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How to reduce expectations from people

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Hi All,

 

I need some advice. I do not know how many of you have read 'If tomorrow comes' by Sidney Sheldon. If you have read it, you will be able to understand my issue easier.

 

One of my closest friends told me 'You are exactly like Tracy Whitney at the beginning of the book. When she goes to jail and the warden says someone has come to meet her, she immediately jumps to the conclusion that someone is going to save her. You too have dream like expectations like she does. Try to reduce it or you will get hurt'.

 

I know what the person said was right. I have dream like expectations when it comes to relationships. Can you tell me how to reduce it?

 

The general answers will be 'Pin your dream like expectations on God. And do not expect so much from people'. - With all due respect, I am working on it. But that cannot be the only solution. I need  to change my mind habits and way of looking at things differently.

 

My lifestyle: Very ordinary. I do not party everyday,nor do I jump from boyfriend to boyfriend (I don't even have one now). I study hard and have only one or two really close friends with whom I go out once a week.

 

Please give me some advice on the problem I stated.

I will be grateful especially if the veterans (who have lived and seen it all) will advise me.

 

If you haven't read the book, its an awesome book. If you want, type 'If tomorrow comes pdf' into google search and you can download the book for free. 

 

Best regards,

Emuna



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I need some advice....

 

One of my closest friends told me 'You are exactly like....

 

immediately jumps to the conclusion that someone is going to save her....

 

Can you tell me how to reduce it....

 

:thumbsup:

 

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Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalms 139:23-24

 

By Step

 

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Proverbs 3:5-7

 

By Step

 

What shall I render unto the LORD for all his benefits toward me? I will take the cup of salvation, and call upon the name of the LORD. Psalms 116:12-13

 

By Step

 

Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: but I will maintain mine own ways before him. Job 13:15

 

By Step

 

Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. Matthew 16:24

 

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Be Blessed Beloved Daughter Of The KING

 

The LORD bless thee, and keep thee:
The LORD make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee:
The LORD lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.

 

And they shall put my name upon the children of Israel; and I will bless them. Numbers 6:24-27

 

Love, Your Brother Joe



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Amen!  What Joe said.  

 

Welcome to you and God bless you!

 

Shalom, PrairWarur



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Hi All,

 

I need some advice. I do not know how many of you have read 'If tomorrow comes' by Sidney Sheldon. If you have read it, you will be able to understand my issue easier.

 

One of my closest friends told me 'You are exactly like Tracy Whitney at the beginning of the book. When she goes to jail and the warden says someone has come to meet her, she immediately jumps to the conclusion that someone is going to save her. You too have dream like expectations like she does. Try to reduce it or you will get hurt'.

 

I know what the person said was right. I have dream like expectations when it comes to relationships. Can you tell me how to reduce it?

 

The general answers will be 'Pin your dream like expectations on God. And do not expect so much from people'. - With all due respect, I am working on it. But that cannot be the only solution. I need  to change my mind habits and way of looking at things differently.

 

My lifestyle: Very ordinary. I do not party everyday,nor do I jump from boyfriend to boyfriend (I don't even have one now). I study hard and have only one or two really close friends with whom I go out once a week.

 

Please give me some advice on the problem I stated.

I will be grateful especially if the veterans (who have lived and seen it all) will advise me.

 

If you haven't read the book, its an awesome book. If you want, type 'If tomorrow comes pdf' into google search and you can download the book for free. 

 

Best regards,

Emuna

Yes, hope deferred makes the heart sick.

 

Jeremiah speaks to your subject:

 

Thus saith Jehovah: Cursed is the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from Jehovah.  6 For he shall be like  the heath in the desert, and shall not see when good cometh, but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness, a salt land and not inhabited.  7 Blessed is the man that trusteth in Jehovah, and whose trust Jehovah is.

 

Still, for those in the Body of Christ, it is practically impossible not to experience love from our brethren & cistern.  And when we concentrate on giving them love & not letting them down, methinks we experience great joy.
 



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Welcome to Worthy!!



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