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I'm getting a lot of persecution from my family..


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mainly from my Dad because I don't want a wife or have kids.

Has anybody experienced this?

My brother is also a big time atheist and hates me whenever I discuss God with him.

I feel like I'm being backed into a corner by society's standards and requirements. :(



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I have scripture for you dealing with this subject.  Matthew 10:34-39

 

Think not that I am come to send peace on earth:  I am not come to send peace, but a sword.  For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.  And a man's foes shall be they of his own household.  He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me:  and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.  And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.  He that findeth his life shall lose it:  and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it. 

 

Then there is Acts 7:25-28

 

Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord:  yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.  I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress I say, that it is good for a man so to be.  Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed.  Art thou loosed from a wife?  seek not a wife.  But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned.   Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh:  but I spare you. 



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mainly from my Dad because I don't want a wife or have kids.

Has anybody experienced this?

My brother is also a big time atheist and hates me whenever I discuss God with him.

I feel like I'm being backed into a corner by society's standards and requirements. :(

It is your choice whether you want a wife and children.You will probably get alot of negative views on that.You just have to be firm with your decision.If God does want you to have a wife he will put someone in your life that will take your breath away. :mgcheerful: You will not even know what hit you.Your brother worships satan.Every non- believer does.If you have told him about Jesus Christ then let God do the rest.Although do pray for him often.



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I myself was in that same situation in the early 70's.  Not wanting to get married, just date.  Kids were not even a thought.  Bopeep 1909  is correct, if God puts someone in your life, it will take your breath away.  It happened to me.  Thank you Lord.  Of course if He does not, then be sure that others know that you accept it. 

 

Pray for your brother and continue to lead through example as you must already be doing now.

 

Society's requirements are truly tough in a secular world.  Sometimes they are less than understanding.  In the case of marriage, don't take great offense to people that exalt marriage.  They probably don't see your particular situation as comfortable to themselves.  

 

GBU.....1x1



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If God does want you to have a wife he will put someone in your life that will take your breath away. :mgcheerful: You will not even know what hit you...

 

Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress I say, that it is good for a man so to be. Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

 

I don't know what these things mean, I'm sorry guys.

Isn't there scripture that states that I would have to go out and look for a wife if I wanted a wife?

I'm 32 years old, what is he waiting for if he's gonna drop this awesome woman in my lap?

When it comes to the "mysteries" of God, my patience is sort of low..sorry. :(



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If God does want you to have a wife he will put someone in your life that will take your breath away. :mgcheerful: You will not even know what hit you...

 

Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress I say, that it is good for a man so to be. Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

 

I don't know what these things mean, I'm sorry guys.

Isn't there scripture that states that I would have to go out and look for a wife if I wanted a wife?

I'm 32 years old, what is he waiting for if he's gonna drop this awesome woman in my lap?

When it comes to the "mysteries" of God, my patience is sort of low..sorry. :(

 

The most important thing of all is to not seek a woman on your own.Sometimes a guy says he will never get married it is just not his thing and sometimes God will allow that.But sometimes you could meet someone unexpectedly.You never know.....



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The most important thing of all is to not seek a woman on your own.

 

What do you mean here. What about Matt 7:7. Unexpectedly is the way to go? What about that ol' saying, "if you don't put yourself out there then you'll never know."



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If God does want you to have a wife he will put someone in your life that will take your breath away. :mgcheerful: You will not even know what hit you...

 

Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress I say, that it is good for a man so to be. Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

 

I don't know what these things mean, I'm sorry guys.

Isn't there scripture that states that I would have to go out and look for a wife if I wanted a wife?

I'm 32 years old, what is he waiting for if he's gonna drop this awesome woman in my lap?

When it comes to the "mysteries" of God, my patience is sort of low..sorry. :(

 

He is not saying that if you desire a wife, you shouldn't put yourself out there.  He is giving advise that it is preferable to be single because you will have more time to dedicate yourself to the Lord.  He goes on to say that if you do choose to marry, there is nothing wrong with it.  Paul was not married, and I gave you that scripture to show you from scripture there is nothing wrong or odd about you if you choose to remain single.  It is 100 percent your choice, and you shouldn't let others pressure you into marriage if you are not ready.  You might change your mind down the road, but that is up to you.



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The most important thing of all is to not seek a woman on your own.

