was I wrong? (pornographic cigarette lighter)

[other one]

if I had brought the lighter into my house I might have had it used on me...   wives should not have to tolerate such things...  actually you should be upset about it...

[BeauJangles]

2 minutes ago, other one said:

if I had brought the lighter into my house I might have had it used on me...   wives should not have to tolerate such things...  actually you should be upset about it... 

I wholeheartedly agree. 

On 7/11/2019 at 11:27 AM, BeauJangles said:

That's right. Lower the boom, I say!  LOL

re-post - case in point...

[Figure of eighty]

Sorry i do think it's wrong for the simple fact it wasnt your property. Who's ever it was he spent his money on it.. I think you should have confronted your husband about the image and his friends instead of defacing an item that didn't belong to you. 

Just my 2 cents.

[Figure of eighty]

11 hours ago, Billiards Ball said:

I'm surprised that everyone here felt it was appropriate to "witness" to the friend by destroying his property, unasked, and to create a marriage rift by acting childish toward a spouse's friend.

I understand the OP but like you i dont agree with defacing an object that doesnt belong to you. But the situation is resolved which is good but i think she should replace it though.

[Prycejosh1987]

On 7/11/2019 at 1:26 PM, Thewhitedove said:

My husband is a non believer and occasionally smokes when he drinks alcohol. He goes to a bar some nights with his friend, who I actually find quite creepy.

A few weeks ago, the friemd had lent my husband a cigarette lighter with the photo of a naked woman printed on it. Last night my husband was out and I came across the lighter. I dont know what took over me, but I peeled off the image of the naked woman (well, she looked about age 20 max) and put it in the bin. 

This morning my husband saw what i had done and said that he had to give the lighter back to the friend and that I shouldn't have done that as it wasn't mine to destroy.  I just didnt want it in my house and I felt repulsed at the thought of who had manipulated or exploited the girl in the pic To pose for that photo.

Was I wrong?  Should I say sorry to the friend? At the time I wasnt really sure if my husband was supposed to give it back though at the time, I didnt care.

Help!

Thanks

Everyone has their own views, things like this should always be discussed before taking action.