle? The next time I drink out of a cup I must pay attention to where I look (that's a new one), I guess I look at the cup because I don't want to miss my mouth.

 

Oldzimm

[missmuffet]

First impressions.Sometimes they are important.Sometimes they are correct and sometimes they are not regarding a person's character and intregrity

 

1. Some people think a strong handshake is important.I being a female have shaken many hands and sometimes men want to give me a limp fish handshake just because I am a female.I prefer to give a strong handshake.I have had some who will not let you touch their hands.A possible OCD issue?I think this is more of a guy thing.

2.I think it is important for a person to show up on time.It is rude to make a person wait for a long time.Kind of like their time is more important than the person they have the appointment with.

3.I like to get courteous and efficient service if I am going out to a restaurant.I am alway kind.If I have a server who is rude they simply do not get a tip.   

4.I do not see the importance of looking up if you are drinking out of a cup.No big deal to me.
5.It is not my business if someone bites their nails.I am not controlling. 

6.I have seen some horrible hand writing in my life.I know that sometimes businesses want a person to print because they need to actually tell what they are saying but I do not see why someone would be judged by their handwriting.I have known some pretty decent people with horrible handwriting.
7.If a person is judging how often person checks their phone it is just a controlling issue or an "It is all about me" issue.

8.Some people can not make eye contract.This is almost impossible for many with Autism.Also for some who have a social anxiety issue.

[MorningGlory]

The only ones that concern me are the handshake (I can't stand a limp handshake) and the nail biting thing; that will drive me straight up the wall!  I literally can't look at someone who is biting their nails.  Sets my teeth on edge.   I had to literally stop and pay attention to where I look when I take a drink because I had never thought about it and I've never noticed what anyone else does either.  It's amazing what people judge each other on, eh?

[Ezra]

This is not about Biblical judgment but rather the type we face on an everyday basis.  I can totally see that most of us judge, and are judged, by the following....what do y'all think?

 

http://finance.yahoo.com/news/8-small-things-people-judge-160047114.html

Rapid assessment would be more like it.  And these indicators do tell a lot about ourselves. 

[missmuffet]

The only ones that concern me are the handshake (I can't stand a limp handshake) and the nail biting thing; that will drive me straight up the wall!  I literally can't look at someone who is biting their nails.  Sets my teeth on edge.   I had to literally stop and pay attention to where I look when I take a drink because I had never thought about it and I've never noticed what anyone else does either.  It's amazing what people judge each other on, eh?

Hmmmm interesting.

[missmuffet]

I am more concerned with those who break the law everyday.Speeding,using their cell phone and texting(which is against the law in my state) going through red lights and jaywalking.I mean no one pays attention to those things anymore and they are the law.

[ricky]

1, I like a good strong handshake, shows confidence.

2, I think it is respectful to show up on time, I would agree with Jade's pastor about people showing u on time for church, again showing up on time shows commitment.

3, I am not really a waiter, bur a fast food cashier, I have been treated with great kindness and respect by some people, and like a complete load of skybalon (some of you will get this) by others, it is very hard not to judge people in this way.

4, I don't really notice, but then I look into the cup, so am not very observant. 

5, I don't notice. 

6, I don't really take this into consideration, I have very small and usually illegible writing myself, so I can't judge people. 

7, This to me is a nervousness and insecurity. 

8, Eye contact for me is a huge obstacle, as I find it hard to make eye contact with people, and yes I get judged on it. It is something I am working on. 

Edited July 15, 2015 by saved_ricky