 

What do you mean here. What about Matt 7:7. Unexpectedly is the way to go? What about that ol' saying, "if you don't put yourself out there then you'll never know."

 

Yes just your everyday living.Heck,it could be at the grocery store.



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Yes just your everyday living.Heck,it could be at the grocery store.

 

You really think God can work like that? If so for example, HOW in the world does he get that woman in the same building as that man at 3:30 in the afternoon on that specific day in that city knowing this woman and man have the same desires? How would you know that person came from God's will? Blessings.



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Yes just your everyday living.Heck,it could be at the grocery store.

 

You really think God can work like that? If so for example, HOW in the world does he get that woman in the same building as that man at 3:30 in the afternoon on that specific day in that city knowing this woman and man have the same desires? How would you know that person came from God's will? Blessings.

 

Are you kidding?God can do anything.That is the way He works.This world is like a stage and He is the director. :mgcheerful: Well,you would pray about her.Of course you do not want to continue a relationship if it is not Biblical.Like if she is not a Christian and you are.



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Yes just your everyday living.Heck,it could be at the grocery store.

 

You really think God can work like that? If so for example, HOW in the world does he get that woman in the same building as that man at 3:30 in the afternoon on that specific day in that city knowing this woman and man have the same desires? How would you know that person came from God's will? Blessings.

 

Are you kidding?God can do anything.That is the way He works.This world is like a stage and He is the director. :mgcheerful:

 

 

Yeah but how does he do it? haha. :)



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Yes just your everyday living.Heck,it could be at the grocery store.

 

You really think God can work like that? If so for example, HOW in the world does he get that woman in the same building as that man at 3:30 in the afternoon on that specific day in that city knowing this woman and man have the same desires? How would you know that person came from God's will? Blessings.

 

Are you kidding?God can do anything.That is the way He works.This world is like a stage and He is the director. :mgcheerful:

 

 

Yeah but how does he do it? haha. :)

 

He is God   :grin: God works in mysterious ways.



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God's not going to lay any unwanted burdens upon us. You clearly stated that you have no desire to be married and have children. The Lord searches the heart and knows our desires. You're not actively seeking a mate so you have nothing to worry about.   :thumbsup:



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You are a confirmed bachelor DRS?



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What do you guys think of the term, "you can't run from God".



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He goes on to say that if you do choose to marry, there is nothing wrong with it.  Paul was not married, and I gave you that scripture to show you from scripture there is nothing wrong or odd about you if you choose to remain single.  It is 100 percent your choice, and you shouldn't let others pressure you into marriage if you are not ready.

 

Then why does society and/or my parents let up already and give me a break. Is it so they can use me to fulfill their own desires?



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He goes on to say that if you do choose to marry, there is nothing wrong with it.  Paul was not married, and I gave you that scripture to show you from scripture there is nothing wrong or odd about you if you choose to remain single.  It is 100 percent your choice, and you shouldn't let others pressure you into marriage if you are not ready.

 

Then why does society and/or my parents let up already and give me a break. Is it so they can use me to fulfill their own desires?

 

It can never be their desires.It can only be your desire.If you do not want to get married then so be it.



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What do you guys think of the term, "you can't run from God".

  

 

I believe it means exactly what it says.

 

 

Matthew 12

36 But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment.

37 For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned."

 

 

 

 

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He goes on to say that if you do choose to marry, there is nothing wrong with it.  Paul was not married, and I gave you that scripture to show you from scripture there is nothing wrong or odd about you if you choose to remain single.  It is 100 percent your choice, and you shouldn't let others pressure you into marriage if you are not ready.

 

Then why does society and/or my parents let up already and give me a break. Is it so they can use me to fulfill their own desires?

 

 

I agree with Butero here.

 

I've dealt with the same things in the past, and am still single at 52. When I got tired of the constant questioning I told my family it was my business, and when they would not listen to a polite request, I told them to butt out. That was the only way they'd finall "get it." A few people got mad, but its my life and I'm going to live it the way God has planned not as they would like. The respect was grudging, but its still respect.

 

The subject doesn't get mentioned any longer, although much of that is due to some of my very liberal extended family not wanting to talk to me because I became one of those "Bible banging, foaming at the mouth, filthy conservative believers!" :24: (My sister's words, of all people. Meh, whatever. They know where I stand on the gospel. I could care less about politics.)






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