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Darian, perhaps it is the part of the USA you are from that has given you and your family these bad experiences? You are from the South, aren't you? Please try to remember that you are a child of God through our Lord Jesus. Love your enemies, pray for them, overcome evil with good. It might be difficult, but doing these things can help replace the hurts you have suffered. God bless you and lift you up.

It definitely sounds like he is not a Christian, or if he is, he is a very carnal Christian. If I were you, I would drop him like a hot potato! If he gives you this much grief and sorrow now, what would marriage be like with him? Probably would be much, much worse. Break it off with him and, with the Lord's help, try to find a loving Christian man who will love and honor you....not give you hurt and sorrow.

JesusIsLord, just confess your sins to the Lord and accept His cleansing and righteousness (1 John 1:9, If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.). Then rest in Jesus.... realize He took your sins and now has given you His righteousness....this is called imputed righteousness. Of course, we should seek to walk with the Lord in our daily lives, but please do not be so driven about this. Our Christian Life is not about being driven but about resting in the love and comfort of our dear Savior.

Is the Korean Church you attend a wealthy church? If so, I would give more to the other churches you mentioned that are in real need financially. I live in an area of Los Angeles called Koreatown and the Koreans here are very wealthy, have very good jobs and many businesses, etc. They have multitudes of Korean churches here and support them. Also, as some others mentioned, don't over think things....God bless!

Praying for both of you and your child...may all concerned forgive each other and be reconciled, including her parents. They are all probably so upset with the situation that they are all taking it out on you. Have you asked forgiveness from her parents? If true reconciliation occurs, prayerfully consider marriage. Many have been in your situation and have gone on to raise their child together in marriage.

I am single and much older than you, however I always believed I had a single calling... therefore, I am ok with being single. I also know quite a few single ladies including a missionary lady and each is accepting of their singleness. If you truly have a desire to marry (not because people think you should), then I hope you will try to meet some nice Christian men either at church or by volunteering with other Christians. Make some friendships first and maybe something more will come of the friendships. Since you live at home, as some others suggested, perhaps you can take that opportunity to take some classes, to learn a skill. If you aren't working right now, the classes could help you in getting even a part time job and it would be good experience for you. Or even if you get an entry level job, it would give you some experience in life. But whatever your circumstances, don't feel pressured to marry just because you think you should be married. It's better to be single and content, rather than to end up in a bad marriage.

Hi and welcome. I recommend that you seek to meditate on comforting promises from God in His Word, the Bible. Every time you start to get anxiety, remember some of the verses to help calm yourself down. I hope you have already believed on Jesus as your own, personal Savior, because then you will have the help of the Holy Spirit, too, in your heart/life. Learn to turn your problems over to the Lord, especially when you are getting anxious. Also, try to take things a little easier in your life...take a walk, look at God's beautiful creation. Even if you live in a city, look for something beautiful to thank God for. As you get more of God's Word in your mind and heart so you can trust in Him, and seek to be thankful, hopefully, the anxiety will lessen more and more. Just a few comforting verses for you: Come unto Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 The Lord also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble. Psalm 9:9 Cast your burden upon the Lord, and He shall sustain you:. He shall never suffer the righteous to be moved. Psalm 55:22 The fear of man brings a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe. Proverbs 29:25

Justin Adams was talking about psychiatrists and psychologists.

Not everyone is able to fast...some might get low blood sugar and feel faint, or actually faint. I usually can only fast for several hours. I think the main reason to fast is to feel closer to the Lord... it's not about following any rule.

The Lord be with you, help you and strengthen you. I have two family members that were given only months to live....many years later, they are still with us and doing well. Yes, their doctors were wrong...

Hi, welcome! Yes, please don't be so hard on yourself. Give yourself time to grow spiritually by reading the Bible and praying. As you grow in your relationship with the Lord, the Holy Spirit will guide you into what to say or you will have opportunities that will open the way to speak of Christ. Always remember 1 John 1:9 -- If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Also, we need to do some daily activities or even some fun things in life....as long as you have your daily quiet time with the Lord, it's okay to have fun! Even when you are playing the piano or doing some fun activity, the Lord is with you!

If you are a Christian, please saturate your mind with the Bible. The Word of God has healing power and can heal your mind. If you are not a Christian, please ask for forgiveness, receive Christ as your Savior...and then continue to pray and read the Bible so your mind can be helped and healed. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

Sorry I don't know how to help you with legal matters. All I can suggest is that you tell a lawyer your story.

