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Communication - Main Ingredients?

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I've been thinking a lot about communication lately. For there to be good communication between spouses, relatives, friends, acquaintances, (or even people online! :) ) it is necessary not only to be understood but also try to understand the other person.

So here goes the first question on communication:

What are the main ingredients of good communication?

 



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I think this depends quite a bit on the person you want to communicate with, and what the subject matter is. Trying to understand their points and perspective, more generally where they are coming from, on what the topic is is likely universally true though.



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I started a list, but it got too long. Can you narrow down what part of communication you want to begin with, listening or speaking?

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The first ingredient should be "Listerine" for some fresh minty breath (in ones communications)

 

After that I'm stuck, I havent the slightest clue lol



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I started a list, but it got too long. Can you narrow down what part of communication you want to begin with, listening or speaking?

 

Either one brother. Both are important. How about listening to start off? Or if you'd rather we could talk about speaking? :thumbsup:



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What are the main ingredients of good communication?

Particularly for spouses, relatives, and friends... These 3 stand out to me...
 

1. Time – Being together is the first step. Enjoying each other’s company, learning to like the things the other person likes, etc.
Ecclesiastes 3:1, 7a
"To everything there is a season,
A time for every purpose under heaven… A time to keep silence, And a time to speak.

 

2. Confidence – Love is a beautiful thing. I’ve seen my wife blossom as we have grown together in our love. Love inspires confidence and drowns out fears.
1 John 4:18
"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love…”

 

3 . Transparency – Being honest with one another is important. Speaking the truth in love is also important. Sharing each others joys, heart aches, successes, failures, etc. is all a big part of good communication.
Ephesians 4:15
"But, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ.”
Prov. 10:10
"Whoever winks with the eye causes trouble and a babbling fool will come to ruin.”

 

 

Thoughts?

God bless,

GE



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This is mainly for friends

 

1.Talk about the other person and not about yourself.

2.Know what to avoid.

3.Find out about their interests and hobbies.

4.Bring up family.

5.Offer a genuine compliment.

6.Avoid only yes and no answers.



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i think Respect is a big one. When one is texting or watching tv when your mate is trying to talk.



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What are the main ingredients of good communication?

 

Eph 4:18 They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart.
 



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Listening and not just waiting to talk...



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Listening and not just waiting to talk...

 

Amen.

 

Jas 1:19-20  Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:  (20)  For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
 



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....good communication....

 

:thumbsup:

 

Good

 

Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. Psalms 46:10

 

Communication



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I think this depends quite a bit on the person you want to communicate with, and what the subject matter is. Trying to understand their points and perspective, more generally where they are coming from, on what the topic is is likely universally true though.

I would agree. Sometimes it's good to walk a mile in another person's shoes. Seeking to understand the other person's perspectives and points is universally true.  :thumbsup:



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What are the main ingredients of good communication?

 

Eph 4:18 They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart.
 

 

That's a good verse. What exactly are you trying to say brother?



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1.Talk about the other person and not about yourself.

2.Know what to avoid.

3.Find out about their interests and hobbies.

4.Bring up family.

5.Offer a genuine compliment.

6.Avoid only yes and no answers.

I think these are great Bo. :thumbsup:

Particularly the last one. I think it's very important to ask open ended questions and not just yes/no questions.

Example...
So how did the situation make you feel? (open ended)

vs

You felt sad right? (Yes/no)

Is that what you're talking about BO?
 



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i think Respect is a big one. When one is texting or watching tv when your mate is trying to talk.

Yes, that is true Desi. I would agree with you. Mutual respect is important. :thumbsup:

Not giving the person your full attention and "multitasking" can be a significant hindrance to perceived respect.



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Listening and not just waiting to talk...

This can be a bad habit for sure. Sometime we formulate our responses in our minds before actually listening and paying attention to what the other person is saying. Is this what you mean?



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1.Talk about the other person and not about yourself.
2.Know what to avoid.
3.Find out about their interests and hobbies.
4.Bring up family.
5.Offer a genuine compliment.
6.Avoid only yes and no answers.

I think these are great Bo. :thumbsup:
Particularly the last one. I think it's very important to ask open ended questions and not just yes/no questions.
Example...So how did the situation make you feel? (open ended)
vs
You felt sad right? (Yes/no)
Except if you are giving evidence in court. Yes and no answers can be very effective. I have driven defense attorneys mad by not volunteering anything except yes and no answers.......

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What are the main ingredients of good communication?

 

Eph 4:18 They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart.
 

 

That's a good verse. What exactly are you trying to say brother?

 

 

What I'm saying is..

 

it is necessary not only to be understood but also try to understand the other person.

 

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1.Talk about the other person and not about yourself.
2.Know what to avoid.
3.Find out about their interests and hobbies.
4.Bring up family.
5.Offer a genuine compliment.
6.Avoid only yes and no answers.

I think these are great Bo. :thumbsup:
Particularly the last one. I think it's very important to ask open ended questions and not just yes/no questions.
Example...So how did the situation make you feel? (open ended)
vs
You felt sad right? (Yes/no)
Except if you are giving evidence in court. Yes and no answers can be very effective. I have driven defense attorneys mad by not volunteering anything except yes and no answers.......

 

 

Lol brother true. But I think we're talking more on practical terms with those who we love. At least that is what I was hoping for.

i.e. spouses, relatives, friends, and even ppl online.






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