Is it strange to not see yourself getting married?

[Who me]

None of us know the futre, so don't close it off.

Work at your career, work at whatever you do in church and socialising, talk to people, take an interest in them.

You don't know who is around the corner.

Suggestion.

                        If you find yourself talking to a girl two sundays in a row, make a point of talking longer to her. Ask if she'd like to meet or go for coffee away from the church or social situation. See where that goes.

[other one]

On 2/6/2018 at 8:01 AM, GreyDestiny said:

Like... A guy does get lonely. I've thought about what it would be like to have a wife before and the thought certainly isn't unappealing. However, at the same time, the "me" in these thoughts just doesn't really add up to myself. It sounds rather silly, but I think everyone has exaggerated ideas of themselves. Consider it like one of those macho-one-man-army action movies where the muscular actor walks away from an explosion without even blinking and then takes down 50+ other guys using only his left leg. The male fantasy, in a nutshell. In my mind, I can end up being romantic, mysterious, funny... But in a realistic sense, i'm none of those. 

I don't understand the concept of romance. Mysterious is subjective; yeah, I might not talk much, but it's really because I don't know what to say or have anything to say. I'm not good with jokes, and typically, the jokes that make me laugh are a bit... Frowned upon. I don't like to get out much at all and i'm a rather boring person, even by boring standards. This may all sound like i'm putting myself down, but i'm not; i'm alright with how I am.

I'm just always a bit torn on it. I get lonely and feel like a wife would be nice, but at the same time, I just can't see myself with anyone. Not to mention how hard it would be to find someone who's compatible to begin with.

Well, I don't see anything wrong with that at all Grey...   I was much like that myself back in 1969....    then one day I walked into the Dairy Queen and my whole life turned upside down...

Don't worry about it if it's in your future and you are a born again Christian, it will just happen....   and if he has other plans for you that's perfectly ok also...   There are ways of fighting loneliness without a wife..    You can have some really good conversation here for instance...      I personally have some very close friends on Facebook that speak to each other on closed groups that help....    I spent nearly 40 years with Xerox in offices meeting and talking with people all day long and the ten years since I retired I've found other ways of not being lonely.  Church, exercising at the YMCA  worthy and facebook all take up a lot of time... 

Oh, btw, the girl at the Dairy Queen.....    she's in the living room watching TV this 50 years later.

[Billiards Ball]

On 2/6/2018 at 9:01 AM, GreyDestiny said:

Like... A guy does get lonely. I've thought about what it would be like to have a wife before and the thought certainly isn't unappealing. However, at the same time, the "me" in these thoughts just doesn't really add up to myself. It sounds rather silly, but I think everyone has exaggerated ideas of themselves. Consider it like one of those macho-one-man-army action movies where the muscular actor walks away from an explosion without even blinking and then takes down 50+ other guys using only his left leg. The male fantasy, in a nutshell. In my mind, I can end up being romantic, mysterious, funny... But in a realistic sense, i'm none of those. 

I don't understand the concept of romance. Mysterious is subjective; yeah, I might not talk much, but it's really because I don't know what to say or have anything to say. I'm not good with jokes, and typically, the jokes that make me laugh are a bit... Frowned upon. I don't like to get out much at all and i'm a rather boring person, even by boring standards. This may all sound like i'm putting myself down, but i'm not; i'm alright with how I am.

I'm just always a bit torn on it. I get lonely and feel like a wife would be nice, but at the same time, I just can't see myself with anyone. Not to mention how hard it would be to find someone who's compatible to begin with.

Not interested in romance but interested in sex/companionship? Possibly, you should get married, yes, possibly, not. As the Lord leads.

But if you wish to get married, the Bible says whoever FINDS a wife finds a good thing from the Lord. We don't "pray for a spouse" we pray for a person to court to become our spouse.

[JoniSteele]

I was married, had a daughter, divorced after 5 years of marriage, then both me and my ex-husband became Christians. At the point where we both reconciled and were thinking of re-marrying, he died of cancer. I am joyful that we will both be in Heaven but often wonder what would have happened if he had lived and we had gotten together again. Would we have stayed together? Would there have been another divorce? Is God keeping me single because I made a mess of my first marriage and He doesn't trust me with another one? So many questions. However, I am single and there is a purpose for it in His perfect plan. So, I'm learning to live with it. 

[Prycejosh1987]

On 2/6/2018 at 2:01 PM, GreyDestiny said:

Like... A guy does get lonely. I've thought about what it would be like to have a wife before and the thought certainly isn't unappealing. However, at the same time, the "me" in these thoughts just doesn't really add up to myself. It sounds rather silly, but I think everyone has exaggerated ideas of themselves. Consider it like one of those macho-one-man-army action movies where the muscular actor walks away from an explosion without even blinking and then takes down 50+ other guys using only his left leg. The male fantasy, in a nutshell. In my mind, I can end up being romantic, mysterious, funny... But in a realistic sense, i'm none of those. 

I don't understand the concept of romance. Mysterious is subjective; yeah, I might not talk much, but it's really because I don't know what to say or have anything to say. I'm not good with jokes, and typically, the jokes that make me laugh are a bit... Frowned upon. I don't like to get out much at all and i'm a rather boring person, even by boring standards. This may all sound like i'm putting myself down, but i'm not; i'm alright with how I am.

I'm just always a bit torn on it. I get lonely and feel like a wife would be nice, but at the same time, I just can't see myself with anyone. Not to mention how hard it would be to find someone who's compatible to begin with.

Go out there and socialise with women and get yourself a partner, if you want it to badly, you don't have to remain single unless you were convicted to in your heart and have been chosen for special works which require effort and sacrifice. Remember that anybody can make a relationship work with anybody, but obviously we should take precautions as people of age and as Christians.