I agree, be kind to her. I hope the pastor is kind and will talk to her in a concerned, kind way since she might be suicidal. About the dirty jokes, you might tell her that those makes you feel uncomfortable because you are seeking to walk with the Lord in your daily life. Because you are being kind to her, she might respond to you. When she talks about suicide, maybe you can tell her how your relationship with Jesus and reading the Bible has helped you. Even if she doesn't seem interested, this might be making an impact on her. Perhaps by her manner of dress and dirty jokes, she is trying to see what reactions Christians will give to her. Your kindness and Christian love is what everyone should be offering to her.

Women respond to love, not punishment from their husbands. I agree you and she should seek counseling from a godly pastor. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it;... Ephesians 5:25 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:28 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Colossians 3:19 Likewise, husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7

Dilaralara, someone told me you might also try contacting the organization "Voice of the Martyrs" for help in getting out of Turkey. Do try Christian Aid Mission though because they are in contact with ministries in the Middle East... including one that helps former Muslims escape. They also help some ministries in Turkey. P.S. Wise advice from Marilyn to still show respect and love to your father. Also, this might soften his heart towards you. Also, praying for your family to become Christians....that would be the best outcome!

I still think because our sister is a young lady, she should seek to get help from a Christian ministry. They can provide her with finances for travel, shelter, food and help her to get established in a new country. Btw, Dilaralara, if you are interested in becoming an R.N. (registered nurse), there is a shortage of nurses in the USA. I know of an Iraqi Christian that was able to emigrate to the USA because she was a nurse.

Dear Dilaralara, please do not take your own life. I have some suggestions for you. Is it possible for you to make contact with some Christian ministries or an Evangelical church, either in person or by phone? If so, p!ease explain to them what you have told us. I know there are ministries that would try to help you. There is also a ministry in the Middle East that helps former Muslims to escape their persecution. You might also email Christian Aid Mission and tell them your plight. They know ministries in the Middle East. You can find their email at their website http://www.christianaid.org I think it's best for you to try to get help from a ministry, rather than going it alone because you will need financial support. Also, it would be safer for you, a young lady. Since your father checks your browser history, etc, I wonder if you can use someone else's computer or phone? Today is Christmas so that's probably why you haven't received replies yet.... people busy celebrating our Lord's birth. We love you and will be praying for you. Keep us informed. The Lord give you His peace and strength as you go through this.

I try to turn things like what you described over to the Lord. Sometimes it's all we can do....when you are starting to feel so bad, say to the Lord, "Lord, I give this situation to you, please help this person or situation.". Then try to remember it's all in the Lord's hands... I also avoid watching some videos on YouTube. I am an animal lover and they often put those sad videos up while I'm watching something else. So I just don't watch them...

All good advice given to you already. Yes, you should pray for him, but you need to let go of him and continue growing in Christ. Perhaps he will eventually change, but you don't want to hold onto this relationship if he is continuing a sinful lifestyle and doesn't seem to care about it. Get to know some Christian men for fellowship and who knows what will happen?

What about using that air freshener that doesn't just mask odors, but it removes odors from the air? Not a permanent fix, but might help...

The following verse is so helpful to all of us....I hope you will take it to your heart and mind: If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 Remember, God loves you because you are His child through Jesus Christ as your personal Savior. No matter what, He still loves you. And if people fail you, remember the Lord will never fail you. And, look up, you are still young! Your whole life is before you!

An interesting story which turns into a lovely story....well worth taking the time to read through it.

I do enjoy Christmas and, of course, I remember the birth of Christ. I think it's good. Anything that can help people to hear about Christ is good. There are alot of Christmas carols with much meaning played even in stores. They contain the message of why Christ came... imagine a person that has never heard this, but they hear it through a Christmas Carol. Others are more likely to accept your invitation to go with you to church around Christmas. Perhaps that will be their opportunity to hear more of Christ and His salvation. Also, a mission helping indigenous missionaries reports that people are eager to attend Christmas functions....even Muslims and Hindus go...and they hear the message of Christ. Also, there are opportunities to buy Christmas cards with the message of why Christ came, or write a note in the card yourself....and give the cards to your neighbors and families. Instead of debating about Christmas, why don't we all look for ways to tell about Christ at this joyous time of year?

Robert, you are misunderstanding what I am saying. The above is what I said. You seem to like to contend with people, rather than trying to understand what we are really saying. Again, if people reject Christ's offer of salvation, then their sins are not forgiven, not atoned for.